Sunday, August 11, 2013
Someone once said, ~Love isn't always perfect. It isn't a fairytale or a storybook. And it doesn't always come easy. Love is overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, fighting to be together. Holding on and never letting go. It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define. Impossible to live without. Love is work, but must of all, love is realizing that ever hour, every minute and every second was worth it because you did it together.~ Without a doubt, being able to face challenges in regards to matters of the heart is most definitely part of what makes a truly significant relationship. For it can certainly be a tough and frustrating situation indeed to put in the work in order to keep an imperfectly perfect partnership together. However, if he/she is well worth it you'll happily take up the challenge. If you think about it, challenges and love/true love are oftentimes never easy because you have to come face to face with the absolute unknown. I think it's safe to say when it comes to the absolute unknown pertaining to the challenge of true happiness you'll metaphorically look into the eyes of your own fears, doubts, frustrations, anger, etc. You see, its those just previously mentioned that can hold you back from taking the next step forward inevitably moving past one of many challenging relationship obstacles. What it primarily comes down to is having the desire, fortitude, and determination to want to be a part of something so wonderfully special you'll thank God as you look back at all at what you've been able to accomplish together whether it be good or bad. As said before, love is not only about overcoming obstacles and facing challenges; but its also involves fighting to be together. Unfortunately, there are some people who tend to give up too easily when facing the seemingly overwhelming obstacles in the face of potentially establishing a significant relationship. Sadly, it's an unfortunate situation concerning how particular guys, as well as girls give into the fear, doubt, frustration, anger, etc. and end up taking the pathetic/cowardly option of not facing the challenges that lies before them. Granted, one could have very well looked forward to the endless possibilities/opportunities, but have found himself/herself reflecting back on painful regrets. Let me tell you something ladies and gentlemen, it's these kind of individuals who don't deserved to be in a relationship because they do everything in their power to avoid and kind of difficult challenges to where they eventually bail on such things as commitment. Let me ask you this question to those who are in a potential and/or significant relationship, does your best friend for life help challenge you in every way and vice versa? Thinking about it further, to have someone in your life who mentally, personally, emotionally, and spiritually challenges you shows a person how much a big influence he/she is to you. In other words, being the guy/girl who even though causes the loved one to become irritated/annoyed he/she has the innate ability to be supportive by continually pushing, encouraging, and motivating in a deeply positive way. Granted, the end result may not necessarily turn out how one wanted but at least you tried knowing full well your husband/bf/wife/gf has been by your side every step of the way. Anthony Robbins said, ~Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give and not a place that you go to take.~ In retrospect, what one can challenge themselves is by constistantly showing/giving their trust, faith, honesty, integrity, unwavering hope, constant communication, deep understanding, 100% full commitment, etc. Of course, it will be hard and yet it's so worth it. In the end, to those living the single life such as myself we'll finally meet "the one" who wants to be challenged in every sense of the word and once we do, we'll smile saying the following two words: challenge accepted.