Saturday, August 11, 2018

My Own Thing

Someone once said, ~The happiest couples never have the same character. They just have the best understanding of their differences.~ Without a doubt, one of the things that makes a strong, worthwhile relationship work between two people is their independence in regards to allowing each other to pursue their own personal interests. For its a truly interesting and though provoking situation indeed concerning 2 completely different individuals who are able to have a deep understanding when it comes to embracing one another's independent side. What it primarily comes down to is having a partner who knows certain or every aspect of their significant other's weird/unique/nerdy/geeky individuality pertaining to what one thoroughly enjoys doing.

If you think about it, there are times when taking time for yourself while being in a committed relationship are deemed opportunities that should be never be passed up. In other words, being able to take a step back from time to time in order to all intense and purposes recharge the mental, emotional, physical, as well as spiritual batteries that tend to get drained, so to speak. When I say drained, it doesn't necessarily have a negative connotation as its more of a positive reflection in which you know taking a moment for yourself is considered to be tremendously cathartic, especially for one's own sanity. Essentially, to take time away from your best friend for life can considerably strengthen the already strong bond established between each other.

As I said before, its a truly interesting and thought provoking situation indeed concerning 2 completely different individuals who are able to have a deep understanding when it comes to embracing one another's independent side. Of course, to attain that aforementioned deep understanding there should most definitely be open communication to honestly discuss being able to avoid becoming absolutely burned out, in a manner of speaking, due to the relationship itself. Thinking about it further, by doing this there's a much stronger and not to mention deeper ongoing understanding to the point where you're able to gradually regain one's individuality back one has a tendency to possibly be lost or forgotten after in a committed relationship for quite some time.

Let me ask this question to those in a significant relationship, even though there's a shared mutual strength are you able to encourage one another's independent individuality? I think it's safe to say to have someone in your life who isn't reliant on having their wants and needs being constantly fulfilled shows he/she has a much deeper understanding of having your own space whenever it's warranted. Oftentimes, being encouraged by your best friend for life to reconnect with yourself or vice versa doesn't always mean doing it alone as it provides a reconnection with your best buds/gal pals. In any case, the shared encouragement to go through a personal self rejuvenation of sorts gives himself/herself and the relationship itself a renewed sense of a brighter future together.

In retrospect, there are times when being in a relationship has its fair share of conflict and stressful moments so much so a quintessential time out should be called. A time out in which there's an open forum of what's wrong and how it can potentially be fixed. You see, a lack of open communication will only cause even more stress related conflict. Ultimately, matters of healing the mind, body, and heart for the sake of metaphorically/literally coming back to not just yourself, but to your partner in crime is at times a vital necessity to grow closer together instead of apart in love/true love. In the end, when or if it ever gets to the point where there's a feeling of getting burned out in the relationship don't be afraid to openly talk it out to discuss with him/her of wanting to do my own thing.

Saturday, July 21, 2018

Rise To The Occasion

Someone once said, ~Live, love, laugh. Volleyball the main necessities. Love like you never loved before. Live like you are going to die tomorrow, and play like you mean it!~ If you think about it, a strong worthwhile relationship and the game of volleyball are synonymous with each other. How and in what way you might be asking yourself? You see, they both deal in being able to face a strong and quite possibly unbeatable opponent whose strength, as well as abilities can seemingly be viewed unmatched, which is love/true love. For it's certainly a tough task to undertake indeed knowing how it can leave any person or couple for that matter absolutely overwhelmed with a plethora of mixed thoughts, feelings and/or emotions as you're playing with the volleyball that is a representation of 2 hearts potentially becoming 1.

Without a doubt, one of the most important aspects in the game of volleyball other than teamwork is communication, which relates to being in a strong, worthwhile relationship. Essentially, establishing effective communication builds cohesively, effective unity and not to mention tremendous success in regards to matters of the heart involving a best friend for life. Thinking about it further, being able to interpret and actually understand your teammate's/partner's verbal, as well as non verbal signals shows a profound ability in sharing any difficulties whatever they may be. What it primarily comes down to is to not let yourself carrying on your own shoulders the immense responsibilities in guiding each other in successfully scoring, in a manner of speaking, minor/major relationship points when they really matter.

As I said before, love/true love is considered to be an opponent whose unmatched strength and abilities can most definitely be viewed as overwhelming leading you to running around within you're thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions. Why? You see, it never gets tired thus having endless of amounts of stamina making it considerably tougher for a team of 2 knowing they're going to incredibly battle tested in more ways than one. Trust, faith, honesty, respect, understanding, and commitment combined as a whole instead of completely separate aspects makes a huge impact when facing the odds stacked against 2 players on the other side of the proverbial relationship net. True, it's a scary notion to think about the dominance of utter heartbreak it has befallen past "teams" but despite that the both of you forge ahead with game faces on, so to speak.

Let me ask you this question to any current or past volleyball players out there, what is the one thing you don't ever want to find yourself or another teammate doing while competing? If you answered looking down you'd be correct. I think it's safe to say you always want to look up and focused on where the volleyball is at all times because if you aren't closely paying attention then points are scored against you. In a sense, that's how two people who have committed themselves to each other in all intense and purposes be playing the game should always be doing. In other words, focusing up on each other's heart/volleyball to the point where you/him/her do everything in your/his/her power to mentally and emotionally dig after it in any/all directions from not ever hitting the floor to where it will continue to be in play at whatever the cost.

In retrospect, earning the bumps and bruises of a strong worthwhile love isn't easy by any stretch of the imagination. Granted, it would be simple enough to avoid all the effort, time, and hard work altogether in order to be crowned the quintessential champions of true happiness but the victory wouldn't in a way taste such as sweet. Oftentimes, by completely opening yourself up there's gradual reveal of a level of vulnerability to where you know the guy/girl in question is right there with you every step of the way even if you don't see him/her. Vice versa as well. In the end, there will always be great obstacles in facing the crafty volleyball veteran otherwise known as love/love; but if there's a willingness to do the hard work, to never quit, scramble to dig for every point, and be in constant communication with each other then my friend the both of you will rise to the occasion spiking down together any challenging situation that lies ahead.

Friday, July 06, 2018

Dancing On My Own

Abira Mukherjee once said, ~Love is a mystery, love is passion, love is one of your truest emotions. It can take your breath away and leave you dancing in your hearts way.~ As I've said before, when it comes to matters of the heart in regards to the dating scene it can in a sense be like stepping into a crowded dance floor. True, there can be a plethora of mixed emotions to deal with, especially if you're truly interested in a certain someone one wants to set their sights on to dance with. In any case, it can most definitely be either a fun or nerve racking situation indeed in trying to find your own rhythm while being able to hopefully establish a strong, worthwhile rhythm located somewhere within the metaphorical crowded dance floor, in a manner of speaking.

Without a doubt, we've all heard the phrase dance like nobody is watching and it can certainly pertain to living the single life involving the dating scene. I think every person has experienced while living it up and dancing to the beat of their own heart of noticing a possible dance partner you are/have been interested in only to find he/she is already dancing with someone. Thinking about it further, it can cause anyone to do either of the following 2 things: leave you completely thrown off to where you end just watching from a distance OR step forward to cut in whereby making your presence known to him/her. Essentially, there lies the difficulty in stepping out in order to want to be seen and at the same time the fear of not being seen at all by the guy/girl in question.

If you think about it, dealing with the aforementioned plethora of mixed emotions has the propensity to leave any individual dancing in circles within themselves so to speak. Unfortunately, it's in a negative rather than a postive way as your own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions spin you around internally in such a complicated, as well as confusing way it drives you absolutely insane. For it's those 3 aspects previously mentioned that insanely spin you around internally to the point where you in all intents and purposes are backed in a corner not only figuratively, but literally as well. So, has anyone felt or is feeling like you're never going to be able to get yourself out of the corner representing heartbreak, the friend zone, or whatever the case may be?

Let me ask this question to those living the single life who are on the quintessential crowded dance floor, have you found yourself getting lost in the crowd or have you been able to maneuver your way through to the best of your ability? I think its safe to say being on an actual dance floor and the dating scene have their similarities in a number of ways like taking notice, the initial approach, possible rejection, potential acceptance, etc. Of course, this happens in the darkness that is a representation of the utter uncertainty of whether or not the connection made will continue once you both step out into the light and the music still plays on instead of dies out. What it primarily comes down to is to not quickly part ways when it gets too hard after losing the relationship dance rhythm.

Someone said, ~If you stumble, make it part of the dance.~ In retrospect, love/true love is all about stumbling in hopes of coming face to face with your forever dance partner somewhere within the crowded dance floor of the dating scene. Fortunately, for a lucky number of people they've stepped out from the darkness and into the light with their potential/significant other knowing the music hasn't stopped for the two of them. However, for those who haven't yet met him or her you have your best buds/gal pals to keep you company while living it up despite going through the mental and emotional struggle. In the end, from time to time each one of us who are still out on the dance floor have that one initial thought of how long will I be dancing on my own, which is a song by Swedish singer/songwriter/producer Robyn but performed in a much slower version by Britain's Got Talent alum Callum Scott.

Monday, June 11, 2018


Hall of Fame Laker center Kareem Abdul-Jabbar once said, ~Great players are willing to give up their personal achievements for the achievement of the group. It enhances everybody.~ Let me ask you this question in regards to Michael Jordan and Lebron James, who among the two men is considered to be the greatest basketball player to ever step foot on the court? For its most definitely a divisive question indeed as the initial debates that start off relatively calm end up turning into truly heated discussions/arguments so much so people tend to lose their sanity along with their composure. In any case, instead of focusing on stats such as career points per game times gone to the finals, etc. the focus will be on the following 3 things: competitive drive, being battle tested, and overall leadership.

Without a doubt, Jordan and James' competitive drive to be the best has resulted in countless and impressive accolades worthy of their historic legacy. However, Jordan's competitive drive is considerably noteworthy as his incentive was to play the game for the sheer competition of facing off against opponents who were considered the best as well. Larry Bird, Magic Johnson, Isaiah Thomas, Domonique Wilkins, Hakeem Alajuwon, Gary Peyton, Patrick Ewing, Reggie Miller, etc. who were each in some ways teachers of sorts and vice versa. Therefore, the growing confidence in his skills and ability combined with his competitive drive to beat his peers deemed him in a sense a student of the game who was continually learning whether he won or lost. So, what's Lebron learned thus far?

If you think about it, the topic of whether or not Lebron James has actually been battle tested in the more physical has been contested for years. I think its safe to say today's NBA is vastly different when Jordan played as it was a more physical game back then. True, Lebron has faced physical challenges to where he's pushed himself beyond what he's capable of causing his body to break down, which shows his effort and commitment to the game itself. Yet, being tested physically playing the likes of The Knicks and Detroit Pistons back in the day who certainly brought the physicality and then some, which I dare say Jordan thrived on thus earning those quintessential battle scars. Hey, it makes you wonder how Lebron would've faired against Laimbeer, McDaniel, and Oakley who would let you know that he's been fouled.

Current Cleveland Cavs player J.R. Smith said, ~Its almost a gift and a curse. You play on his team, you’re playing with the best player in the world...and on the other side if you win he will get all the credits and if you lost you will get all the blame. That’s probably why Kyrie Irving wanted to be traded.~ Of course, Smith's words speak volume in overall leadership when the media such as ESPN Sportscenter and certain sports commentators would rather tout "The Face" of the Cavs as the greatest while treating his teammates as mere footnotes. Granted, even though Jordan was and will always be "The Face" of the Bulls he shared the spotlight with his non-footnote teammates Pippen, Paxon, Kerr, Grant, Armstrong, Kukoc, Cartwright who he encouraged to shine. Lead by example and in turn the leader will also follow.

In retrospect, there is no debate when it comes to proclaiming who is deemed the greatest player in basketball. Why? When you have former and current player/owners like Kobe who have gone on record as saying he's been the most influential in their career when they were young and for the most part pattered themselves somewhat like him. Of course, this goes without saying that Jordan staying with bulls and creating opportunities to help his teammates to become better whereby he becomes better reiterates the notion of not one person is better than the team itself. In other words, teamwork and working together as a team shows that Jordan is miles above Lebron in that particular aspect. In the end, tremendous amounts of respect are well deserved for a guy who went out on the court playing to win and that is why The King of The Air Michael Jordan will always be in my view the G.O.A.T.

Sunday, June 03, 2018


Actor Ray Fisher aka Cyborg from 2017's Justice League movie once said, ~I'd have all these crazy sort of 'who would win battles' with my friends who were big fans of other comic book characters, and I'd always find a way for Batman to win. It was deep for me, man.~ Without a doubt, there has always been lively to heated debates/discussion/arguments concerning who would win in hypothetical battles between characters in either the anime and/or comic book realm. For it can most definitely be an intensely crazy situation indeed as relatively calm face to face and/or online conversations between friends/strangers suddenly turn into loud screaming matches that go absolutely nowhere. Of course, when the latters happens the only thing that ever gets accomplished is the exchanging of endless amounts of childish, immature insults/comebacks that don't end up helping both side's case at all.

As I said before, there has always been lively to heated debates/discussions/arguments concerning who would win in hypothetical battles between characters in either the anime and/or comic book realm. Thinking about it further, when it comes to The Dark Knight otherwise known Batman there is a constant debate that has been going on for years of him having the ability to defeat any of his opponents with enough prep time. True, this is evident in how smart, knowledgeable, and not to mention calculating Batman is in studying the weaknesses of not only his enemies but his allies as well, which was show in the animated movie Justice League: Doom. True, although The Caped Crusader doesn't have the Kryptonian strength of Superman, fast speed of The Flash, Wonder Woman's Amazonian strength etc. he does use his keen sense of observation then utilizes the information for a potential takedown.

If you think about it, the argument involving who is the strongest anime/comic book character of all time has been tirelessly talked to death to where it becomes incredibly ridiculous. Goku, Vegeta, Jiren, Thanos, Darkseid, Hulk, One Punch Man, Superman, etc. are such names proclaimed as the strongest character either in the anime/comic realm to the point where Dragon Ball Z character Goku have been hypothetically pitted again strong characters from other different anime/comic book universes. Granted, the main argument involves the character's overall power and strength with a character like Goku who turned into going from ordinary Saiyan to Super Saiyan 2 leveling up SS3 then becoming SS God leading to SS Blue and ultimately achieving Ultra Instinct against Jiren in the Tournament of Power in Dragon Ball Super. Hey, whether he is or isn't the strongest overall character continues to be highly debated.

Let me ask this question to my fellow geeks/nerds, are you for DC or Marvel? Personally speaking, I'm both. In any case, its a seemingly normal question to ask someone unless its posed to any die hard fan willing to express their opinions on the subject matter at hand. Oftentimes, it's considered a truly risky endeavor to express the reasons they're for or against DC/Marvel without having to state the following: DC/Marvel Sucks! Of course, much can be said for the strong success the MCU has had for the past 10 years with the exception of Thor: The Dark World. On the other hand, the struggles the DCEU has had with their live action movies like Batman vs Superman: Dawn of Justice have achieved relative success in regards to the animated movies being produced. Essentially, the battle between Marvel and DC is overwhelmingly one sided for now and there could possibly be a gradual shift in DC's favor later down the road. Time will tell.

In retrospect, there will always be hypothetical battle debates amongst deeply passionate and arguable insane geeks/nerds around the world pertaining to anime/comic book characters depending on the hero and/or villain in question. Of course, there will be those certain factions of geeks/nerd who will continually state that particular characters sucks and can't beat whoever he or she is pitted against. For the most part, you just have to remind yourself it is all merely hearsay as it involves a fantasy world comic book, as well as anime fans enjoying discussing at length about. Unfortunately, there are some individuals who get too passionate so much so it can very well take it very personally. Ultimately, what it primarily comes down to is the fun factor in being able to talk about what we most enjoy without going completely bonkers and in the end up getting triggered when something is said one doesn't agree with.

Friday, May 04, 2018

Love Takes Hostages

Connie Brockway once said, ~The heart doesn't ask permission. It is singularly unconcerned with the qualifications of those it chooses to love. It mocks the intellect, it subjugates reason, and it holds hostage the will to survive.~ If you think about it, when it comes to matters of the heart pertaining to potential/significant relationships and/or utter heartbreak you can find yourself or should I say your heart being taken hostage by your own thoughts, feelings, as well as emotions. For its a thought provoking situation indeed to experience an inner hostage situation of sorts that can last days, months, and/or even years. Of course, while going through the metaphorical hostage situation deals are trying to be made to either embrace true happiness that could very well be an absolute positive or finally let go of negative past issues that are/have been considered a threat personally, mentally, and/or emotionally.

As I said before, when it comes to matters of the heart pertaining to potential/significant relationships and/or utter heartbreak you can find yourself or should I say your heart being taken hostage by your own thoughts, feelings, as well as emotions. True, the initial beginning phase of any hostage situation is considerably violent or brief depending how long it lasts to subdue the hostages. Essentially, it's while one's own heart is subdued there can be in all intense and purposes an all out assault occurring and the instant or gradual impact of it can certainly be traumatic. Thinking about it further, there's initially an inner mental/emotional mass of chaos and confusion in a hopefully non violent way happening within, in a manner of speaking, after being captured to the point where it can be considerably difficult in focusing after coming to the realization of what is going/has gone down.

Without a doubt, once the initial phase of the emotional and mental hostage situation is over then comes the negotiation phase, which is an all too familiar experience for quite a number of individuals. I think its safe to say for those living the single life there can most definitely be demands listed off, so to speak, involving our thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions towards one's own heart. The proverbial inner conflict of what you think you want and what you're most deserving of as it pertains to true happiness. In that instance, the quintessential hostage negotiator enters the picture and even though there may not be an actual hostage negotiator present you're own inner voice takes metaphorical form in trying to negotiate/mediate a deal or deals whatever they may be. Unfortunately, one's inner voice may not be able to resolve the conflict to where a resolution is unable to be made thus a standoff ensues. So, how long has your inner standoff lasted?

Let me ask this questions to those who are currently in a hostage situation regarding their own heart that has lasted for quite some time, at any point have you come to the decision with the termination phase? What do I mean? What it primary comes down to are the following 3 scenarios/options: 1.) Your thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions surrender peacefully to the reality of the situation and let the possibility of potentially falling in love run it's natural course. 2.) You're mentally and emotionally strong enough in overtaking all 3 so that you can move on from past issues by your own terms. OR 3.) You've given into the demands settled for and didn't really want because you allowed them to overwhelm you therefore killing any chance of moving on to experience a worthwhile love life. For the most part, you have those 3 scenarios/option to choose from or go with something completely different altogether and hope it works out for the best.

In retrospect, the most frustrating part of your heart being taken hostage by your own thoughts, feelings and/or emotions is the unpredictability of it all. Oftentimes, its an absolute unknown as to whether or not negotiations will turn into a dangerously volatile situation to where it should always be handled with care. However, there are times where you have no other alternative than to just bust in with guns blazing in SWAT Team fashion to truly free yourself from past issues, which is an aggressive albeit useful tactic to undertake. Granted, you're not in this alone as you have your fellow SWAT Team members of best buds/gal pals who will always head in to make the save knowing they could become collateral damage. Hey, there's always a risk but it's a risk they're willing to take. In the end, love takes hostages and when or if you find yourself in one you want to come out the entire ordeal with very much "alive" heart rather than have it end up be "dead".

Saturday, April 21, 2018

Frame Of Heart

Khano Makwarela once said, ~Sometimes broken relationships are like broken glasses. People often hurt themselves trying to put the broken pieces back together.~ Without a doubt, matters of the heart involving broken relationships is most definitely synonymous with getting glasses after it has been for quite some time or ends up getting broken. You see, when you experience both there is in a sense the inability to see clearly even though there have been attempts to try to fix it the best way you can. True, fixing what's been broken or close to being broken can sometimes help you see in the visual context. Of course, the same can be said in regards to trying to fix a relationship that has gradually lost the sense of sight mentally, as well as emotionally whereby there is an inability to see clearly in a person's or one another's heart, in a manner of speaking.

If you think about it, when you deal with broken glasses or glasses close to being broken you can find yourself taping it up as a temporary fix, which those who wear glasses such as myself have done in the past. Essentially, that's how it can be at times as a guy/girl/couple tries for the previously mentioned temporary fix deemed absolutely easy for his/her/their relationship only end up re-taping the part/parts again because the problem wasn't truly dealt with or should I say discussed in depth. Thinking about it further, although the tape on a broken or soon to be broken relationship is viewed as metaphorical it has the propensity to make its presence known in an annoyingly, irritating way. So the question remains is there presently tape put on as a temporary fix on your relationship right now? Here's another question, how long has it been on there?

As I said before, when experiencing a broken relationship and glasses there is in a sense the inability to see clearly even though there have been attempts to try to fix it in the best way one can. Unfortunately, when its not able to be fixed via the aforementioned temporary fix the alternative is getting new glasses thus getting your eyes or in this particular case your heart checked in order to in all intense and purposes see what you're truly deserving of on the quintessential strong, worthwhile relationship eye/heart chart. For it's certainly a tough and frustrating situation indeed to go through as you're in a way doing an oftentimes exhaustive self eye/heart examination so that you'll be able to see clearly line by line in someone else all the quality aspects of a deeply meaningful relationship such as trust, faith, honesty, respect, faith, patience, hope, understanding, communication, commitment, etc.

Let me ask this question to those who have been wearing broken glasses and have constantly been fixing them with tape, how did it feel when you were able to finally wear it without always having to make those annoyingly, irritating adjustments? In other words, how many of you are with your best friend for life and are now clearly seeing the quality aspects of a deeply meaningful relationship mentioned above instead of unfortunate aspects like doubt, being lied to, anger, fear, worry, hatred, confusion, frustration, bitterness, utter contempt, disappointment, etc. Granted, it takes time along with the much needed eye drops of reality in which it puts into perspective the type of guy/girl one hopes to find/meet/encounter someday. What it primarily comes down to is facing the temporary tape fix head on and not avoiding the issue(s) so you won't always feel absolute discomfort.

In retrospect, wearing the right glasses makes all the difference as it helps see what you've been missing out on after your heart has experienced the discomforting blurriness and/or feeling of a bad past relationship. For the most part, when you get your eyes checked in the form of your best buds/gal pals in possibly helping you getting them wide open visually in mental and emotional capacity it's an experience unlike any other. Ultimately, what brings it all together is having the right frames with occasional adjustments that will positively stick with you. Hey, it may take days, months, and/or maybe even years before you inevitably find the frames that will keep you stable in every sense of word but its so worth it.. In the end, it's when you're able to get into a genuinely right frame of heart with a certain special someone in hopes of being able to see with continuous 20/20 vision or better a future that makes you smile.