Final Jeopardy

Aarti Khuvana once said, ~A woman doesn’t want a man who promises to reach for the stars and bring her to the moon. She just wants a man who has the depth to stand by her, no matter her moods and shortcomings cares for her likes and dislikes. She needs a man who is strong enough to be faithful to her and who can promise her a lifetime of love.~ If you think about it, it’s most definitely challenging for any guy to try to figure out what women want, especially since they specifically categorize their needs and wants on their personal relationship board. In a way, it's like being a contestant on the long running popular game show Jeopardy that was hosted by late and legendary, pop culture icon Alex Trebek. Essentially, we do our best in trying to figure out/know the answers to a plethora of categories despite how massively mind bogglingly the sheer scope of it all is to where we have difficulty in completely wrapping our brain around it.

Without a doubt, it can certainly be a frighteningly scary, eye opening and not to mention challenging experience indeed to even attempt to get every answer correct to all the categories about women ranging from personal, mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual. However, what’s even more frighteningly scary are the categories a guy doesn’t see on the board that, in a sense, are viewed as a daily double challenge because they can pop up at any moment without any warning whatsoever. Thinking about it further, that’s why women are considered uniquely challenging because of how illogically contradictive and unreasonably hypocritical they can be in an immensely insane way. As a guy, you’re never really prepared to buzz in to give an answer for the daily double because of how it’s such a wildcard category that will most definitely leave us absolutely stumped, utterly confused, astoundingly perplexed, and totally dumbfounded.

As I said before, it’s most definitely challenging for any guy to try to figure out what women want, especially since the female species specifically categorizes their needs and wants on their own personal Jeopardy relationship board. Oftentimes, it's not so much the countless categories that make no sense half the time as it's the questions in which they not only have more than one answer to, but are constantly changing unlike the Jeopardy board on the show that is set in stone. You see, although the questions may be viewed as easy enough to answer, they're in actuality difficult because of how deeply layered they are, setting us up to be intentionally thrown off. Essentially, it's a seemingly unfair advantage that causes any guy to become incredibly frustrated to the point where we're hesitant to take on the monumental task head on for fear of embarrassing ourselves and failing miserably.

Let me ask this question to those who sat and watched the game show Jeopardy like myself, did you feel smarter or dumber afterwards? I think it's safe to say we’ve all felt as if we're either the smartest dumb or dumbest smart person alive when you take on those selected categories. For the most part, that same feeling can be compared to when a guy thinks he has it all figured out with a particular female he’s interested in. Unfortunately, mistakes can be made when we find ourselves feeling overconfident as we’re clearing the board, so to speak, of certain categories involving trust, faith, integrity, honor, respect, honesty, loyalty, understanding, communication, commitment, etc. What it primarily comes down to is having the patience to take it one category at a time instead of randomly going from one category to another, which isn't viewed as a sound strategy.

Alex Trebek said, ~Don't worry about it. Just look ahead to the next question. You didn't get here by accident. You passed the test. You deserve to be here. These categories maybe don't line up with your areas of expertise. But you're bright. Keep your head up. Move forward. Keep going.~ In retrospect, the beauty of relationships/matters of the heart is we aren’t going to get every answer to the question on the quintessential relationship board right so learn from it and move on whether we succeed or fail. In other words, it's a constant work in progress that tests how far a guy is willing to mentally and emotionally push himself to prove his worth. Ultimately, we’re never going to be the likes of Ken Jennings or Brad Rutter and that’s fine. In the end, the answers guys don’t get right help for a far better and deeper level of understanding knowing the goal we want to set then reach for ourselves is that final jeopardy stage of a strong, worthwhile relationship.