Thursday, January 17, 2019

A Lasting Hold( First Yodaism of 2019)

Someone once said, ~True love is a choice to commit yourself to someone - to hold on even when the battle is a fight against yourself, to not give up even when the world says otherwise and to love endlessly even only from afar.~ If you think about it, when it comes to relationships in regards to matters of the heart a person can most definitely find himself/herself struggling/fighting to hold together their own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions if the possibility of establishing a genuinely, strong connection with a guy/girl happens. Oftentimes, that struggle/fight turns into an all out battle of possibly self sabotaging within yourself. For its a type of a fighting battle of self struggle/sabotage that's in a sense dealing with aspects/qualities of wanting to be truly happy leading one to either metaphorically paper clip, duct tape, and/or staple them in order to figure it all out or not at all.

As I said before, when it comes to relationships in regards to matters of the heart a person can most definitely find himself/herself struggling/fighting to hold together their own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions if the possibility of establishing a genuinely, strong connection with a guy/girl happens. Of course, to be more specific I'm referring to the dating scene and an ever changing mindset nowadays. Thinking about it further, we all intents and purposes paper clip our mental, emotional, physical, as well as spiritual wants/needs in trying to internally figure out if you're continuing to hold on or just let go due to lack of interest. True, although a paper clip is considered to be reliable its purpose is only a temporary fix and doesn't completely fasten down what can easily be lost because of how personal preferences change in an instant, which basically describes dating in general.

Without a doubt, being able to work through any issues pertaining to a past relationship or past relationships to achieve some much needed closure is tremendously helpful for countless people. Unfortunately, for others they've in a sense duct taped over past heartbreak issues he or she hasn't properly dealt with for months or quite possibly even years. Essentially, I think its safe to say it has the propensity to become a tortuous and not mention seemingly uncomfortable situation indeed to experience having to constantly wrap, so to speak, the pieces of a badly broken heart to keep together the cover up the anger, fear, sadness, worry, frustration, utter contempt, disappointment, etc. an individual tends to avoid facing. Yet, its still there underneath layers and layers of duct tape making it absolutely uncomfortable so much so being able to finally rip away/tear apart for good past issues will give such sweet, comforting relief.

Let me ask you this question to those who are in a significant relationship, how long was it before you ended up stapling what you hopefully took the time to think and feel about as it pertains to your now forever best friend. What I mean is taking everything you been able to take into account mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually to where you made the choice to hold on tightly, in a manner of speaking, instead of making the mistake of letting go of a strong, worthwhile relationship. Sadly, for those making the choice to let go was a mistake and what's left behind as a reminder are the holes from all the staples being removed of previous relationships. In any case, it's when you hear in a positive way the metaphorical sound of a stapler stapling all the papers of true happiness together you've been putting together internally it brings an absolute smile to your face that will never go away.

In retrospect, the toll it takes in the self struggle of battling within yourself in being able to hold on to and at same time wanting to let go because of being scared can certainly be considerably exhausting. However, its well worth it when you're sharing a life with someone who appreciates and accepts every part of you that's insanely crazy, weird, idiotic, and everything in between. What it primarily comes down to coming to the realization that once you stop the struggle of fighting/battling with yourself you're no longer holding control of the situation in allowing yourself to gradually open up then breaking down little by little each defense mechanism of walls built up whatever they may be. In the end, to face that type of overwhelming fear is a monstrous obstacle to overcome and when conquered it's a major weight lifted off his/her/your heart thus establishing a lasting hold with someone that you know won't ever be temporary.

Monday, December 31, 2018

No Offense (Last Yodaism of 2018)

David A Bednar once said, ~To be offended is a choice we made, it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else.~ Without a doubt, it seems as if 2018 is considered to be more about being easily offended than anything else. For it's a befuddling situation indeed to even wrap one's own brain around in finding something minor in regards to a non issue and make it major to the point where it became an issue or major importance according to the individual or individuals in question. Thinking about it further, it could either be trolling for stirring the social media pot, so to speak, or the fact those so called social justice warriors want nothing better to do than get under you skin as it pertains to certain fast food toys, traditional holiday songs, Santa Clause, etc. that they've interpreted as completely offensive.

As I said before, for it's a befuddling situation indeed to even wrap one's own brain around in finding something minor in regards to a non issue and make it major to the point where it became an issue or major importance according to the individual or individuals in question. Case in point, there was a situation in May of 2017 where McDonalds came under fire for being gender specific when it comes to the toys that came in their happy meals, which was also brought up in early December of 2018. Sadly, it has even gone so far as a proposed House Resolution No. 49 into law by Detroit, Michigan Democratic Rep Leslie Smith aiming to stop fast-food chains from reinforcing gender stereotypes. Hey, with so many meaningful and important issues to focus on the issue of the kind of toys comes in your kid's happy meal is just laughable.

If you think about it, there are so many songs over the years that have been absolutely controversial but what about the ones that are considered classics we've all heard and not to mention have sung. Of course, what I'm referring to is the holiday Christmas classic "Baby, It's Cold Outside" written in 1944 by Frank Loesser and used for the movie musical Neptune's Daughter. The controversy that is apparently offensive is that it supposedly promotes rape so much so it has gotten to the point where it's been banned on radio stations. Essentially, the song itself is from a different time where the act of flirting was completely different than it is today. True, she does get the controversy but in Susan Loesser's mind it's an afterthought as its a special reminder of the time her parents sang it together as a way to entertain guests at parties.

Let me ask you this question, would you ever in your wildest dreams think that the man known as Santa Clause who would be deemed controversial to where it easily offends someone or a bunch of people who simply want to watch the world burn rhetorically speaking. Unfortunately, what is so considerably controversial and offensive to someone out there is that Santa is white and that's pretty much it. Now, it that individual would have done their research Santa Clause is based off a real person who gave away all his inherited wealth giving gifts to the poos and sick. His name is traced back hundreds of years to a monk named St. Nicholas and it is believed that he was born around 280 A.D. in Patara, Turkey. Although, the skin color of Santa Clause/St. Nick doesn't matter the essence/spirit of what he represents does no whether you believe in him or not.

In retrospect, 2018 has truly been an interesting year knowing with also people being easily offended about certain holiday tv classic shows from our childhood. You see, such holiday classics many of us grew up with have been attacked like Frosty The Snowman for reckless, A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving has been labeled racist against the character Franklin, and not to mention promoting bullying in Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer. Oftentimes, you just have to shake you head at the sheer stupidity and absurdity of what people are being offended at that it turns into a unneeded firestorm of controversy. In the end, 2018 is nearing its end ushering in 2019 will be upon us soon and no offense to those who are going to try to find something to be offended about this new year have some good old fashioned common sense to where if it bothers you just don't watch, read, or listen to it.

Monday, November 12, 2018

Happy Little Accidents

The Joys of Painting Bob Ross once said, ~The secret of doing anything is believing that you can do it. Anything that you believe you can do strong enough, you can do. Anything. As long as you believe.~ If you think about it, life would most definitely be easier and not to mention peacefully calm if we all exuded a Bob Ross like mentality in regards to experiencing the ups, downs, as well as everything in between. Plus, it wouldn't hurt to have him narrate our life as well. For its a thought provoking situation indeed to have one's metaphorical paintbrush and paint pallet of assorted colors on hand to try to create a beautifully painted portrait on the quintessential canvas of life. A canvas in which each of us are given the opportunity on a daily basis to creatively mix it up knowing full well we're individual "artists" with the ability of wielding an unlimited, powerful sense of success.

Let me ask you this question pertaining to the iconic childhood legend that is Rob Ross, what is one of the things other than his awesome afro that stands out about him. If you answered his positively, calm demeanor then you'd be absolutely correct. Thinking about it further, life certainly get considerably noisy/messy/dark with every stroke of the brush to the fact we as individuals our own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions can at times get the better of us. True, those 3 just previously mentioned combine with our personal/professional lives can negatively affect one's outlook on life as long as you allow it whereby showing it on the canvas that's entitled "My Life". For the most part you just avoid putting pressure on yourself, relax as best as you can, and see what happens with a smile on your face as you continue painting, so to speak.

As said before, we're all provided a metaphorical canvas in which each of us are given the opportunity on a daily basis to creatively mix it up knowing full well we're individual "artists" with the ability of wielding an unlimited, powerful sense of success. Of course, our creativity as "artists" as we try to continually paint a positive portrait of our lives can be a struggle so much as it can be hard to find the inspiration when its momentarily lost. Essentially, that's when you remember/adhere to the following 6 words of Bob Ross we all know by heart: BEAT THE DEVIL OUT OF IT. In other words, in order to gain back that initial inspiration to get "creative" with life again is to do such things as going to the gym, dance, or whatever outlet utilized in order to beat the anger, frustration, disappointment, doubt, etc. to slowly get inspired thus regaining one's creativity for a hopefully much brighter painting.

Without a doubt, Bob Ross always took a risk with all his painting by suddenly adding a tree and as a viewer our initial thought was its not going to work. However, our doubts were quelled when he actually made it work to where it made the painting even more breathtakingly spectacular. Hey, what we can learn from Bob Ross as it involves life through painting is that you sometimes have to go out on a limb every now and then by taking a risk. I think its safe to say life wouldn't be interesting or fun for that matter if you didn't take a risk by adding a tree to our ongoing portrait of life. You see, that aforementioned tree may be a representation of relationships associated with love/true love, friendships, a job, family, etc. Ultimately, the decision to add the tree may very well be risky; but at the same time it may also set you up for the potential of future success as well.

Bob Ross said, ~Anytime you learn, you gain.~ In retrospect, life would be so much simpler an easier if our own lives were done like a painting by Bob Ross himself. Unfortunately, that's not the case as we have to learn to work with the colors we have on our messy paint pallet or mixed, assorted colors, use the brushes that we at our disposal, and accept the mistake that we want to correct. Granted, there is a tendency to try to correct those mistakes and what one ends up doing is possibly making more mistakes causing one's painting to become totally unrecognizable. Oftentimes, its the imperfections in our attempt in a perfect painting that make each of our lives uniquely different and being able to do what we can with the best of our own abilities or lack thereof is more than enough. In the end, for most of us our painting of life isn't done as of yet so keep painting and don't be afraid to make mistakes along the way or should I say happy little accidents.

Saturday, September 22, 2018

Crash and Burn

Someone once said, ~I think that we are like stars. Something happens to burst us open; but when we burst open and think we are dying; we're actually turning into a supernova. And then we look at ourselves again, we see that we're suddenly more beautiful than we were before.~ If you think about it, when two people suddenly find themselves falling for each other it's like two stars colliding with one another to the point where they possibly merge together to form a newer and larger star. The sheer impact of it all for him/her/both has the propensity to cause unknown and not to mention a mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual reaction in an unstable way. For its most definitely a thought provoking situation indeed as it pertains to matters of the heart in regards to forming an absolute worthwhile relationship that has the potential to shine brighter amongst a sea of countless other starts trying to do the same as well.

As I said before, when two people suddenly find themselves falling for each other it's like two stars colliding with one another to the point where they possibly merge together to form a newer and larger star. Of course, it's considered to be an awe inspiring sight to behold knowing everyone is witnessing it unfold and it's not an event that can be kept hidden or a secret either. Thinking about it further, it's in a way how love/true love can be witnessed and/or personally experience at time as those gravitating around you/him/her/them, so to speak, clearly see what's going on despite their attempts to keep it hidden from view, which can be also deemed an inspired sight to behold to say the least. Oftentimes, its a genuinely rare occurrence that has you truly transfixed. Hey, for anyone who is in all intents and purposes a star watcher of sorts you can't help but genuinely smile for two people in hopes its destined to turned into something worthy of a supernova.

Without a doubt, when two stars collide there is a chance it potentially merges and becomes/forms something tremendously spectacular. However, it has the capability to turn into something totally opposite causing a collapse whereby forming a black hole. True, the sheer impact of it all for him/her/both has the propensity to cause unknown and not to mention a mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual reaction causing conflict as previously mentioned. Essentially, it's a conflict where they may not even be a significantly strong relationship forming at all due to a person or both people's thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions being sucked into the quintessential black hole of doubt, anger, fear, sadness, worry, frustration, utter contempt, disappointment, etc. Let me tell you something, nobody every wants to experience being one of those stars or even be a witness to the sudden collapse leading to the painful death then gradual disappearing of the human heart into the darkness of heartbreak.

Let me ask you this question to those who have found themselves in the past colliding with a star representing a certain special someone and have happily merged together, is/was there at any point feeling as if you wanted to burst open? What I'm asking is were you able to completely open up to clearly convey all that you've been holding inside? A confusing jumbled, twisted mix of your thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions expressed to where it actually made sense out loud so much so it inevitably helped alleviate any of the stress that just weigh you down. In any case, I think its safe to say not too many people would suddenly burst open in song expressing their love in front of a guy/girl they're falling for as it leaves one vulnerable in putting yourself out there and at the same time facing the scary realizing of the fear of being rejected. Yet, if the opportunity presented itself and were given then chance to I honestly think they would do it all for a chance at true happiness.

In retrospect, there comes a point where for those living the single life the thought of meeting their forever best friend is like looking up at the starry filled night sky to see a shooting star then make a wish soon after. In other words, it's merely wishful thinking and the dream come true of finally having a solid foundation of trust, faith, honesty, respect, contentment, commitment, communication, etc. will be sucked once again into the quintessential black of hole of being single for eternity. Granted, while it may be wishful thinking to some its something to grab and hold on to for others who wholeheartedly believe their supernova will happen as its just a matter of having utmost patience. In the end, don't ever crash and burn when shooting for the stars in the form of wrong and unhealthy relationship that ultimately wasted your time because one day you'll have a reason to believe there's truly someone out there for you who'll make you believe he'll/she'll beautifully outshine the rest.

Saturday, August 11, 2018

My Own Thing

Someone once said, ~The happiest couples never have the same character. They just have the best understanding of their differences.~ Without a doubt, one of the things that makes a strong, worthwhile relationship work between two people is their independence in regards to allowing each other to pursue their own personal interests. For its a truly interesting and though provoking situation indeed concerning 2 completely different individuals who are able to have a deep understanding when it comes to embracing one another's independent side. What it primarily comes down to is having a partner who knows certain or every aspect of their significant other's weird/unique/nerdy/geeky individuality pertaining to what one thoroughly enjoys doing.

If you think about it, there are times when taking time for yourself while being in a committed relationship are deemed opportunities that should be never be passed up. In other words, being able to take a step back from time to time in order to all intense and purposes recharge the mental, emotional, physical, as well as spiritual batteries that tend to get drained, so to speak. When I say drained, it doesn't necessarily have a negative connotation as its more of a positive reflection in which you know taking a moment for yourself is considered to be tremendously cathartic, especially for one's own sanity. Essentially, to take time away from your best friend for life can considerably strengthen the already strong bond established between each other.

As I said before, its a truly interesting and thought provoking situation indeed concerning 2 completely different individuals who are able to have a deep understanding when it comes to embracing one another's independent side. Of course, to attain that aforementioned deep understanding there should most definitely be open communication to honestly discuss being able to avoid becoming absolutely burned out, in a manner of speaking, due to the relationship itself. Thinking about it further, by doing this there's a much stronger and not to mention deeper ongoing understanding to the point where you're able to gradually regain one's individuality back one has a tendency to possibly be lost or forgotten after in a committed relationship for quite some time.

Let me ask this question to those in a significant relationship, even though there's a shared mutual strength are you able to encourage one another's independent individuality? I think it's safe to say to have someone in your life who isn't reliant on having their wants and needs being constantly fulfilled shows he/she has a much deeper understanding of having your own space whenever it's warranted. Oftentimes, being encouraged by your best friend for life to reconnect with yourself or vice versa doesn't always mean doing it alone as it provides a reconnection with your best buds/gal pals. In any case, the shared encouragement to go through a personal self rejuvenation of sorts gives himself/herself and the relationship itself a renewed sense of a brighter future together.

In retrospect, there are times when being in a relationship has its fair share of conflict and stressful moments so much so a quintessential time out should be called. A time out in which there's an open forum of what's wrong and how it can potentially be fixed. You see, a lack of open communication will only cause even more stress related conflict. Ultimately, matters of healing the mind, body, and heart for the sake of metaphorically/literally coming back to not just yourself, but to your partner in crime is at times a vital necessity to grow closer together instead of apart in love/true love. In the end, when or if it ever gets to the point where there's a feeling of getting burned out in the relationship don't be afraid to openly talk it out to discuss with him/her of wanting to do my own thing.

Saturday, July 21, 2018

Rise To The Occasion

Someone once said, ~Live, love, laugh. Volleyball the main necessities. Love like you never loved before. Live like you are going to die tomorrow, and play like you mean it!~ If you think about it, a strong worthwhile relationship and the game of volleyball are synonymous with each other. How and in what way you might be asking yourself? You see, they both deal in being able to face a strong and quite possibly unbeatable opponent whose strength, as well as abilities can seemingly be viewed unmatched, which is love/true love. For it's certainly a tough task to undertake indeed knowing how it can leave any person or couple for that matter absolutely overwhelmed with a plethora of mixed thoughts, feelings and/or emotions as you're playing with the volleyball that is a representation of 2 hearts potentially becoming 1.

Without a doubt, one of the most important aspects in the game of volleyball other than teamwork is communication, which relates to being in a strong, worthwhile relationship. Essentially, establishing effective communication builds cohesively, effective unity and not to mention tremendous success in regards to matters of the heart involving a best friend for life. Thinking about it further, being able to interpret and actually understand your teammate's/partner's verbal, as well as non verbal signals shows a profound ability in sharing any difficulties whatever they may be. What it primarily comes down to is to not let yourself carrying on your own shoulders the immense responsibilities in guiding each other in successfully scoring, in a manner of speaking, minor/major relationship points when they really matter.

As I said before, love/true love is considered to be an opponent whose unmatched strength and abilities can most definitely be viewed as overwhelming leading you to running around within you're thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions. Why? You see, it never gets tired thus having endless of amounts of stamina making it considerably tougher for a team of 2 knowing they're going to incredibly battle tested in more ways than one. Trust, faith, honesty, respect, understanding, and commitment combined as a whole instead of completely separate aspects makes a huge impact when facing the odds stacked against 2 players on the other side of the proverbial relationship net. True, it's a scary notion to think about the dominance of utter heartbreak it has befallen past "teams" but despite that the both of you forge ahead with game faces on, so to speak.

Let me ask you this question to any current or past volleyball players out there, what is the one thing you don't ever want to find yourself or another teammate doing while competing? If you answered looking down you'd be correct. I think it's safe to say you always want to look up and focused on where the volleyball is at all times because if you aren't closely paying attention then points are scored against you. In a sense, that's how two people who have committed themselves to each other in all intense and purposes be playing the game should always be doing. In other words, focusing up on each other's heart/volleyball to the point where you/him/her do everything in your/his/her power to mentally and emotionally dig after it in any/all directions from not ever hitting the floor to where it will continue to be in play at whatever the cost.

In retrospect, earning the bumps and bruises of a strong worthwhile love isn't easy by any stretch of the imagination. Granted, it would be simple enough to avoid all the effort, time, and hard work altogether in order to be crowned the quintessential champions of true happiness but the victory wouldn't in a way taste such as sweet. Oftentimes, by completely opening yourself up there's gradual reveal of a level of vulnerability to where you know the guy/girl in question is right there with you every step of the way even if you don't see him/her. Vice versa as well. In the end, there will always be great obstacles in facing the crafty volleyball veteran otherwise known as love/love; but if there's a willingness to do the hard work, to never quit, scramble to dig for every point, and be in constant communication with each other then my friend the both of you will rise to the occasion spiking down together any challenging situation that lies ahead.

Friday, July 06, 2018

Dancing On My Own

Abira Mukherjee once said, ~Love is a mystery, love is passion, love is one of your truest emotions. It can take your breath away and leave you dancing in your hearts way.~ As I've said before, when it comes to matters of the heart in regards to the dating scene it can in a sense be like stepping into a crowded dance floor. True, there can be a plethora of mixed emotions to deal with, especially if you're truly interested in a certain someone one wants to set their sights on to dance with. In any case, it can most definitely be either a fun or nerve racking situation indeed in trying to find your own rhythm while being able to hopefully establish a strong, worthwhile rhythm located somewhere within the metaphorical crowded dance floor, in a manner of speaking.

Without a doubt, we've all heard the phrase dance like nobody is watching and it can certainly pertain to living the single life involving the dating scene. I think every person has experienced while living it up and dancing to the beat of their own heart of noticing a possible dance partner you are/have been interested in only to find he/she is already dancing with someone. Thinking about it further, it can cause anyone to do either of the following 2 things: leave you completely thrown off to where you end just watching from a distance OR step forward to cut in whereby making your presence known to him/her. Essentially, there lies the difficulty in stepping out in order to want to be seen and at the same time the fear of not being seen at all by the guy/girl in question.

If you think about it, dealing with the aforementioned plethora of mixed emotions has the propensity to leave any individual dancing in circles within themselves so to speak. Unfortunately, it's in a negative rather than a postive way as your own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions spin you around internally in such a complicated, as well as confusing way it drives you absolutely insane. For it's those 3 aspects previously mentioned that insanely spin you around internally to the point where you in all intents and purposes are backed in a corner not only figuratively, but literally as well. So, has anyone felt or is feeling like you're never going to be able to get yourself out of the corner representing heartbreak, the friend zone, or whatever the case may be?

Let me ask this question to those living the single life who are on the quintessential crowded dance floor, have you found yourself getting lost in the crowd or have you been able to maneuver your way through to the best of your ability? I think its safe to say being on an actual dance floor and the dating scene have their similarities in a number of ways like taking notice, the initial approach, possible rejection, potential acceptance, etc. Of course, this happens in the darkness that is a representation of the utter uncertainty of whether or not the connection made will continue once you both step out into the light and the music still plays on instead of dies out. What it primarily comes down to is to not quickly part ways when it gets too hard after losing the relationship dance rhythm.

Someone said, ~If you stumble, make it part of the dance.~ In retrospect, love/true love is all about stumbling in hopes of coming face to face with your forever dance partner somewhere within the crowded dance floor of the dating scene. Fortunately, for a lucky number of people they've stepped out from the darkness and into the light with their potential/significant other knowing the music hasn't stopped for the two of them. However, for those who haven't yet met him or her you have your best buds/gal pals to keep you company while living it up despite going through the mental and emotional struggle. In the end, from time to time each one of us who are still out on the dance floor have that one initial thought of how long will I be dancing on my own, which is a song by Swedish singer/songwriter/producer Robyn but performed in a much slower version by Britain's Got Talent alum Callum Scott.