You're Still You

Someone once said, ~Open up, never be afraid to be you. The real you. That’s the best you and the only you anyone needs to know. Some won’t like it; they’re not meant for you. Some will love it: those are your people Anyone who doesn’t love the real you, is not meant for you.~ If you think about it, one of the key aspects in a strong, worthwhile relationship is being with someone who not only is able to look past the facade and sees the real you, but encourages and supports you even when you’re at your absolute worst. Essentially, they’re the type of someone who you’re able to gain so much more by actually being truly seen by him/her without losing who you truly are knowing how fearful you are instead of feeling the fear filled pressure placed on yourself in how you want to be seen in regards to matters of the heart.

As I said before, one of the key aspects in a strong, worthwhile relationship is being with someone who not only is able to look past the facade and sees the real you, but knows more about you than you know about yourself. For it’s certainly a heartwarming and comforting situation indeed when you don’t have to be afraid of opening yourself up to share the real you because the guy/girl in question has been there by your side through the darkest times of your life to the point the light of your true and real self ends up flickering. Although the light has flickered as you're going through your own personal darkness, he/she is a representation of a positive source of strength in helping keep the light from dying out completely and continually illuminated from his/her heart into yours.

Without a doubt, it’s difficult to open yourself up and express how you truly feel, especially if it’s someone you’ve known or been friends with for quite some. Thinking about it further, those feelings end up manifesting into a mindset in which he/she can do no wrong thus making everything about him/her practically a dream come true in your eyes regardless of the unfortunate realities. I think it’s safe to say the mistake was made more on a mental rather than emotional level to the point where you’ve put him/her on a metaphorical pedestal despite all the red flags going off, which you were blinded by. Oftentimes, those aforementioned unfortunate red flag realities are the ones you refuse to see and/or don’t want to accept until you finally wake up and your eyes are finally opened.

Let me ask this question to those who are in a significantly worthwhile relationship, how long did it take for the both of you to open up and share the real you knowing how fearful you were at the time. In a way, it’s like stripping away layers of clothing until you feel like you're naked in front of each other, so to speak, to where you’re left considerably exposed, vulnerable, embarrassed, etc. Hey, it’s considered an important step in moving forward in any relationship for two people working together in being openly honest in a”we listen and don’t judge” way, which may be painful to do at first. Fortunately, the pain gradually subsides and what you’ll end up hopefully experiencing is the sweet relief of establishing a far deeper and better understanding so much so the connection between one another.

In retrospect, there’s an immense sense of bravery in staying true to who you are in the dating scene. True, living the single life and brutally facing constant rejection can most definitely play a tremendous factor in changing your whole perspective on love/true love. For the most part, it's a learning process of the heart in knowing that even though you’re not meant to be with a particular guy/girl in question it doesn’t mean your love life is over. What it primarily comes down to is simply knowing your worth and you’re far more worthy, as well as memorable than you’ll ever know for someone out there than the other way around. In the end, after all you’ve been through with your heart, be proud of the fact you didn’t change who you are because you’re still you and unbeknownst to you that’s what stood out the most.