In Your Cup

Teal Swan once said, ~Imagine each person like a cup, but a cup that does not tip. And imagine love like a fluid inside that cup. We want to give love to others, but because we are cups that cannot tip, we cannot give them love. So how do we give love to others? We give it to ourselves. We fill up our own cup with love to the degree that our cup overflows and spills over to other people and eventually to the world~ If you think about it, when it comes to the matters of the heart in regards to a strong, worthwhile relationship it can, in a sense, be compared to water being poured into a clear glass cup. For its a thought provoking situation indeed as you want that clear glass cup representing not only your heart, but the heart of someone special to be filled with aspects of true happiness that hopefully remains crystal clear like water and doesn't leave a bad taste in your mouth, so to speak.

Without a doubt, for those living the single life they certainly want the glass cup of their heart filled with true happiness to the point where it's overflowing with positivity, in a manner of speaking. Thinking about it further, the overflow of positivity is a representation of qualities you want to share with a forever best friend such as faith, integrity, honor, respect, honesty, loyalty, understanding, communication, commitment, etc. Hey, it's considered a rarity to actually find it all in one person, but he/she is out there somewhere. Essentially, it's those previously mentioned shared qualities you work hard together in keeping the relationship clear from any unresolved issues or unwanted drama. Why? For the most part, it's to avoid tainting/contaminating the water and have it end up so incredibly dark and toxic it's impossible to see anything in the glass itself.

As I said before, you work hard together in keeping the relationship clear from any unresolved issues or unwanted drama. Why? For the most part, its to avoid tainting/contaminating the water and have it end up so incredibly dark and toxic it's impossible to see anything in the glass itself. I think its safe to say every person has faced a situation in a relationship where there's a tremendous amount of difficulty in figuring out and seeing any sort of solutions to a problem. Anger, self doubt, hatred, worry, sadness, confusion, frustration, bitterness, disappointment, utter contempt, etc. are the quintessential toxic elements you don't want mixed in the relationship. Oftentimes, it's right there clear as day but you don't want to or refuse to see it. Of course, when you're unable to see things clearly between one another the overflow of negativity spills out causing an absolute mess in every sense of the word.

Let me ask this question to those living the single who are in the dating scene, do you have a set mindest/expectations of having your glass cup always full? In other words, knowing what you want in a relationship and going after it with not only utmost confidence, but a focused, driving determination to achieve a purposeful objective, which is truly admirable. However, that filled to the brim type of confidence and drive ultimately loses its purpose because of wanting quantity over quality. What it primarily comes down to is not making things overly complicated for yourself or with that guy/girl in question thus causing the water to get instantly diluted even before it gets all intents and purposes poured in the cup. You see, what ends up happening is you're constantly dumping out water and if that happens you're going to be left metaphorically holding in your hand an empty glass or in this particular case an empty heart.

In retrospect, each one of us starts off as an empty glass cup and when we fill it little by little with our potential and/or significant relationship experiences they become learning experiences. Experiences like a first crush, kiss, heartbreak, dating, engagements, marriage, divorce, etc. that we all hopefully grow from personally, mentally, emotionally, spiritally, and physically due to those negative aspects of a relationship. For the question can be asked, does it leave or has left any of us jaded? Ultimately, it's the positive aspects of the journey in the pursuit of love/true love that we do our best in trying to keep our thoughts, feelings, as well as emotions clear like a natural spring water that makes it all while and so incredibly refreshing to drink. That's something to look forward to. In the end, I ask those who are single and in a relationship how clear is the water when you look in your cup?