To Be The Man

There is a saying that goes: ~winning isn't everything, it's the only thing.~ Is that true? Every person has that competitive spirit within themselves, though one may not admit it to one's self or others. In a way, it's like unleashing the beast that one wouldn't want to show like his or her darkside. Yet, it's in our blood and it defines us as human beings. In retrospect, no matter how much one can deny that he or she isn't competitive, that person will face the cold hard truth sooner or later.

That competitive nature can also fall under sibling rivalry which plays a big part in a brother and/or sister relationship. For both would be in competition in sports, academics, and in some cases the attention of one or both parents. It can be somewhat like a Brady Bunch syndrome in which the green-eyed monster of jealousy can rear its ugly head. Hopefully, none of us will come to the point of holding long standing grudges where hand to hand combat is the end result.

As one ventures into the working world, a person will use that competitiveness to make a name for themselves. It can be a cut-throat business and he or she will have to have that mindset of being one step ahead of the competition. It's just a matter of scouting the competition and learning more about what they are all about. It's been said that every strong foundation has a weakness. One has to simply find it and work it to your advantage. It's a dog eat dog world out there and hopefully you're not wearing milk bone underwear.

If you think about it, a person can compete with one's self, trying to set a mark of greater achievement and go beyond the limits one has put on themselves. One can oftentimes have that mentality that he or she needs to excel at everything one does. In other words, be absolutely perfect and yet we're not all perfect. We have our flaws and insecurities like everybody else, though we may not show it, he or she can hide it well. A person has to sometimes settle for second best, which one will learn as he or she gets older.

Someone once said, it doesn't matter who wins or loses, it's how you play the game. The pressure to always be number one can be stressful because you will always be looking over your shoulder to see who wants to take your crown in a manner of speaking. In the end, it's not how much a person wins that counts, it's how that person takes a defeat that matters. If one takes defeat with honor and dignity, then that person truly wins. For they win something much greater than money or a trophy, they win respect from their peers.