Sunday, May 03, 2015

Thinking Out Loud

Swami Vikekanando once said, ~We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live, they travel far.~ If you think about it, when it comes to matters of the heart regarding a potential and/or significant relationship there are countless thoughts swirling around within your mind. For it can most definitely be a mentally exhausting situation indeed to deal with the aspect of the internal negative and positive battle that lies within one's cranium concerning the future, especially if/when it involves spending the rest of your life with your forever best friend. It's those particular thoughts that you can't help but think about to where they may seemingly be of little to no importance to others, but to you its a tremendous heavy burden weighing you mentally, as well as emotionally down.

As I said before, it can most definitely be a mentally exhausting situation indeed to deal with the aspect of the internal negative and positive battle that lies within one's cranium concerning the future, especially if/when it involves spending the rest of your life with your forever best friend. Thinking about it further, the inner mental struggle for any guy/girl to keep your thoughts positive instead of negative can certainly be a daunting task to undertake because one can seemingly go though a mental/emotional rollercoaster within your heart/mind. True, there can be a tendency for any person to unfortunately allow ourselves to focus on the negative aspects leading us to question if we're truly worthy enough to be even a mere blip in a guy's/girl's radar, so to speak. In other words, questioning whether or not you have what it takes to attract or be considered attractive to the man/woman you're in love with/falling in love with?

Oftentimes, it's thoughts of your own true happiness you can't help but think about to where they may seem insignificant to others but at the same time weighs heavily on you mentally and emotionally as well. A simple touch where holding hands may not seem important but it speak volumes pertaining to a memory that last forever. The thought of wrapping your arms around special guy/girl under the starry night filled sky sharing a intimate kiss is something every person lacking a better half would want to someday genuinely experience. A type of quiet intimacy where something as simple as placing/laying one's head on/against their chest and hearing/feeling their heartbeat is absolutely special because it shared only between the two of you. Granted, as a comforting thought it is to imagine or even dream of to have happen it's what a certain few of us haven't experienced as of yet but hopefully will someday.

Without a doubt, for those living the single life such as a myself you can't help but think once you finally meet your best friend for life will I be able to be the same guy who continually sweeps her off her feet in my unique and interesting way even to the latter years of life? Hey, to not have that particular thought even cross one's mind is a testament in trusting/believing I still have what it takes to surprise her in the romance department and she'll love me same as she did when she first met me many years ago. Of course, changes do occur as with growing older and the body doesn't work the same way but that's expected. However, it's the unmistakable smile you've forever captured in each other's memory that continues to remain the same and stay young, in a manner of speak, despite all the wrinkles because it's one of the many innate mysterious involving love/true love you've been able to solve together.

In retrospect, our own thoughts on establishing and/or solidifying a relationship can either move each one of us forward or hold us back. It's a sad state of affairs when someone holds themselves back and can't move forward because their own thoughts are filled with doubts, insecurities, or whatever the case maybe is keeping them from changing the course of what could possibly be a brighter future. Essentially, the bright shining smile you so wanted within your heart and given back is no longer just a thought that you continually play over in your mind so much so it will drive you to the brink of insanity. What it primarily comes down to is ultimately quieting the voices in your head. In the end, when you're no longer thinking out loud and actually doing what you set your mind/heart out to do it without anything holding you back results in you becoming a much saner, as well as happier person with him/her by your side.

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