Sunday, January 19, 2014
Dance To The Music
Kahlil Gibran once said, ~But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love; let it rather be a moving sea between the shore of your souls.~ If you think about it, there is a metaphorical dance two people experience when it concerns matters of the heart pertaining to potential and/or significant relationships. For its a dance in which a person must be able to be mentally, physically, and not to mention emotionally synced with another individual to the point where they're in intensive purposes feeling the same rhythm. What it primarily comes down to is having the sense of mind to be keenly observant and taking the time to get to know your quintessential dance partner for life. Without a doubt, love/true love can most definitely be considered a tango, especially during the early stage of the dating scene. True, in the beginning there is the innate awkwardness of not only trying to feel one another out, so to speak, but there is also the attempt in avoiding stepping on his/her feet as well. In other words, making the mistake of saying or doing something totally embarrassing/disrespectful it causes you to be left alone on the metaphorical dance floor. I think its safe to say we've all been in that particular situation before and call it nerves or whatever the case may be you try your best to calm yourself in order to be at/close to the same rhythm as he/she is. Essentially, it takes a tremendous amount of work and patience if a truly worthwhile partnership is to be established. As I said before, it takes tremendous amounts of work and patience if a truly worthwhile relationship is to be established, Thinking about it further, it takes much more than work and patience involving the perpetual dance of true happiness. You see, it take trust, respect, faith, honesty, hope, understanding, commitment, communication, etc. with both partners not just one because if there isn't the partnership utterly fails. Its a sad state of affairs when there is a lack of the previously stated so much so you know/heard of a partnership broke up/fell apart due to guy/girl not giving 100% or should I say not leaving it all on the dance floor, in a manner of speaking. For a certain number of people this may very well apply to him/her/you and the relationship they're/your currently in. Let me ask you this question to those are in a significant relationship, how long of a partnership have you established with your dance partner? I think its safe to say every couple wants dance to the Viennese Waltz into the latter years of life but it's not always the case. Hey, its a rarity these days to meet couple who are happily dancing on the relationship dance floor for 40,50, or even 60 years and yet they are out there. In any case, there will be disagreements, discussion and clashing of the minds on what the direction of the relationship is going. However, if there is trust within each other to have a continuous steady flow of communication then the rest will fall into place whereby the problematic, as well as frustrating steps that couldn't be handled/understood in the beginning will inevitably be grasped once the hard work is put in. Someone said, ~Love is a lot like dancing-just surrender to the music.~ In retrospect, for those living the single life such as myself we can be envious and somewhat jealous when it concerns couples who have found their rhythm. Granted, it took an incredible amount of practice to refine the dance steps to where it just comes naturally without even thinking or being reminded about it and that's pretty much how a loving relationship should be. Of course, there will be missteps along the way leading to unfortunate stumbles but as long as you work together to correct the mistakes you'll ultimately become an unstoppable dancing force. In the end, to those lucky enough to have found that special someone I say both of you dance like nobody's watching and no matter what always dance to the music that can only be heard within each other's heart.