Saturday, May 18, 2013

I Got You

John Scott once said, ~It seems we are capable of immense love and loyalty, and as capable of deceit and strategy. Its probably the shocking ambivalence that makes us unique.~ Without a doubt, there is most definitely a unique difference when it comes to meeting/being with a genuinely real guy/girl who has the immense capability of being absolutely loyal in regards to being in a significant relationship. The unique difference is the rarity of truly experiencing a type of unwavering loyalty in which he/she solidly stands by your side to the point where you find yourself in amazed disbelief. Hey, to personally that innate sense of loving loyalty can bring about or has brought a smile to your face knowing full well he/she will never leave your side.

If you think about it, men and women have the capacity to love and be loyal with every fiber of their being to one person. Unfortunately, it's not the case nowadays as a number of individuals experienced for themselves in the past or recently the harsh, painful reality of being betrayed. So, what has been lost? Thinking about it, what's lost is not having any idea what the true meaning of loyalty is anymore. You see, the true meaning of loyalty regarding matters of the heart is holding strong to the valuable/cherished standards of what makes being in a relationship so worthwhile. Trust, patience, faith, honor, respect, honestly, understanding, communication, commitment, etc, are key aspects that if continually kept alive instead of ignored will thrive because of the strength within the bond of loyalty shared with each other.

As I said before, to meet a genuinely real guy/girl who is uniquely different from all the rest and exudes unwavering loyalty can leave you feeling a mixture of amazed disbelief. True, it certainly can be a shock to the system experiencing something one may not be used to so much so you want to pinch yourself. Sadly, betrayal and love are synonymous with each other to where it's an all too common occurrence for many as the deceit and atrocities oftentimes done in secrecy by a past love. In some aspect, it's like a knife plunged deeply into one's own heart by him/her. Essentially, that knife is/can be considered both a strength, as well as a weakness and it takes having a special someone who'll you'll put 100% trust in to be able to finally remove the utter heartbreak you've been holding on to for quite some time.

Let me ask this question to those who have been betrayed in the past or recently, do you personally believe there are men and women still adhering to the concept of loyalty concerning love/true love or it's merely a lost ideal? My answer is yes and quite frankly one can't have the deluded that once you're in a relationship he/she is going to cheat/betray you, which will mess with you not only mentally but emotionally also. Women, more so than men, tend to think this way and it can cause or already has caused complications in a potential relationship. However, the cycle of mistrust can be broken and the lost ideal can gradually be found once again. How? What it primarily comes down to is him/her proving to you how trustworthy he/she is by simply standing by your side every step of the way rather than behind you.

In retrospect, love and loyalty can be a difficult combo to find or even have these days. Granted, a person can have love but without loyalty and everything else in between that's important it's not considerably unique. Essentially, every relationship is the same but it's the special uniqueness that makes the loving loyalty shared between two people far different from everyone else. The betrayal of your own fears, doubts, frustration, confusion, etc. plays a pivotal role when your own heart is on the line and yet you risk it in hopes he/she doesn't walk away when things around get crazy/tough. In the end, you know you're standing at the fringe of true happiness bonded in the strength of loyalty when he/she will not only be there for you sometimes without even being asked, but says three comforting words bringing a smile to your heart if/when you fall...I got you.

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