A Healing Heart

Someone once said, ~It's ok if you thought you were over it, but it hits you all over again. It's ok to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control. You are not weak. Healing is messy. There’s no timeline for healing.~ Without a doubt, going through a breakup and being able to truly move on can most definitely be like experiencing a rehabilitation of the heart. For it's certainly a challenging situation indeed for men/women to all intents and purposes detox/be fully cleansed personally, mentally, as well as emotionally from a toxic relationship that was considerably difficult to break free from. Essentially, it takes a tremendous amount of effort, time, and strength that by no means is deemed an easy journey whatsoever.

As I said before, it's certainly a challenging situation indeed for men/women to all intents and purposes detox/be fully cleansed personally, mentally, as well as emotionally from a toxic relationship that was considerably difficult to break free from. I think it’s safe to say every person knows of someone or was that someone who couldn't quite quit a particular relationship. Of course it takes an immense amount of effort to recover from a bad past relationship viewed as highly addictive because of the inability to let go completely. In other words, the struggle of keeping your mental and emotional sobriety intact while fighting to avoid relapsing into the same heartbreaking mistake with him/her, especially in the early stages of a post breakup.

If you think about it, time is considered to be something of an abundance after the effort given into staying clean and sober, so to speak, from said ex. Oftentimes the main objective is to just enjoy your recovery time by seeking out and/or creating activities that benefited you by building up not only a strong self esteem, but one’s utmost confidence as well. Sadly, it’s those same two that were previously mentioned that get negatively broken down when no effort is given by the guy/girl. However, when those two key aspects return there is something else that returns as well, which is the happiness in your smile. Thinking about it further, what better way than to bring that energetic and rejuvenated happiness within your smile back by living your life.

Let me ask you this question to those who were successful in their recovery from an addictively bad past relationship, who or what was your source(s) of strength that helped you focus on the positive rather than the negative? Although it's different for everyone, there’s a certainty that a re-established connection with one’s best buds/gal pals who were at one point ostracized because of prioritizing that bad past relationship will occur. Granted, it occurs when the one who was at fault takes the first step in reconciling the past and talks things out. Ultimately, the strength of friendship hopefully is regained after some much needed heart to heart with the girls or just absolute mindless stupidity for the guys whereby bringing back the balance that was once lost.

Steve Maraboli said, ~Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated.~ In retrospect, it's a thought provoking notion that like rehab, it would be interesting if you’re given a relationship sobriety chip for being clean and sober as it relates to staying away from a guy/girl who was considerably toxic. True, it’s a conversation piece that’s for sure as stories are shared of one’s sobriety chips representing the achievement of staying and remaining sober from a past ex. You see, whether it's 30 days, 90 days, 9 months, or 10 years it's a considerable victory knowing you’re better off without said ex if you’re ever contacted by him/her. In the end, a healing heart should preferably take one step at a time rather than 12 steps for self recovery.