A person never really gets over the loss of someone whom he or she has felt close to over a period of time. Every now and then one has thoughts of that particular person and wishes he or she would be at one's side once again. No matter how many times one wishes for it, it will bever come true. Oftentimes, that one person that he or she had somewhat of a connection with is a person that one didn't like but did respect. For the relationship that one has formed with a particular person(s) can never be duplicated.
The relationship between parent and child, particularly between father and daughter, is a strong one. Yet, it can be somewhat of a touchy situation when a daughter loses her father in death at a young age. As the saying goes, life goes one, but it will be hard for her to accept anybody new into her life that isn't the man that raised her. The father/ daughter relationship will always stand the test of time. A time where a father simply wants his little girl to stay young and never ever grow up.
One can also be very close to his or her grandparent(s). In a way, it's like the generation that is just starting life learning from the generation that is soon going to end and is passing the knowledge and experience over the years to them. One such example is John Stevens and his grandparents from American Idol. His grandparents started him on his journey at a very young age by introducing him to old school music. Though they will eventually pass on, J.S. will always have them at his side rooting him on his journey of life.
The best friend relationship is one that can be considered a bond that will never be broken. Yet, a best friend can also be described about one's potential and/or significant relationship. A loss of one's best friend is like losing a part of yourself, like losing the other half of a two sided coin. Sometimes one tries to find that same relationship in another person but in reality it's not the same. One has to realize lost relationships can't be willed to happen, it's just a matter of letting time run its course.
If you think about it, if one looks back at the time spent with that person or persons, does it put a smile on your face? Someone once said that in life, we take for granted that one precious commodity when it pertains to people we care about and that is time. Time is always a factor when one wants to say something that one didn't get the opportunity to say. I end this thought by asking you a question:
Would you give up everything you have worked for up to this point, if you could be back with that one person(s)? My answer...yes I would.
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
Saturday, August 28, 2004
I Do
There will come a point in every person's life when thoughts of settling down and starting a family run through one's mind. It's somewhat of an uncertainty for both men and women if one will truly find that one person to spend his or her life with. A person can somewhat feel like they are on a game show trying to figure out who will be that one person standing behind the curtain without really seeing his or her face. Each of us will eventually find out who is behind the curtain and hopefully disappointing music won't be played.
Working with mostly women has given me somewhat of an insight of what a woman wants in a guy. For there is an endless list of qualities that women look for in a guy that she hopes meets those specific requirements. The number one quality on top of every women's list is honesty. Women want a guy that is able to tell the truth when she asks for it. Yet, it can be a double edged sword when the questions being asked can totally confuse any guy. In a way, it feels like taking a test and the possibility of passing it is an unknown.
For guys, it's just a matter of finding that one person who is willing to tolerate our annoying habits and the stupid things we will do. I can honestly say, as a guy, I know less about women since the day I first started to get interested in them 15 years ago. As it has been said, if one thinks he has all the answers, more questions will pop up. Women are absolutely an enigma, for they are truly the most mysterious and beautiful creatures on the face of the earth that we may never figure out and you know what, I'm ok with that.
In any case, a person can oftentimes feel that being single is the way to go. But on occasion, one will always have that urge to fill a void that is missing in his or her life. A life up to a particular point has been filled with work, family, and friends. If you think about it, nobody wants to be alone, for each of us wants to find true happiness. Some have already found it, many are still looking for it, and others have given up the search for it so to speak. One will find that one person to fill the void, it's just a matter of time.
Several months ago, someone asked me if I had the potential of being a father and my answer, I believe I do. Now, I ask myself this question, do I have the potential of being a suitable husband for any woman one day and my answer is that I have absolutely no idea. Men and women will have doubts and fears when it's their time to walk down the aisle. Fears and doubts will subside as both bride and groom lock eyes. In the end, it's their defining moments as two separate lives form into one as these two words are said...I DO.
Working with mostly women has given me somewhat of an insight of what a woman wants in a guy. For there is an endless list of qualities that women look for in a guy that she hopes meets those specific requirements. The number one quality on top of every women's list is honesty. Women want a guy that is able to tell the truth when she asks for it. Yet, it can be a double edged sword when the questions being asked can totally confuse any guy. In a way, it feels like taking a test and the possibility of passing it is an unknown.
For guys, it's just a matter of finding that one person who is willing to tolerate our annoying habits and the stupid things we will do. I can honestly say, as a guy, I know less about women since the day I first started to get interested in them 15 years ago. As it has been said, if one thinks he has all the answers, more questions will pop up. Women are absolutely an enigma, for they are truly the most mysterious and beautiful creatures on the face of the earth that we may never figure out and you know what, I'm ok with that.
In any case, a person can oftentimes feel that being single is the way to go. But on occasion, one will always have that urge to fill a void that is missing in his or her life. A life up to a particular point has been filled with work, family, and friends. If you think about it, nobody wants to be alone, for each of us wants to find true happiness. Some have already found it, many are still looking for it, and others have given up the search for it so to speak. One will find that one person to fill the void, it's just a matter of time.
Several months ago, someone asked me if I had the potential of being a father and my answer, I believe I do. Now, I ask myself this question, do I have the potential of being a suitable husband for any woman one day and my answer is that I have absolutely no idea. Men and women will have doubts and fears when it's their time to walk down the aisle. Fears and doubts will subside as both bride and groom lock eyes. In the end, it's their defining moments as two separate lives form into one as these two words are said...I DO.
Inner Voice
Have you ever stuck your foot in your mouth and wished you never said what you said?" Every person has done that and each one of us has that inner monologue inside their head which nobody can hear but yourself. Having that argument with yourself inside your own head can sometimes be pure comedy. If life were like a movie or a television show, the viewing audience would supposedly know what one is thinking. Many thoughts can go through a person's head that, if it were possible to hear them, a person would go mad.
As said in the beginning, every person at one time or another has stuck their foot in their mouth and wished he or she never said what they said. Oftentimes, what a person may be saying on the inside can bite one in the butt, so to speak, when it is said on the outside. One's own mouth can overpower his or her brain and that's when the shiznit will start to hit the fan. For the stupidest and craziest things can be said and most of the time it can never be taken back.
Each one of us has been in a situation where one is interested in a particular person. One can have that conversation within themselves as he or she tries to figure out what to say. A person can be cool, calm and collected on the outside as one goes for it, but on the inside it can be like the Titanic about to hit the iceberg and about to sink into the ocean. In some ways, the imaginary captain of one's brain could jump ship at any time and nobody is in charge to stop what is about to be said.
Sometimes a person has to use that proverbial filter in one's brain that completely stops a bad situation from becoming even worse. The proverbial test is in potential and or significant relationships where a person, mainly guys, will do something that will get him into hot water. It's always inevitable that a guy will say something stupid because the captain of our brain has just jumped ship. The best excuse one can give is that we are guys and we are sorry. Unfortunately, it's who we are and you have to live with it.
In retrospect, every person will have so many voices in one's head telling him or her what to do and where to go. In times of that proverbial inner struggle over one's personal and professional life as well, a person has to find that one single voice to guide him or her to the right decision, whatever that may be. For each of us will have that voice that keeps us going and pushes us on to our intended goal(s). In the end, one must listen to that one true voice...your inner voice.
As said in the beginning, every person at one time or another has stuck their foot in their mouth and wished he or she never said what they said. Oftentimes, what a person may be saying on the inside can bite one in the butt, so to speak, when it is said on the outside. One's own mouth can overpower his or her brain and that's when the shiznit will start to hit the fan. For the stupidest and craziest things can be said and most of the time it can never be taken back.
Each one of us has been in a situation where one is interested in a particular person. One can have that conversation within themselves as he or she tries to figure out what to say. A person can be cool, calm and collected on the outside as one goes for it, but on the inside it can be like the Titanic about to hit the iceberg and about to sink into the ocean. In some ways, the imaginary captain of one's brain could jump ship at any time and nobody is in charge to stop what is about to be said.
Sometimes a person has to use that proverbial filter in one's brain that completely stops a bad situation from becoming even worse. The proverbial test is in potential and or significant relationships where a person, mainly guys, will do something that will get him into hot water. It's always inevitable that a guy will say something stupid because the captain of our brain has just jumped ship. The best excuse one can give is that we are guys and we are sorry. Unfortunately, it's who we are and you have to live with it.
In retrospect, every person will have so many voices in one's head telling him or her what to do and where to go. In times of that proverbial inner struggle over one's personal and professional life as well, a person has to find that one single voice to guide him or her to the right decision, whatever that may be. For each of us will have that voice that keeps us going and pushes us on to our intended goal(s). In the end, one must listen to that one true voice...your inner voice.
Wednesday, August 25, 2004
Just A Number
A person will encounter in his or her own lifetime countless numbers that can undoubtedly change a person's life. Whether it be professional or personal, a certain number(s) can make a person ask themselves what one has or hasn't accomplished in one's life so far. In a way, it can also make a person more driven than ever to be in a level of high achievement. It's somewhat like having a mid-life crisis even though one hasn't reached mid-life yet. Each one of us has wondered where one will end up in said number of years.
The number 23, an insignificant number as it may be, but when put on a basketball jersey it is associated with Michael Jordan. A living legend and possibly one of the greatests basketball players associated with the game of basketball. For he is a sure candidate for the basketball hall of fame with the numbers he has racked up over the years. His numbers prove that he deserves to be in the hall of fame, but they are just numbers. It's the man who scored those numbers that basketball fans world over will remember.
The number 3 is how many times it took me to get my driver's license. It can be a frustrating thing when you have to go by the numbers in a manner of speaking in order to get that so-called ticket to freedom. As the saying goes, if at first you don't succeed, try try again. It's also been said that the 3rd time's the charm and it's a statement that holds so true. A person will try several times to attain something that means so much to him or her until that final try will clinch it so to speak.
The year 2000, to some it's a number that signified the future. A future in which every person would be driving flyers cars similar to the Jetsons. Moving sidewalks, teleportation, robot maids/butlers, were on people's expectations but all for not. The year 2000 also supposedly marked the end of the world where everything electronic would be shut down and mass chaos would erupt. One's imagination can oftentimes run wild but to no avail, and in the end, it was a number that thankfully did not live up to the hype.
In life, there will be certain numbers that a person will sometimes look forward to. 8/25/77, numbers which may not seem relevant to you but are important to me. For you see on August 25, 1977 I was born and 27 years later I'm still kickin'. A long time ago, I made 2 very significant wishes which I make every year. One of them you all know will hopefully be fulfilled and I'm still waiting for my other wish to come true. In any case, people will remember you not how old you are and in the end, age is just a number.
The number 23, an insignificant number as it may be, but when put on a basketball jersey it is associated with Michael Jordan. A living legend and possibly one of the greatests basketball players associated with the game of basketball. For he is a sure candidate for the basketball hall of fame with the numbers he has racked up over the years. His numbers prove that he deserves to be in the hall of fame, but they are just numbers. It's the man who scored those numbers that basketball fans world over will remember.
The number 3 is how many times it took me to get my driver's license. It can be a frustrating thing when you have to go by the numbers in a manner of speaking in order to get that so-called ticket to freedom. As the saying goes, if at first you don't succeed, try try again. It's also been said that the 3rd time's the charm and it's a statement that holds so true. A person will try several times to attain something that means so much to him or her until that final try will clinch it so to speak.
The year 2000, to some it's a number that signified the future. A future in which every person would be driving flyers cars similar to the Jetsons. Moving sidewalks, teleportation, robot maids/butlers, were on people's expectations but all for not. The year 2000 also supposedly marked the end of the world where everything electronic would be shut down and mass chaos would erupt. One's imagination can oftentimes run wild but to no avail, and in the end, it was a number that thankfully did not live up to the hype.
In life, there will be certain numbers that a person will sometimes look forward to. 8/25/77, numbers which may not seem relevant to you but are important to me. For you see on August 25, 1977 I was born and 27 years later I'm still kickin'. A long time ago, I made 2 very significant wishes which I make every year. One of them you all know will hopefully be fulfilled and I'm still waiting for my other wish to come true. In any case, people will remember you not how old you are and in the end, age is just a number.
Tuesday, August 24, 2004
Destiny
Each one of us has a talent that's considered a gift from God. The abilities that He has given to a particular person as young kids can ultimately entertain, as well as, put a smile on people's faces. It's been said that certain people were born to do certain things in life. Yet, can a person really determine where he or she is meant solely on one's talent? Someone once said that a person who predicts what one's life will be in the future can sometimes find that there is something much better for him or her elsewhere.
One can make assumption after assumption of what his or her life will be like based on their abilities. It can be somewhat of an embarrassing sight when a person's ego can get the better of him or her. It can be seen in the young, up and coming professional athletes where careers, which have just started, can end in a snap of a finger. Sometimes a person foresees a future that has never happened yet or probably will never happen. It mainly depends on how one carries themselves as one seeks to fulfill his or her future.
In a way, a person sees the pieces of his or her future and tries to put them together. If compared to, it would be like putting together a jigsaw puzzle that will determine the who, what, where, and when of one's life. But it can be really unclear which pieces go where because like a puzzle, life can get all jumbled up and confusion can set in. One can get easily confused on what path to take because one wrong turn could lead to disaster. It's just a matter of keeping a level head and simply working from the outside in.
Inevitably, a person can change the course of his or her own unforeseen future. Whether it be a tiny insignificant event or something big, it can most definitely change the direction of where one wants to go in life. In a way, it can be decided for you or you can decide for yourself. In some cases, the other direction that it leads to is something totally different in which one never really expected to go. A destination in which one can end up absolutely happy and content at where he or she has ended up.
One must control his or her path in life, and not let that path control you. It's somewhat like the blockbuster movie The Matrix in which Keanu Reeves' character Neo is told he is not "The One." Sometimes we must hear the supposed truth in order to fulfill what we are meant to do in life. Think about this, one's thoughts will become words; one's words will become actions; one's actions will become habits; one's habits will become character; and in the end one's character will become that person's destiny.
One can make assumption after assumption of what his or her life will be like based on their abilities. It can be somewhat of an embarrassing sight when a person's ego can get the better of him or her. It can be seen in the young, up and coming professional athletes where careers, which have just started, can end in a snap of a finger. Sometimes a person foresees a future that has never happened yet or probably will never happen. It mainly depends on how one carries themselves as one seeks to fulfill his or her future.
In a way, a person sees the pieces of his or her future and tries to put them together. If compared to, it would be like putting together a jigsaw puzzle that will determine the who, what, where, and when of one's life. But it can be really unclear which pieces go where because like a puzzle, life can get all jumbled up and confusion can set in. One can get easily confused on what path to take because one wrong turn could lead to disaster. It's just a matter of keeping a level head and simply working from the outside in.
Inevitably, a person can change the course of his or her own unforeseen future. Whether it be a tiny insignificant event or something big, it can most definitely change the direction of where one wants to go in life. In a way, it can be decided for you or you can decide for yourself. In some cases, the other direction that it leads to is something totally different in which one never really expected to go. A destination in which one can end up absolutely happy and content at where he or she has ended up.
One must control his or her path in life, and not let that path control you. It's somewhat like the blockbuster movie The Matrix in which Keanu Reeves' character Neo is told he is not "The One." Sometimes we must hear the supposed truth in order to fulfill what we are meant to do in life. Think about this, one's thoughts will become words; one's words will become actions; one's actions will become habits; one's habits will become character; and in the end one's character will become that person's destiny.
Monday, August 23, 2004
Soundtrack of Life
One's life can be somewhat like a movie, though the story may not relate to the music within it. Here's a question, have you ever watched a movie and wondered how they picked the songs for that particular movie? The right script combined with the right songs can either make or break a movie and determine box office success or disaster. But one's life isn't a movie, it's real life with a cast of characters that he or she knows and grew up with. Yet, the songs that are selected which define a movie can also define one's own life.
Life can certainly be one big adventure where a person can oftentimes feel like they're in a non-stop action and or adventure movie. The perfect songs to add in one's library are Bring Me To Life by Evanescence, Sammy Hagar's 55 and White Zombie's Never Gonna Stop. But more than anything, one must simply have in his or her song selection os Steppenwolf's Born to Be Wild in which the opening lyrics open with get your motor running. If you think about it, the minute we are born, our adventures are just beginning.
Our lives can also have tragedies where certain people close to us pass on. Inevitably, the songs associated with that particular person stay with us and have sentimental value. Such songs which can describe this could be My Immortal by Evanescence and Diamond Rio's One More Day. Yet, tragedies not only affect us but people we hardly even know. Take Sept. 11, 2001, and the song that defined everyone's life was Alan Jackson's song Where Were You. Tragedies can make us think about what's more important in our lives and that song proved it.
There will always be that one song that defines a movie, and in a way, will define our lives. Potential/Significant relationships and relationships in general are always the main focus. Countless songs that one could add into their personal library would be Avril Lavigne's I'm With you; Aerosmith's I Don't want to Miss a Thing; Goo Goo Dolls’ Iris; Bryan Adams' Everything I do(I Do it For You); Hero by Chad Kreoger and Josey Scott, the list goes on and on. I ask you this, what song defines your life right now?
Thinking about it, some of the songs that describe my life are the following: The Cowboy In Me by Tim McGraw; 55 by Sammy Hagar; Insane In Da Membrane by Cypress Hill; Party Up by DMX(an anthem where I work at); Numb by Linkin Park, I'm With You by Avril Lavigne; Right Here Waiting For You by Richard Marx; I Can't Dance by Genesis; I Don't To Miss A Thing by Aerosmith and to round it off, the song that defines my life at the moment is Feelin' Way To Good by Nickelback. In a nutshell, that is my soundtrack of life, so what is yours?
Life can certainly be one big adventure where a person can oftentimes feel like they're in a non-stop action and or adventure movie. The perfect songs to add in one's library are Bring Me To Life by Evanescence, Sammy Hagar's 55 and White Zombie's Never Gonna Stop. But more than anything, one must simply have in his or her song selection os Steppenwolf's Born to Be Wild in which the opening lyrics open with get your motor running. If you think about it, the minute we are born, our adventures are just beginning.
Our lives can also have tragedies where certain people close to us pass on. Inevitably, the songs associated with that particular person stay with us and have sentimental value. Such songs which can describe this could be My Immortal by Evanescence and Diamond Rio's One More Day. Yet, tragedies not only affect us but people we hardly even know. Take Sept. 11, 2001, and the song that defined everyone's life was Alan Jackson's song Where Were You. Tragedies can make us think about what's more important in our lives and that song proved it.
There will always be that one song that defines a movie, and in a way, will define our lives. Potential/Significant relationships and relationships in general are always the main focus. Countless songs that one could add into their personal library would be Avril Lavigne's I'm With you; Aerosmith's I Don't want to Miss a Thing; Goo Goo Dolls’ Iris; Bryan Adams' Everything I do(I Do it For You); Hero by Chad Kreoger and Josey Scott, the list goes on and on. I ask you this, what song defines your life right now?
Thinking about it, some of the songs that describe my life are the following: The Cowboy In Me by Tim McGraw; 55 by Sammy Hagar; Insane In Da Membrane by Cypress Hill; Party Up by DMX(an anthem where I work at); Numb by Linkin Park, I'm With You by Avril Lavigne; Right Here Waiting For You by Richard Marx; I Can't Dance by Genesis; I Don't To Miss A Thing by Aerosmith and to round it off, the song that defines my life at the moment is Feelin' Way To Good by Nickelback. In a nutshell, that is my soundtrack of life, so what is yours?
Saturday, August 21, 2004
Prove Yourself
Throughout our lives each of us will encounter "critics" who will question everything and anything that one does and says. In a way, it's like taking a test in which there are no right or wrong answers. Life itself can be somewhat considered one huge final exam where a person is being tested and he or she hasn't completely studied for it. Nobody can be prepared at what life can throw at you on a daily basis. It's just a matter of relying on one's own instincts and hopefully you will get the answers correct.
Oftentimes, these "critics" are constantly looking over one's shoulder, so to speak, supposedly thinking they have the best intentions for each of us. Such critics one will face are teachers/professors and of the working world his or her boss. One can sometimes feel their under the proverbial microscope and every little thing that doesn't meet their expectations should be met. It's like having your life on a schedule and one must be on a deadline in order to meet their expectations.
Yet, the two toughest "critics" that a person listens to, most of the time, are one's parents. For they too have expectations that they want to be met and have somewhat of a timeline set for our lives. But sometimes the plans that one's parents have for their lives don't necessarily match up with their own. A parent has to realize that their baby boy and/or baby girl is all grown up and will have to let go. It's their time to make their own mark in life and as the saying goes, you can't hold his or her hand forever.
In any case, the biggest "critic" that a person can listen to is yourself. We can sometimes live our lives second guessing ourselves and come to the point where we can metaphorically beat ourselves up with the decisions we make in life. But that's life, we live with the decision that we make, though it may take awhile to get over it. The scars of past mistakes will soon fade. It's just a matter of moving on, not looking back, though one may eventually stumble in the near future, but that is to be expected.
As I said in the beginning, life can be considered one huge test. There will be areas in one's life that he or she may either pass successfully or fail miserably. Life can throw each of us curve balls that either make a person throw in the towel or continue to keep fighting. There is no denying that one will always have "critics" in your ear, but it's been said that critics can always be proven wrong from time to time. Sometimes in order to prove yourself, a person must take a step back to move forward with one's journey of life.
Oftentimes, these "critics" are constantly looking over one's shoulder, so to speak, supposedly thinking they have the best intentions for each of us. Such critics one will face are teachers/professors and of the working world his or her boss. One can sometimes feel their under the proverbial microscope and every little thing that doesn't meet their expectations should be met. It's like having your life on a schedule and one must be on a deadline in order to meet their expectations.
Yet, the two toughest "critics" that a person listens to, most of the time, are one's parents. For they too have expectations that they want to be met and have somewhat of a timeline set for our lives. But sometimes the plans that one's parents have for their lives don't necessarily match up with their own. A parent has to realize that their baby boy and/or baby girl is all grown up and will have to let go. It's their time to make their own mark in life and as the saying goes, you can't hold his or her hand forever.
In any case, the biggest "critic" that a person can listen to is yourself. We can sometimes live our lives second guessing ourselves and come to the point where we can metaphorically beat ourselves up with the decisions we make in life. But that's life, we live with the decision that we make, though it may take awhile to get over it. The scars of past mistakes will soon fade. It's just a matter of moving on, not looking back, though one may eventually stumble in the near future, but that is to be expected.
As I said in the beginning, life can be considered one huge test. There will be areas in one's life that he or she may either pass successfully or fail miserably. Life can throw each of us curve balls that either make a person throw in the towel or continue to keep fighting. There is no denying that one will always have "critics" in your ear, but it's been said that critics can always be proven wrong from time to time. Sometimes in order to prove yourself, a person must take a step back to move forward with one's journey of life.
Friday, August 20, 2004
W.Y.S.I.W.Y.G
Each one of us has a person or persons that they have known for years or throughout their childhood. In other words, a best friend in which one can consider them brothers or sisters. Though not blood related, he or she can consider them an unofficial member of the family. A person can honestly say that his or her friends can describe and know you better than you ca. Yet, can you really describe your friends that he or she has known for years in deph, rather than going by the generic terminologies? Let me ask you this question: how well do you know your friends or for that matter your best friend?
Oftentimes, close friends can find something about you that one has never known before. Hidden talents that one never really wanted anyone to know about and kept secret, possibly till one reaches his or her golden ages. Sometimes, a person can have the mentality that if their friends might find out, then he or she will never hear the end of it. In reality though, they would accept it because they are your friends, but still one would be ragged on, in good fun of course. Someone once said, a person will know who his or her true friends are when one needs them the most.
The funny thing about having friends is that they can describe you in so many ways and most of the time they are correct. Other times you just have to look at each of your friends and wonder if they are just a few mcnuggets short of a happy meal. Such descriptions would be weird, funny, loyal, honest, willing to give the shirt off one's back, and much much more. One's own friends can be considered therapists, for they know you inside and out. You can talk with them about your hopes, dreams, fears, loves, and everything in between. When one wants to talk they lend an open ear without even charging a penny.
Partners in crime and running buddies, are just a couple of descriptions of duos or groups of friends. Different personalities, temperaments, ethnicities, melding into one cohesive unit. Each accepting one's quirkiness and annoying little habits that would make any other person beat the crap out of him or her. For there will be opinions and egos that will clash but that's what makes a friendship unique. Though hand to hand combat may erupt, eventually cooler heads will prevail and all will be right with the world so to speak.
For people who have known me for several years they know I have a wacky side and a serious side. I've been described as shy, quiet, deep, philosophical, an old soul, sarcastic, cynical, weird, strange, laid back, a bit temperamental, wacky, creative, goofy and if you can believe it evil all rolled into one short little package. I really don't count that last one because one of "my kids'' described me that way. In any case, a person can sometimes be truly surprised when one is described, it can either be dead on or dead wrong. We are who we are and there is no changing that, and in the end, What You See Is What You Get.
Oftentimes, close friends can find something about you that one has never known before. Hidden talents that one never really wanted anyone to know about and kept secret, possibly till one reaches his or her golden ages. Sometimes, a person can have the mentality that if their friends might find out, then he or she will never hear the end of it. In reality though, they would accept it because they are your friends, but still one would be ragged on, in good fun of course. Someone once said, a person will know who his or her true friends are when one needs them the most.
The funny thing about having friends is that they can describe you in so many ways and most of the time they are correct. Other times you just have to look at each of your friends and wonder if they are just a few mcnuggets short of a happy meal. Such descriptions would be weird, funny, loyal, honest, willing to give the shirt off one's back, and much much more. One's own friends can be considered therapists, for they know you inside and out. You can talk with them about your hopes, dreams, fears, loves, and everything in between. When one wants to talk they lend an open ear without even charging a penny.
Partners in crime and running buddies, are just a couple of descriptions of duos or groups of friends. Different personalities, temperaments, ethnicities, melding into one cohesive unit. Each accepting one's quirkiness and annoying little habits that would make any other person beat the crap out of him or her. For there will be opinions and egos that will clash but that's what makes a friendship unique. Though hand to hand combat may erupt, eventually cooler heads will prevail and all will be right with the world so to speak.
For people who have known me for several years they know I have a wacky side and a serious side. I've been described as shy, quiet, deep, philosophical, an old soul, sarcastic, cynical, weird, strange, laid back, a bit temperamental, wacky, creative, goofy and if you can believe it evil all rolled into one short little package. I really don't count that last one because one of "my kids'' described me that way. In any case, a person can sometimes be truly surprised when one is described, it can either be dead on or dead wrong. We are who we are and there is no changing that, and in the end, What You See Is What You Get.
Wednesday, August 18, 2004
One Step Closer
Each one of us has or has had an ultimate goal in life that he or she has been chasing after since one was a kid. As the saying goes by Kasey Kasem, keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars. It's every person's dream to make it big in a particular business that can either make you a somebody or yesterday's news in a manner of speaking. It's just a matter of having that fire within yourself to keep burning no matter what. In a way, one has to continue to climb up his or her personal Mt. Everest.
Achieving one's ultimate goal is like climbing a mountain. When one stands at the base, he or she will look up and realize that it's not going to be easy by any means. It will take heart, souls, guts, determination, and that never say die attitude to reach the top of the mountain. It's really unknown how long it will take for one to continually climb that proverbial ladder in order to reach the pinnacle of one's dream. In retrospect, one just has to pace themselves and he or she will get there in due time.
Sometimes one will have several setbacks when climbing the mountain that has their so called "prize" waiting for them. Such factors are the weather which can blow a person in many different directions and can literally beat down a person into submission. If you think about it, "The Powers That Be," in music and/or entertainment can lead you in every direction but up. A person has to constantly keep that safety line close at hand for at any time his or her rope, like their dream, can be cut off in an instant.
Fame and/or fortune, it's those two things that can drive a person into becoming what they want to be, a celebrity. Yet, does one want to become a celebrity with all the paparazzi hounding you and one's privacy being invaded all year round? It's basically up to that person and it's also the price one pays if he or chooses that life. Let me ask you this question and answer truthfully, would fame and fortune change you if you made it big? One just has to experience it for themselves if or when it happens in the near future.
Last Friday, the Olympics games began and people from around the world came together for the spirit of competition. Though some may or may not achieve that goal of winning gold, they at least climbed their own personal mountain to get there. My goal in life has always been to work for Disney in Orlando, and several days ago I found out my chance is close at hand. I'm still climbing up my mountain and you know what, I'm just one step closer in fulfilling a life-long dream that I have had since I was a kid.
Achieving one's ultimate goal is like climbing a mountain. When one stands at the base, he or she will look up and realize that it's not going to be easy by any means. It will take heart, souls, guts, determination, and that never say die attitude to reach the top of the mountain. It's really unknown how long it will take for one to continually climb that proverbial ladder in order to reach the pinnacle of one's dream. In retrospect, one just has to pace themselves and he or she will get there in due time.
Sometimes one will have several setbacks when climbing the mountain that has their so called "prize" waiting for them. Such factors are the weather which can blow a person in many different directions and can literally beat down a person into submission. If you think about it, "The Powers That Be," in music and/or entertainment can lead you in every direction but up. A person has to constantly keep that safety line close at hand for at any time his or her rope, like their dream, can be cut off in an instant.
Fame and/or fortune, it's those two things that can drive a person into becoming what they want to be, a celebrity. Yet, does one want to become a celebrity with all the paparazzi hounding you and one's privacy being invaded all year round? It's basically up to that person and it's also the price one pays if he or chooses that life. Let me ask you this question and answer truthfully, would fame and fortune change you if you made it big? One just has to experience it for themselves if or when it happens in the near future.
Last Friday, the Olympics games began and people from around the world came together for the spirit of competition. Though some may or may not achieve that goal of winning gold, they at least climbed their own personal mountain to get there. My goal in life has always been to work for Disney in Orlando, and several days ago I found out my chance is close at hand. I'm still climbing up my mountain and you know what, I'm just one step closer in fulfilling a life-long dream that I have had since I was a kid.
Monday, August 16, 2004
Imagine
A person's imagination is considered to be one of the single most useful tools he or she can use. It can take someone to far off places within one's own mind without going anywhere physically. As counselors, we often go to a place in our heads where we would rather be but can't go there physically. Inevitably, one's mind will drift to that place where he or she is spending their life with the one person that they feel that will offer everything one could possibly imagine. Oftentimes, one's imagination will get the better of him or her and the reality of it all can be somewhat of a let down in the end.
As kids, we used our imaginations all the time to create people and places that seemed real. In a way, we were like MacGyver, at an early age. Making up our own games with the toys that we had to work with was a challenge back in the day. Sometimes half the activities one planned as a kid would either injure us or almost kill us. It's no wonder how kids like me survived a childhood where using your imagination could be considered the most dangerous weapon indeed. If you think about it, a kid's imagination is endless and he or she will tend to lose it as he or she grows older.
As counselors, we are surrounded by constant madness and have to think outside the box. But there are times where each one of us just wants to escape the reality of what is happening around him or her by using one's imagination to go into another reality in one's own head. A reality where one is either getting a tan on the beach and the waves are fresh enough to swim in or surf on. Also one could imagine one's self in the comfort of his or her bed where each of us desperately want to be as the seconds, minutes, and hours go by which can sometimes feel like an eternity.
If you think about it, women, more so than men, have always imagined what their lives would be like when or if they met the person of their dreams. The basic idea of an ideal man that all women imagine will sweep them off their feet is tall, dark and handsome. Though it may or may come true, at least she has that one thing that every person has and that is hope. Like an action/mystery movie, there can also be twists that will take her story in a very different direction. A direction in which a woman will find that the man that will be standing in front her will be someone that she never expected to fall for.
William Shakespeare once said, "Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind. Love doesn't discriminate, it touches everybody in the heart and you don't need eyes to see that. For each of us has thought about the qualities we look for in that one special person and when we have found it, one just has to hold on to him or her. Think about your first love and how exciting it was. It's that love that can totally take a person by surprise which we never want to go away. Sometimes, finding true love isn't all that a person thought it would be....it's even better than he or she could possibly ever imagine.
As kids, we used our imaginations all the time to create people and places that seemed real. In a way, we were like MacGyver, at an early age. Making up our own games with the toys that we had to work with was a challenge back in the day. Sometimes half the activities one planned as a kid would either injure us or almost kill us. It's no wonder how kids like me survived a childhood where using your imagination could be considered the most dangerous weapon indeed. If you think about it, a kid's imagination is endless and he or she will tend to lose it as he or she grows older.
As counselors, we are surrounded by constant madness and have to think outside the box. But there are times where each one of us just wants to escape the reality of what is happening around him or her by using one's imagination to go into another reality in one's own head. A reality where one is either getting a tan on the beach and the waves are fresh enough to swim in or surf on. Also one could imagine one's self in the comfort of his or her bed where each of us desperately want to be as the seconds, minutes, and hours go by which can sometimes feel like an eternity.
If you think about it, women, more so than men, have always imagined what their lives would be like when or if they met the person of their dreams. The basic idea of an ideal man that all women imagine will sweep them off their feet is tall, dark and handsome. Though it may or may come true, at least she has that one thing that every person has and that is hope. Like an action/mystery movie, there can also be twists that will take her story in a very different direction. A direction in which a woman will find that the man that will be standing in front her will be someone that she never expected to fall for.
William Shakespeare once said, "Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind. Love doesn't discriminate, it touches everybody in the heart and you don't need eyes to see that. For each of us has thought about the qualities we look for in that one special person and when we have found it, one just has to hold on to him or her. Think about your first love and how exciting it was. It's that love that can totally take a person by surprise which we never want to go away. Sometimes, finding true love isn't all that a person thought it would be....it's even better than he or she could possibly ever imagine.
Saturday, August 14, 2004
Perfect
One can say for themselves that the life he or she has led so far has been interesting at best. It's been said that certain events in people's lives that each of us go through can never be undone. Those events can be considered imperfections which can't be erased no matter how many times one tries to sweep it under the proverbial rug so to speak. For we all, in some way, know it's coming but we have some or no idea the who, what, where, when and why? It's these imperfections that toughen up a person when life itself can literally give a surprise gift that you really never expected to get or sometimes never really wanted.
A person has to simply grin and bear with what has just happened or is about to happen. Oftentimes one thinks he or she is totally in control of the car being driven down his or her road of life. Inevitably that car, like our lives, can spin out of control and end up crashing hard into life's wall that we have all been against at one time or another. One just has to prepare himself or herself for the impact that is about to occur and hope to walk away unharmed. "Life Stinks", it's a saying that every person has said at some point in time and has seriously meant it. He or she simply has to deal with the awful smells of life that can sometimes make a person wave the proverbial white flag.
It's been said that every cloud has a silver lining. One just has to view the bright side of a potential bad situation if there is any. A person can somehow feel that the dark clouds that are looming over his or her head will never open up and let the sunshine through. One just has to find that one opening that will let in that one ray of light to brighten his or her day. Though one can't see it, that person simply has to look carefully for it because it is there. For if that person finds that opening then he or she can know that sunny days will be seen again. It's just a matter of trusting God to see you through the tough times of life that each of us will go through.
Many people's lives have been affected by forces of nature and end up losing everything that he or she owns. It's the people that we hardly know and yet feel for them because they lost homes, businesses, and family members. For each of these people will have to go back and salvage anything that is worth more than material possessions, in other words, a rebuilding process. A process where one starts back at square one when forces of nature such as a hurricane topples everything in front of one's eyes. If you think about it, we all start out with nothing and eventually our hard earned blood, sweat, and tears turn that nothing into something.
In retrospect, A person will continually fight their way back from darkness and back into the light so to speak. As the saying goes, "We may be down, but we're not out." For a person's home may be broken but the human spirit that lives inside each and every one of us can't. You have to have comfort in knowing that if you leave in God's hands he will protect you. You basically have to ask yourself what's more important in your life, material possessions which can be replaced or the people that can never be replaced, which do you choose? In the end, if you have your health, friends, and the people you love around you, then life as you know it, is absolutely perfect.
A person has to simply grin and bear with what has just happened or is about to happen. Oftentimes one thinks he or she is totally in control of the car being driven down his or her road of life. Inevitably that car, like our lives, can spin out of control and end up crashing hard into life's wall that we have all been against at one time or another. One just has to prepare himself or herself for the impact that is about to occur and hope to walk away unharmed. "Life Stinks", it's a saying that every person has said at some point in time and has seriously meant it. He or she simply has to deal with the awful smells of life that can sometimes make a person wave the proverbial white flag.
It's been said that every cloud has a silver lining. One just has to view the bright side of a potential bad situation if there is any. A person can somehow feel that the dark clouds that are looming over his or her head will never open up and let the sunshine through. One just has to find that one opening that will let in that one ray of light to brighten his or her day. Though one can't see it, that person simply has to look carefully for it because it is there. For if that person finds that opening then he or she can know that sunny days will be seen again. It's just a matter of trusting God to see you through the tough times of life that each of us will go through.
Many people's lives have been affected by forces of nature and end up losing everything that he or she owns. It's the people that we hardly know and yet feel for them because they lost homes, businesses, and family members. For each of these people will have to go back and salvage anything that is worth more than material possessions, in other words, a rebuilding process. A process where one starts back at square one when forces of nature such as a hurricane topples everything in front of one's eyes. If you think about it, we all start out with nothing and eventually our hard earned blood, sweat, and tears turn that nothing into something.
In retrospect, A person will continually fight their way back from darkness and back into the light so to speak. As the saying goes, "We may be down, but we're not out." For a person's home may be broken but the human spirit that lives inside each and every one of us can't. You have to have comfort in knowing that if you leave in God's hands he will protect you. You basically have to ask yourself what's more important in your life, material possessions which can be replaced or the people that can never be replaced, which do you choose? In the end, if you have your health, friends, and the people you love around you, then life as you know it, is absolutely perfect.
Thursday, August 12, 2004
Wrong Turns
As a person travels down one's road of life, he or she might find that it's not all smooth sailing in a manner of speaking. One can notice that it is somewhat difficult to locate where he or she wants to be and in the process get lost searching for that one thing that will make that person truly happy. Yet, the directions one takes can oftentimes lead to nowhere. Sometimes the plans that one intends to go by never work out and it's been said that all roads don't necessarily lead to one's intended destination.
A person, without even knowing it, can wind up on a one way street. In a way, one can have that perception that the person he or she is interested in is going in the same direction as you are. In reality, that person may be going in the opposite direction and doesn't share the same feelings as you do. One can feel somewhat like a person being hit from behind and the sudden impact causes the wind to be knocked out of you. A person has to just step on the brakes, compose themselves, and wait till the shock goes away.
There can be times when a person ends up going around in circles when one person is interested in another. It can be a frustrating situation in a person's life when one seeks the answers to the question(s) that he or she wants to know from that particular person. One can feel that he or she is in the exact same spot where they themselves began. The attempts that one makes can be considered futile and that one just has to give up the pursuit that has literally wasted much of your precious time.
Dead ends are always inevitable, for one can be constantly in search of that one exit that will lead you to true happiness. He or she may encounter roadblocks, traffic jams, and major vehicular accidents during your travels and detours will have to be taken. Those detours, though time consuming, are somewhat of a blessing. One has to realize that every person will eventually find that place where he or she always wanted to be. It's just a matter of not having road rage while one experiences these dead ends.
It's been said that life can be considered a one way street, if you're not paying attention you will be hit head on. In retrospect, it's that way with the male and female relationship. Nobody really knows how we end up on the same street and click with one another. It's somewhat of a mystery which may or may not be solved in the near future. In the end, a person can go through so many wrong turns within his or her life, until that one wrong turn eventually leads you to the person one has been patiently waiting for.
A person, without even knowing it, can wind up on a one way street. In a way, one can have that perception that the person he or she is interested in is going in the same direction as you are. In reality, that person may be going in the opposite direction and doesn't share the same feelings as you do. One can feel somewhat like a person being hit from behind and the sudden impact causes the wind to be knocked out of you. A person has to just step on the brakes, compose themselves, and wait till the shock goes away.
There can be times when a person ends up going around in circles when one person is interested in another. It can be a frustrating situation in a person's life when one seeks the answers to the question(s) that he or she wants to know from that particular person. One can feel that he or she is in the exact same spot where they themselves began. The attempts that one makes can be considered futile and that one just has to give up the pursuit that has literally wasted much of your precious time.
Dead ends are always inevitable, for one can be constantly in search of that one exit that will lead you to true happiness. He or she may encounter roadblocks, traffic jams, and major vehicular accidents during your travels and detours will have to be taken. Those detours, though time consuming, are somewhat of a blessing. One has to realize that every person will eventually find that place where he or she always wanted to be. It's just a matter of not having road rage while one experiences these dead ends.
It's been said that life can be considered a one way street, if you're not paying attention you will be hit head on. In retrospect, it's that way with the male and female relationship. Nobody really knows how we end up on the same street and click with one another. It's somewhat of a mystery which may or may not be solved in the near future. In the end, a person can go through so many wrong turns within his or her life, until that one wrong turn eventually leads you to the person one has been patiently waiting for.
Tuesday, August 10, 2004
To Be The Man
There is a saying that goes: ~winning isn't everything, it's the only thing.~ Is that true? Every person has that competitive spirit within themselves, though one may not admit it to one's self or others. In a way, it's like unleashing the beast that one wouldn't want to show like his or her darkside. Yet, it's in our blood and it defines us as human beings. In retrospect, no matter how much one can deny that he or she isn't competitive, that person will face the cold hard truth sooner or later.
That competitive nature can also fall under sibling rivalry which plays a big part in a brother and/or sister relationship. For both would be in competition in sports, academics, and in some cases the attention of one or both parents. It can be somewhat like a Brady Bunch syndrome in which the green-eyed monster of jealousy can rear its ugly head. Hopefully, none of us will come to the point of holding long standing grudges where hand to hand combat is the end result.
As one ventures into the working world, a person will use that competitiveness to make a name for themselves. It can be a cut-throat business and he or she will have to have that mindset of being one step ahead of the competition. It's just a matter of scouting the competition and learning more about what they are all about. It's been said that every strong foundation has a weakness. One has to simply find it and work it to your advantage. It's a dog eat dog world out there and hopefully you're not wearing milk bone underwear.
If you think about it, a person can compete with one's self, trying to set a mark of greater achievement and go beyond the limits one has put on themselves. One can oftentimes have that mentality that he or she needs to excel at everything one does. In other words, be absolutely perfect and yet we're not all perfect. We have our flaws and insecurities like everybody else, though we may not show it, he or she can hide it well. A person has to sometimes settle for second best, which one will learn as he or she gets older.
Someone once said, it doesn't matter who wins or loses, it's how you play the game. The pressure to always be number one can be stressful because you will always be looking over your shoulder to see who wants to take your crown in a manner of speaking. In the end, it's not how much a person wins that counts, it's how that person takes a defeat that matters. If one takes defeat with honor and dignity, then that person truly wins. For they win something much greater than money or a trophy, they win respect from their peers.
That competitive nature can also fall under sibling rivalry which plays a big part in a brother and/or sister relationship. For both would be in competition in sports, academics, and in some cases the attention of one or both parents. It can be somewhat like a Brady Bunch syndrome in which the green-eyed monster of jealousy can rear its ugly head. Hopefully, none of us will come to the point of holding long standing grudges where hand to hand combat is the end result.
As one ventures into the working world, a person will use that competitiveness to make a name for themselves. It can be a cut-throat business and he or she will have to have that mindset of being one step ahead of the competition. It's just a matter of scouting the competition and learning more about what they are all about. It's been said that every strong foundation has a weakness. One has to simply find it and work it to your advantage. It's a dog eat dog world out there and hopefully you're not wearing milk bone underwear.
If you think about it, a person can compete with one's self, trying to set a mark of greater achievement and go beyond the limits one has put on themselves. One can oftentimes have that mentality that he or she needs to excel at everything one does. In other words, be absolutely perfect and yet we're not all perfect. We have our flaws and insecurities like everybody else, though we may not show it, he or she can hide it well. A person has to sometimes settle for second best, which one will learn as he or she gets older.
Someone once said, it doesn't matter who wins or loses, it's how you play the game. The pressure to always be number one can be stressful because you will always be looking over your shoulder to see who wants to take your crown in a manner of speaking. In the end, it's not how much a person wins that counts, it's how that person takes a defeat that matters. If one takes defeat with honor and dignity, then that person truly wins. For they win something much greater than money or a trophy, they win respect from their peers.
Sunday, August 08, 2004
The Marathon
If you think about it, the minute a person is born into the world he or she is starting the race for the very first time. A race that can be compared to a marathon which has a beginning, middle, and ending. Every person is already running the marathon, which some are in the middle of and some are close to the finish line. Each one of us, while in the middle of the race, has a story to tell. A story that may be interesting to some, which is just everyday life to us and we live it to the fullest each day.
As young kids, we start out the beginning of the race sprinting full speed into the unknown world hyper as can be. We oftentimes don't listen to the authority figures that inform us to slow down and yet we have the tendency to ignore what they say and because of that we are prone to getting lost or injured. Ask kids, we've all of the story the tortoise and the hare, the moral is slow and steady wins the race. It's just a matter of having patience, we'll all get to the finish line soon.
As adults, we reach the middle of the race, and come to that point where one just has to pace themselves. In some ways, the people you meet while on that race can be somewhat of a running buddy. Pushing and cheering you on as the road of life gets tougher and tougher. Each of us will eventually run some uphill battles but it's those particular roads that we chose. One just has to keep their focus on the goal at hand and it really doesn't matter if you win or lose, as long as you finish the race that counts.
In the latter days of a person's life, one is just going on pure adrenaline. The pain that one felt back in the middle of the race is now gone and he or she is basically running on will power. For a person can ask themselves was the pain and suffering one went through worth it?. As one looks back at the miles of road that one has run over the years, it can be amazing how one has "survived" the race. Answer this question, When you finally reach the finish line, will you be satisfied with how you ran all those years?
I end this thought with a poem entitled, "Don't Quit."
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will.
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill.
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
and you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit,
rest of you must-but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns.
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
and many a failure turns about
when he might have won had he struck out.
Don't give up, though the pace seems slow.
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down.
How close he was to the golden crown,
Success is failure turned inside out.
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
and never you can tell just how close you are.
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stock to the fight when you're hardest hit.
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.
As young kids, we start out the beginning of the race sprinting full speed into the unknown world hyper as can be. We oftentimes don't listen to the authority figures that inform us to slow down and yet we have the tendency to ignore what they say and because of that we are prone to getting lost or injured. Ask kids, we've all of the story the tortoise and the hare, the moral is slow and steady wins the race. It's just a matter of having patience, we'll all get to the finish line soon.
As adults, we reach the middle of the race, and come to that point where one just has to pace themselves. In some ways, the people you meet while on that race can be somewhat of a running buddy. Pushing and cheering you on as the road of life gets tougher and tougher. Each of us will eventually run some uphill battles but it's those particular roads that we chose. One just has to keep their focus on the goal at hand and it really doesn't matter if you win or lose, as long as you finish the race that counts.
In the latter days of a person's life, one is just going on pure adrenaline. The pain that one felt back in the middle of the race is now gone and he or she is basically running on will power. For a person can ask themselves was the pain and suffering one went through worth it?. As one looks back at the miles of road that one has run over the years, it can be amazing how one has "survived" the race. Answer this question, When you finally reach the finish line, will you be satisfied with how you ran all those years?
I end this thought with a poem entitled, "Don't Quit."
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will.
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill.
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
and you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit,
rest of you must-but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns.
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
and many a failure turns about
when he might have won had he struck out.
Don't give up, though the pace seems slow.
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down.
How close he was to the golden crown,
Success is failure turned inside out.
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
and never you can tell just how close you are.
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stock to the fight when you're hardest hit.
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.
The Little Things
If you think about it, it's the little things in life that seem insignificant are oftentimes the most important things in a person's life. One can often take for granted the things that mean so much to a person that he or she rarely thinks about losing. A person can oftentimes think that they have a nice firm hold on what's important to them, but that mentality can oftentimes bite them in the butt so to speak. One can literally be blind to what a person has in front of them until it's gone.
A person can sometimes take for granted the limbs that he or she has until it is taken away from them. A simple thing such as walking or holding something in one's hand or arms can make a person appreciate what they have. If one loses that ability then he or she simply has to adjust and become stronger physically and mentally. A person who literally turned a negative into a positive is actor Christopher Reeves. Though he isn't able to walk, his spirits are high and he is fighting the good fight.
In some ways, a little thing like friendship can be taken for granted as well. It's been said that one can tell what type of person you are by the friends that you have. Yet, if one doesn't have any friends, it's a safe bet that you don't have any people skills or you're simply a loner. In any case, a valued friendship is one of the greatest assets that a person can invest in because they will have your back through thin and thin. Think about this, who else knows you better than yourself other than your parents?
Have you ever thought about what it would be like to lose any of your five senses? It's those senses a person uses that most that can be taken away in an instant. Even though a blind person has lost their sight, other senses such as touch and hearing will get stronger as time goes by. It's an adjustment that a person will have to make in order to go on with life. Think about this, a person who is blind can see the true beauty of the world better than a person who always has his eyes open and sees nothing.
In retrospect, it's the little things that count in a potential or significant relationship that make life worth living. Little things such as the way that person looks at you, that certain smile that he or she gives, that certain touch that a person gives that makes you feel special like a kiss. There are also those compliments that seem insignificant to you but mean so much to that person which will be remembered for years to come. In the end, keep noticing the little things, if not, then you lose what matters most...love.
A person can sometimes take for granted the limbs that he or she has until it is taken away from them. A simple thing such as walking or holding something in one's hand or arms can make a person appreciate what they have. If one loses that ability then he or she simply has to adjust and become stronger physically and mentally. A person who literally turned a negative into a positive is actor Christopher Reeves. Though he isn't able to walk, his spirits are high and he is fighting the good fight.
In some ways, a little thing like friendship can be taken for granted as well. It's been said that one can tell what type of person you are by the friends that you have. Yet, if one doesn't have any friends, it's a safe bet that you don't have any people skills or you're simply a loner. In any case, a valued friendship is one of the greatest assets that a person can invest in because they will have your back through thin and thin. Think about this, who else knows you better than yourself other than your parents?
Have you ever thought about what it would be like to lose any of your five senses? It's those senses a person uses that most that can be taken away in an instant. Even though a blind person has lost their sight, other senses such as touch and hearing will get stronger as time goes by. It's an adjustment that a person will have to make in order to go on with life. Think about this, a person who is blind can see the true beauty of the world better than a person who always has his eyes open and sees nothing.
In retrospect, it's the little things that count in a potential or significant relationship that make life worth living. Little things such as the way that person looks at you, that certain smile that he or she gives, that certain touch that a person gives that makes you feel special like a kiss. There are also those compliments that seem insignificant to you but mean so much to that person which will be remembered for years to come. In the end, keep noticing the little things, if not, then you lose what matters most...love.
Thursday, August 05, 2004
Passing The Torch
There comes a point in a person's life when one looks back at the years of service that he or she has done and asks, "Is it my time to go?" It's a question one tends to consider when one wants to pursue other aspirations for themselves personally and professionally. All the frustration, stress, and fatigue can add up mentally and physically on a person over the years. In retrospect, one could consider themselves a seasoned veteran due to logging so many hours while acquiring knowledge and experience in the process.
As a seasoned veteran, a person can look at the "rookies" that are wet behind the ears,so to speak, and wonder if they are ready to take on the responsibility that is about to be placed on them. One just has to learn through trial and error, if one doesn't learn the ropes so to speak then it's hasta la vista baby! One can't literally and metaphorically hold that person's hand and show that person what to do, he or she has to do it themselves. In a way, it's like riding a bike, it basically comes natural through practice.
Sometimes there are rules that go with a job, but as the saying goes, "You don't always have to play by the rules." Rules are made to be broken, but yet there are those that stick to them and tend to ruin a good thing. A person just has to remove that stick up their butt and go with the flow. Over time, a person can learn the tricks of the trade so to speak after working at a particular place for several years. It's like a handy unofficial guidebook that a person will write themselves and pass down if one wants to.
In any case, he or she can sometimes find that one person that has that burning desire to run with the ball so to speak. It's often been said that one can see themselves in a person that wants to strive to be something better. It's that person that he or she takes under his or her wing and teaches/mentors them like Robin with Batman. Though, there isn't a cool cave to hang around in, or costumes to wear, or the batmobile to ride in. It's just a matter of the student learning as much as he or she can from the teacher.
Every person remembers that one teacher/mentor that highly influenced their lives and made an impact on them in a big way. It's that one person that took it upon himself or herself to help and guide us, in turn, we help and guide others. It can be somewhat compared to martial arts as the master teaches the student. The skills and training one learns over time will be of great value for years to come. Inevitably, the master will have taught all that he or she knows and in the end, it's just a matter of passing the torch.
As a seasoned veteran, a person can look at the "rookies" that are wet behind the ears,so to speak, and wonder if they are ready to take on the responsibility that is about to be placed on them. One just has to learn through trial and error, if one doesn't learn the ropes so to speak then it's hasta la vista baby! One can't literally and metaphorically hold that person's hand and show that person what to do, he or she has to do it themselves. In a way, it's like riding a bike, it basically comes natural through practice.
Sometimes there are rules that go with a job, but as the saying goes, "You don't always have to play by the rules." Rules are made to be broken, but yet there are those that stick to them and tend to ruin a good thing. A person just has to remove that stick up their butt and go with the flow. Over time, a person can learn the tricks of the trade so to speak after working at a particular place for several years. It's like a handy unofficial guidebook that a person will write themselves and pass down if one wants to.
In any case, he or she can sometimes find that one person that has that burning desire to run with the ball so to speak. It's often been said that one can see themselves in a person that wants to strive to be something better. It's that person that he or she takes under his or her wing and teaches/mentors them like Robin with Batman. Though, there isn't a cool cave to hang around in, or costumes to wear, or the batmobile to ride in. It's just a matter of the student learning as much as he or she can from the teacher.
Every person remembers that one teacher/mentor that highly influenced their lives and made an impact on them in a big way. It's that one person that took it upon himself or herself to help and guide us, in turn, we help and guide others. It can be somewhat compared to martial arts as the master teaches the student. The skills and training one learns over time will be of great value for years to come. Inevitably, the master will have taught all that he or she knows and in the end, it's just a matter of passing the torch.
Trust Me
It's a phrase that can scare a person when those two words are said. Putting your trust in someone one barely even knows or actually knows is a risky venture in itself. It's like gambling with one's own safety on the line and with a roll of the dice, he or she is willing to risk it all. Putting it all on the line if you will and hopefully those proverbial dice will not land on snake-eyes. A person has to be somewhat cautious when meeting new people because you never really know his or her true intentions. It's up to that person's instincts on whether to go ahead and further a friendship or potential and/or significant relationship.
Trust can play a big part in a friendship when total strangers come together and connect in certain ways. One such connection is through mere stupidity which in some ways is always an ice breaker. In any case, there is an unwritten rule among guys that a trusted friend never moves in on one's girlfriend/boyfriend. When that trust is broken, then the friendship is severed and all lines of communication are broken off. Yet, the trust that was broken can and will be mended, but it will take time and patience. It's just a matter of who takes the first step and part of being a friend is humility and knowing when to say, "I'm Sorry”.
Sometimes certain people click and the connection or vibe one feels for another can often be overwhelming. Overwhelmingly enough it's that one particular person he or she can't get out of his or her head. For it's just a matter of putting one's own trust in your emotions and/or feelings which will hopefully either work for you or against you. It's like opening Pandora's box, once he or she opens it, anything and everything inside will come out. Each of us have had that moment or two where one shared their innermost thoughts and feelings with that particular person, only to have those feelings not returned back.
In any case, it's hard really to trust someone when he or she has had it continuously broken. As human beings we can sometimes be too trusting to the point where each of us can have the rug swept from under us so to speak. We've all had people in our lives that we trusted and then stabbed us in the back. That person you once knew is now seen as a person that can't be trusted. It may take either days, months, years, or decades to fix, but oftentimes one may not want to fix it at all. It's an issue that can have a particular person not trust anybody at all and can turn someone totally bitter against the male or female species.
Frank Crane once said, ~You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough. A person has to show that he or she can be trusted in order for a friendship or relationship to progress. There will always be people crossing our paths that will try to pull the wool over our eyes.~ Let me ask you this question: Who are the people that you trust the most and will have your back whenever you need them? For most, the answers come quickly but for others it's an unknown. Who do you absolutely trust to catch you when you start to fall or have fallen? In the end, trust can either kill you or set you free.
Trust can play a big part in a friendship when total strangers come together and connect in certain ways. One such connection is through mere stupidity which in some ways is always an ice breaker. In any case, there is an unwritten rule among guys that a trusted friend never moves in on one's girlfriend/boyfriend. When that trust is broken, then the friendship is severed and all lines of communication are broken off. Yet, the trust that was broken can and will be mended, but it will take time and patience. It's just a matter of who takes the first step and part of being a friend is humility and knowing when to say, "I'm Sorry”.
Sometimes certain people click and the connection or vibe one feels for another can often be overwhelming. Overwhelmingly enough it's that one particular person he or she can't get out of his or her head. For it's just a matter of putting one's own trust in your emotions and/or feelings which will hopefully either work for you or against you. It's like opening Pandora's box, once he or she opens it, anything and everything inside will come out. Each of us have had that moment or two where one shared their innermost thoughts and feelings with that particular person, only to have those feelings not returned back.
In any case, it's hard really to trust someone when he or she has had it continuously broken. As human beings we can sometimes be too trusting to the point where each of us can have the rug swept from under us so to speak. We've all had people in our lives that we trusted and then stabbed us in the back. That person you once knew is now seen as a person that can't be trusted. It may take either days, months, years, or decades to fix, but oftentimes one may not want to fix it at all. It's an issue that can have a particular person not trust anybody at all and can turn someone totally bitter against the male or female species.
Frank Crane once said, ~You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough. A person has to show that he or she can be trusted in order for a friendship or relationship to progress. There will always be people crossing our paths that will try to pull the wool over our eyes.~ Let me ask you this question: Who are the people that you trust the most and will have your back whenever you need them? For most, the answers come quickly but for others it's an unknown. Who do you absolutely trust to catch you when you start to fall or have fallen? In the end, trust can either kill you or set you free.
Wednesday, August 04, 2004
The Honest Truth
The saying goes that honesty is the best policy. A policy that one breaks as a young kid, into a teenager, and up into his or her adult years. We've all lied at some point in our lives, whether it be to our parents, teacher or professor, friends, family, significant others, and spouses. A person can't deny the fact that lying is wrong, but one can't really help it. In a way it's oftentimes a matter of sparing someone's feelings, but in retrospect, it's basically part of human nature. A defense mechanism in which one is backed into somewhat of a corner, that person avoids the truth, whatever it may be.
If you observe little kids, they speak the truth whether or not people want to hear it or not. It's just their nature, there is no filter for what the mouth is about to say before the brain is trying to stop him or her from saying it. It can be an embarrassing moment when these kids speak the truth when the time is not right. They speak their minds even though they don't know what they are talking about half the time. It's often fun for us counselors to interrogate kids into telling the truth by means of reverse psychology or by not doing anything at all. They will usually mess it up for themselves and the punishments will be swift, but fair.
Jack Nickolson said in the movie, A Few Good Men, ~You want the truth, You can't handle the truth!~ It's personally one of my most favorite movie lines of all time and it is somewhat related to being an honest person. Each one of us at some point and time had to face the truth concerning our lives either professionally or personally. A person has to sometimes face facts and accept the truth even though we may not like it. It can be somewhat of any eye-opening experience when the reality of what has happened slaps you in the face so to speak. Sometimes, a person has to face the truth even though it may hurt or sting.
The saying goes that the truth shall set you free. Have you ever felt guilty lying to someone and did you ever give it a second thought about lying to him or her afterwards? The lies that a person tells can overlap each other until one can no longer distinguish which is fact or fiction. The lies that one tells will come back and haunt a person so to speak and no amount of great acting will help him or her out of that situation. In a way, those lies one tells can be a proverbial weight on his or her shoulders that will be dragged around his or her entire life. It's just a matter of telling the truth and one won't have to carry that heavy burden in the long run.
If you think about it, it's that way with significant and potential relationships as well. You have to be honest with yourself and to the person you care about if you want that relationship to succeed. A relationship built on lie after lie will simply fall apart and who really wants a relationship built on that? Working with mostly women in the past 5 years has given me a little insight being that I've been dragged into many conversations about why guys are morons. In any case, the number one quality that women want in a relationship, more so than guys is honesty. If both men and women have that, then a stronger bond will be formed and that my friend is the honest truth.
If you observe little kids, they speak the truth whether or not people want to hear it or not. It's just their nature, there is no filter for what the mouth is about to say before the brain is trying to stop him or her from saying it. It can be an embarrassing moment when these kids speak the truth when the time is not right. They speak their minds even though they don't know what they are talking about half the time. It's often fun for us counselors to interrogate kids into telling the truth by means of reverse psychology or by not doing anything at all. They will usually mess it up for themselves and the punishments will be swift, but fair.
Jack Nickolson said in the movie, A Few Good Men, ~You want the truth, You can't handle the truth!~ It's personally one of my most favorite movie lines of all time and it is somewhat related to being an honest person. Each one of us at some point and time had to face the truth concerning our lives either professionally or personally. A person has to sometimes face facts and accept the truth even though we may not like it. It can be somewhat of any eye-opening experience when the reality of what has happened slaps you in the face so to speak. Sometimes, a person has to face the truth even though it may hurt or sting.
The saying goes that the truth shall set you free. Have you ever felt guilty lying to someone and did you ever give it a second thought about lying to him or her afterwards? The lies that a person tells can overlap each other until one can no longer distinguish which is fact or fiction. The lies that one tells will come back and haunt a person so to speak and no amount of great acting will help him or her out of that situation. In a way, those lies one tells can be a proverbial weight on his or her shoulders that will be dragged around his or her entire life. It's just a matter of telling the truth and one won't have to carry that heavy burden in the long run.
If you think about it, it's that way with significant and potential relationships as well. You have to be honest with yourself and to the person you care about if you want that relationship to succeed. A relationship built on lie after lie will simply fall apart and who really wants a relationship built on that? Working with mostly women in the past 5 years has given me a little insight being that I've been dragged into many conversations about why guys are morons. In any case, the number one quality that women want in a relationship, more so than guys is honesty. If both men and women have that, then a stronger bond will be formed and that my friend is the honest truth.
Sunday, August 01, 2004
Fear Factor
There is a saying that goes that there is nothing to fear but fear itself. Yet there are some fears that a person can't get past which can hinder someone from moving forward on their journey of life. Statistics have shown that the number one leading fear among many Americans is the fear of public speaking followed by death. It's that innate fear of eyes on you and one mistake may cause an embarrassing situation. For the fears that a person has can travel with a person until the latter years of a person's life.
Every person has a particular fear or phobia that will never go away. Some people are afraid of the dark, others snakes and spiders, for many clowns, and in some cases Richard Simmons. There are a plethora of different fears in the world that are too many to mention. Fears such as claustrophobia which is the fear of enclosed spaces. One may have the perception that the walls are closing in on them. It may be only in that person's mind but that fear can overwhelm a person to the point of extreme anxiety.
In any case, life is all about trying to conquer those fears that seem to beat us, so to speak. For most people, that fear of failure can push a person to reach a standard of excellence that one sets for themselves. In a way, we try to be perfect, but as the saying goes nobody is perfect. Prefection, in most cases, can push that person to the brink or a mental or physical breakdown. But in a way, a person must fail at something in order to prove that he or she is only human after all.
Someone once said,~ That it's alright to be afraid because it shows that we're all human beings. That fear can reveal itself in many different aspects of life such as meeting new people, finding that one who you feel is the right one, and potentially marrying that person.~ It can also be said that one can be afraid of the aspect of being a parent. One just has to trust in their own instincts and not let that fear take over. Not every parent does it the same way, one just has to find their own niche and stick to it.
In a way, life is somewhat compared to the NBC hit show Fear Factor. It's all about facing the tough challenges ahead of us and the fears that go along with it. One can learn that it's ok to be afraid as long as you face those challenges head on and don't back down. Though we don't consume "gourmet" food and win a cash prize, we attain something much greater and that is knowing you conquered your fears. In the end, we want Joe Rogan to say to us that we stared fear in the face and that fear was most definitely not a factor.
Every person has a particular fear or phobia that will never go away. Some people are afraid of the dark, others snakes and spiders, for many clowns, and in some cases Richard Simmons. There are a plethora of different fears in the world that are too many to mention. Fears such as claustrophobia which is the fear of enclosed spaces. One may have the perception that the walls are closing in on them. It may be only in that person's mind but that fear can overwhelm a person to the point of extreme anxiety.
In any case, life is all about trying to conquer those fears that seem to beat us, so to speak. For most people, that fear of failure can push a person to reach a standard of excellence that one sets for themselves. In a way, we try to be perfect, but as the saying goes nobody is perfect. Prefection, in most cases, can push that person to the brink or a mental or physical breakdown. But in a way, a person must fail at something in order to prove that he or she is only human after all.
Someone once said,~ That it's alright to be afraid because it shows that we're all human beings. That fear can reveal itself in many different aspects of life such as meeting new people, finding that one who you feel is the right one, and potentially marrying that person.~ It can also be said that one can be afraid of the aspect of being a parent. One just has to trust in their own instincts and not let that fear take over. Not every parent does it the same way, one just has to find their own niche and stick to it.
In a way, life is somewhat compared to the NBC hit show Fear Factor. It's all about facing the tough challenges ahead of us and the fears that go along with it. One can learn that it's ok to be afraid as long as you face those challenges head on and don't back down. Though we don't consume "gourmet" food and win a cash prize, we attain something much greater and that is knowing you conquered your fears. In the end, we want Joe Rogan to say to us that we stared fear in the face and that fear was most definitely not a factor.
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