Monday, January 27, 2014
Heart In Hand
Someone once said, ~Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain in tact. But hold tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.~ If you think about it, when it comes to matters of the heart, the experience can most definitely feel either smooth or rough just like sand held in your hand. However, its how the sand representing all aspects of a relationship is handled determines if you're cherishing every moment of it or merely letting it all slip through your fingers, so to speak. As I said before, the sand itself can certainly be a representation of all aspects of a relationship and how its handled determines if you're cherishing every moment of it or merely letting it slip through your fingers. Thinking about it further, if you cherish every moment you're essentially holding sand that individually or as a whole represent trust, faith, hope, patience, honesty, understanding, respect, intimacy, passion, commitment, communication, etc. For its a comforting situation indeed when you know your best friend for life is all in making the effort to hold on to every bit of sand in their hand and vice versa. True, some will inevitably spill out but as long as there isn't such a tight grip on the relationship the strong bond shared together will always remain in tact. Without a doubt, there have been men/women who allowed or should I say caused the sand representing every aspect of a relationship metaphorically slip through their fingers. The issues of control, jealousy, disrespect, lying, infidelity, or whatever the case may be can truly change one's outlook concerning true happiness after experiencing it. Its a sad state of affairs when someone suffers utter heartbreak leading each grain being held to become uncomfortable to where it turns into a representation of doubt, anger, frustration, confusion, bitterness, fear, sadness, etc of course, the once comforting and not mention soothing felt in your hand/heart is now replaced by how harshly rough, as well as course it to where your initial instinct is to rear back throwing the thoughts, feelings, and emotions associated with him/her as far away as you possibly can. Let me ask this question to those whose are currently in a significant relationship, is the sand being held in each other's hands loose with respect and freedom? In other words, do the two of you allow one another the respect and freedom of having your own individuality/identity but at the same time come together as one to be there to catch certain problems/issues that tend to trickle/slip through from your/his/her fingers? You see, in order to grow as a couple there must be an underlying trust in letting someone else who is willing to help take the heavy load off his/her/your shoulders or in this particular case hands. What it primarily comes down is having a guy/girl who doesn't easily crumble like dried up sand and will stick by you sifting through it taking out/working through problematic issues making not only the relationship feel smoother, but stronger as well. In retrospect, sand held in your hand and love/true are and continue to be synonymous with each other. You see, both having the innate ability to get into the cracks/crevices of certain areas of your body whereby making a very lasting impression on you. Granted, its much more difficult to remove the grains of past memories involving a guy/girl from your heart than from your buttockal region don't you think? Yet, they manage to find their way in there and though it takes a shower to completely wash away for one it's considered a not so easy process for the other. In any case, it befuttles the mind the amounts of sand a person can hold/endure in their hand knowing it represents their heart in regards past, present and possible future. In the end, every person wants to have that unmistakable feeling of warmth of another's heart in hand and to those who are lucky enough to experience/feel it they also have the sense of mind to be smart in making every grain of sand count together totally worthwhile.