Tuesday, September 23, 2014

A Perfect Effort

Someone once said, ~If someone wants to be a part of your life, they'll make an effort to be in it. So don't bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay.~ Without a doubt, when it comes to matters of the heart making an effort in every aspect of being in a relationship can most definitely be hard work; but it's totally worth it. For its a tough situation indeed to know with 100% certainty whether someone you potentially love/care about will make the effort to be there for you causing you to question their reliability in regards to the future. What it primarily comes down to is being absolutely present personally, physically, mentally, emotionally, as well as spiritually to the point where it doesn't seem as if one is simply phoning it in, so to speak.

As I said before, being absolutely present personally, physically, mentally, emotionally, as well as spiritually to where it doesn't seem as if there is a disconnect shows the immense effort put into the relationship itself. Women, more so than men, would much rather have a guy try their hardest to take part in their world keenly observing and taking notice of all they are truly interested in instead of not trying at all. True, ladies are appreciative when time and effort is being given in taking note or should I say figuring them out on a considerably deeper level without any hidden ulterior motives whatsoever. Essentially, its a totally genuine and not to mention sincere gesture that can't be faked if done for the right reasons.

If you think about it, the effort made in being able to be emotionally open rather than emotionally constipated allows for growth, especially if you're a guy. Of course, showing emotion is deemed a sign of utter weakness because quite frankly the male species has been taught throughout the years to suppress our emotions. In any case, to get in touch with our feelings is what guys tend to avoid while women would greatly accept it whereby establishing and sharing a much stronger bond. You see, in their minds the effort it takes to voluntarily bring out unwanted emotions in a more verbal way gives them the opportunity to penetrate the seemingly tough exterior otherwise known as ego and pride. Hey, for any guy to show a side of themselves to a woman that their own friends haven't seen must be something special.

Let me ask you this questions ladies, what is the one of the major aspects in a relationship takes the most effort to get out of any guy? If you answered communication you're correct. Thinking about it, guys are the type who aren't much into verbalizing as women are, which is possibly why there has always been difficulty in getting the message across regarding love/true love. However, guys do have a say and even though its difficult for us to outwardy express what we want to say the message is somewhere in there. Granted, it may take some patience on your part due to the fact that its not easy to articulate the words in our brain and have it flow out of our mouth. Unfortunately, saying it and having it make sense are two different things entirely but at least you get the gist of what we're trying to convey.

In retrospect, the effort that it takes to keep the strength of true happiness in a relationship needs two people working together. Oftentimes, putting in the hard work and being there picking up the slack for each other proves there is such a thing as staying power. Sadly, the staying power for a number of relationships these days were lost because they gave up too easily when disagreements happened that weren't dealt with in depth. Let me tell you something, its primarily trial by error in which you and your significant other make what looks to be so effortless on the outside is in actuality countless complexities continously being worked on within. In the end, all you can ever do is your best in relationships and though it may not be perfect you both are striving in hope for a perfect effort.

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