Saturday, July 08, 2017
In the Pocket
George Leonard once said, ~At the heart of each of us, whatever our imperfections, there exists a silent pulse of perfect rhythm, which is absolutely individual and unique and yet which connects us to everything else.~ If you think about it, when it comes to matters of the heart there is an unpredictable rhythm that can most definitely be frustratingly confusing to figure out. In other words, trying to establish a relatively good read on someone who has a far different, as well as unique set pattern than anyone else you've met before. In any case, it's a type of unpredictable rhythm in which you try your very best to personally, mentally, emotionally, and to mention physically prepare yourself in engaging someone you're absolutely interested only to be completely thrown off by him/her. Without a doubt, there is an unpredictable rhythm that can most definitely be frustratingly confusing to figure out in regards to matters of the heart. I think its safe to say when you're truly interested in someone you try to establish an innate pattern of movement, flow, and/or tempo to match theirs, so to speak. Of course, it's considerably difficult to determine the exact rhythm in a person's heart because of how it can unexpectedly change at any given moment whereby making it harder for any sort of connection whatsoever. For the most part, you have to let it flow naturally instead of forcing it or it will all fall part. What it primarily comes down to is being able to have a sense of a comfortably smooth ease with someone to the point where there isn't a build up of tension and awkwardness between each other. As I said before, when you're interested in someone you can certainly be completely thrown off in a good way. You see, each one of has our own unique sense of personal, mental, emotional, and physical rhythm and when/if all 5 become effected it throws off our balance, in a manner of speaking. True, we've all been in a situation where there is a nice steady beat happening with a certain someone and you start experiencing fluctuations so much so you kick yourself for embarrassing things such as stumbling over words. Hey, in our head they make perfect sense but when the attempt to say it out loud fails you try to fix it by saying something else only making the situation even worse for yourself. Essentially, when you lose that initial internal flow of rhythm it in all intense and purposes turns into a domino effect of utter embarrassment. Let me ask this question to those who are in a potential and/or significant relationship, how long did it take you before you were able to find a steady rhythm pertaining to a strong, worthwhile relationship? Granted, not all relationships that are considered a success have the same rhythm and if they did it wouldn't be uniquely different from everyone else's. Oftentimes, it's a slight distinctness a couple shares with each other that sets them both apart from other couples shows that even though they may experience the unfortunate rise and fall of love/true love they can somehow be able to always get back on the same wavelength in every sense of the word. Hey, like any and all relationships it takes hard work in creating a distinctive rhythm so uniquely your own and it may very well be described by others as offbeat. Agnes Fischer said, ~Our breath, like our heartbeat, is the most reliable rhythm in our lives. When we become attuned to this constant rhythm, our breath can gradually teach us to come back to the original silence of the mind.~ In retrospect, the rhythm of true happiness is out there for those living the single life like myself to find. For it's just a matter of being aptly attuned to it without really focusing on it completely if that makes any sense at all. In any case, instead of finding it you merely create it for yourself and eventually someone will taken notice and will feel what you're positively putting out there. In the end, when it finally happens for you take your time in finding the rhythm of your own heart beforehand and you'll eventually find yourself in the pocket of a uniquely, offbeat groove representing your best friend for life.