Monday, December 31, 2012

A New Chapter (Last Yodaism of 2012)

Liss Mariyama once said, ~If a relationship is to evolve, it must go through a series of endings.~ Without a doubt, one of the or quite possibly THE toughest things in regards to establishing a potential/and or significant relationship is being able to move on from a past one. For it can most definitely be a considerably easy situation indeed for some but unfortunately there are a number of men/women who are unable to let go of the past in order to have a fresh start with a certain special someone. Thinking about it, a truly worthwhile relationship won't be able to ever experience longevity if he/she is constantly looking over their shoulder so much so it is literally holding him/her back from moving on not only with the present, but the future as well.

If you think about it, it's a true statement to adhere to concerning that for a relationship to evolve it must go through a series of endings. Essentially, one of those ending is eliminating the hypocrite you have within you when it pertains to taking back a promise you made for yourself involving a recent past relationship ending in utter heartbreak. In other words, practice what you preach for your own heart knowing full well your family and friends will be shaking their heads in disbelief, as well as disappointment for the mistakes in the decisions made you know deep down in the pit of your gut are/were absolutely wrong. Hey, we're all human but for the sake of love/true love and not to mention emotional/mental sanity you have to stick to your word or once again face dire consequences.

As said before, there a number of people who are unable to let go of the past in order to have a fresh start with a certain special someone. In that instance, you have to re-evaluate being the supposed victim because in all honestly it was much more your fault than it is his/hers. What do I mean? As harsh as it may sound, there are those who really need to hear the cold, hard truth. It's a sad state of affairs for any any guy/girl who simply find themselves going back to the person that hurt him/her the most thinking it will be different this time and things will change for the better. However, the unfortunately reality of it all is that it's neither different nor has it changed causing the same feelings, thoughts, and emotions to rise up. So, does this sound familiar to anyone reading this?

Let me ask you this question to those who are living the single life who have the tendency to continually look back instead of looking forward, what is the one thing you have to concentrate on ending in the so called battlefield of love? If you answered feeling as if you're always a casualty of love, so to speak, then you're correct. You see, what it primarily comes down to is having the common sense to know you were in an extremely toxic relationship, especially for women. Granted, it's difficult to move forward but it can be done by doing as what Dr. Phil calls it a relationship autopsy but in my version you simply break down the pros and cons instead of making a timeline of the relationship itself. Let me tell you something, if the cons outweigh the pros then you're smart enough to know ladies you deserve far better for yourself.

In retrospect, the year 2012 is coming to an end and 2013 begins at the stroke of midnight giving each one of us the opportunity for a fresh start. Of course, for those who are hoping to meet someone, fall in love, and potentially be in a worthwhile, long term significant relationship then I wish you luck. Yet, when it comes to matters of the heart just be patient, take your time and don't rush into a relationship too quickly. Ultimately, every marriage starts off as a friend and it inevitably builds up from there, which is the best way to go. Granted, there may not be chemistry there to begin with but time will tell in the long run. In the end, the possibility of true happiness awaits us in a new chapter that is 2013 peeps; but in the meantime live life, focus on you, have fun with family/friends, and make the most of it.

1 comment:

Jena Mae Nacar said...

This is bulls-eye..:) Hit me through and through..:) thanks for the article brother! :)