Monday, January 16, 2017
Heart of Gold
George Eliot once said, ~Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.~ If you think about it, when it comes to the matters of the heart it can at times feel as if you're a prospector panning for a strong, worthwhile relationship worth it's weight in gold. What's primarily being panned for is the absolute comfort in knowing and truly feeling a sense of safety without having one's own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions not only being weighed but measured as well, in a manner of speaking. However, there's most definitely a reason to celebrate when suddenly finding yourself in all intense and purposes striking it rich after constantly sifting through the proverbial dark and murky stream otherwise known as the dating scene. As I said before, when it comes to matters of the heart it can feel as if you're a prospector panning for a strong, worthwhile relationship worth its weight in gold. True, it can certainly be a tough and not to mention frustrating situation indeed for those living the single life panning through the waters of the dating scene because of how dark, as well as murky it can be. Essentially, one hopefully finds within the so called dating scene stream of murky darkness after sifting through it all are the bright, rich elements considerably important in one's own pan, representing the human heart. Thinking about it further, the bright and rich elements such as patience, trust, respect, faith, love, honor, honesty, hope, intimacy, understanding, compassion, contentment, communication etc. have been deemed considerably rare, as well as hard to find these days; but at the same time its out there waiting to be found if one doesn't give up entirely. Without a doubt, a prospector will come up empty and depending how long that streak will last it leads to a plethora of mixed emotions. Oftentimes it's those aforementioned mixed emotions like anger, doubt, frustration, sadness, disappointment, utter contempt, bitterness, etc. happen when coming up empty in regards to panning for then sifting through the golden possibility of true happiness. Unfortunately, finding the right spot/location doesn't always pan out, so to speak, whereby the determination to keep going gradually becomes lost. I think it's safe to say the same can be said when it comes to the mindset that there aren't any good men or women where he/she is currently located. You see, with the use of social media nowadays an individual can now make his/her attempt behind a computer to digitally pan for and inevitably sift through the dark, murky online stream of Facebook, Instagram, eHarmony, OKCupid, Plenty Of Fish, Tinder, Match.com, etc. in hopes to strike it rich. Let me ask his question to my fellow prospectors out there, do you know what mineral pyrite or iron pyrite is? If you answered fools gold then you would be correct as the mineral's metallic luster and pale brass-yellow hue give it a superficial resemblance to gold. In a sense, men and women can certainly think they've struck it rich only to be totally fooled by the superficial outward appearance regarding a potential forever best friend. Granted, it can be quite difficult to differentiate between what's real and not real because of how easily foolish one can sometimes be into thinking along with feeling he/she may have a relationship that's good as gold. What it primarily comes down to is taking the time and having the patience to pan for then sift through with careful hands or should I say a careful heart in making the proper judgment on whether the quintessential mineral tests concerning the guy/girl in question come out to be 100% pure gold. In retrospect, being a prospector in search of gold is a daunting task that can take months or maybe even years of their lives to where they may possibly see absolutely no results to show in their efforts, which is a profession of highs and lows. However for those living the single life like myself it may take months or even years all the while experiencing the highs and lows of dating to one day strike it rich in love/true love. It's a sad state of affairs when people give up and quit despite getting so close because they've managed to let the negative rather than the positive aspects get to them so much so it pushes them to the brink of insanity. Ultimately, it sometimes all boils down to is a matter of luck and not to mention the right tools at their disposal. In the end, no matter how long it takes you just have to keep digging and panning then sifting through until you eventually discover all the bright rich elements you've been hoping to find in that certain someone special who'll have a heart of gold.