Wednesday, July 06, 2016
The Comfort Zone
Susannah York once said, ~A relationship is lovely if you're happily comfortable in it and you really like the person. I can think of nothing better. But there's nothing worse than having a relationship in which you feel no interest.~ Without a doubt, to be in a type of loving, caring, worthwhile relationship is something every single person is striving for to have some day including myself. For it's a type of relationship in which you feel a sense of ease not only within yourself, but within the guy/girl as well. Yet, experiencing that sense of comfortable ease in a relationship can most definitely lead one, the other, or both to be too comfortable to the point where the challenge of wanting to find out more surprising and interesting things about each other gradually fades away. Let me ask this question to those who have been in a potential and/or significant relationship, has there been at any point where you felt absolutely comfortable but unfortunately the interest was subsequently lost causing you to become bored? Thinking about it further, the possible reason of the gradual disinterest leading to utter boredom is the lack of being challenged personally and mentally. Women, more so than men are far more interested when they've been positively stimulated in more of a personal and mental sense. In other words, being able to grab her attention in such a way where the guy is able to successfully lock/hold on to it like a tractor beam in hopes of continually keeping it, which is considered to be a difficult take indeed depending on the female in question. If you think about it, when newfound relationships are forged there is a certain grace period where not revealing how abnormally weird you are is one of those unwritten dating rules to adhere to. True, once the relationship has further progressed the wall of abnormal weirdness comes down revealing the truly unique side of yourself in a releasing the kraken kind of the way. Of course, having a guy/girl who is also abnormally weird as you are can be like winning the lottery so much so you feel you're rich beyond belief, so to speak in regards to true happiness. However, the wealth of an abnormally weird relationship never runs out only if both individuals try their very best to keep each smiling and laughing. Essentially, it's being able to think outside the proverbial relationship box that makes it such an interesting challenge. For the question can be ask to you ladies, how long does it take for you to be truly interested in a guy before you make the decision to either part ways or continue on? Seconds? Minutes? Hours? Days? Weeks? Months? Years? Oftentimes, the mark of a truly great a guy is when he isn't satisfied in just wanting to be comfortable after establishing a relationship. You see ladies, what he wants is to show he's making a conscious effort to get to know you on a deeply personal level showing that you're more than just a physical relationship to him, which would make any woman feel special. Granted, we may embarrassingly fail at it every now and then but at least we made the effort to try. What it primarily comes down to is constantly doing the homework, in a manner speaking, because there's always something new, interesting, and/or surprising to learn if you pay close attention. Someone said, ~Never get comfortable in a relationship that you forget you can be replaced.~ In retrospect, there is always going to be an incentive of not wanting to lose someone you can potentially take for granted of after working so hard to establish such a strong a relationship with him/her because it was just comfortable. If it does, there comes a point it becomes a going through the motions type of relationship that reveals how tremendously lazy one or both people are. Ultimately, it's sad state of affairs when it's realized too late because he, she, or both simply lost interest in the challenge of wanting to answer the questions to the mysterious enigma that is love/true pertaining to their best friend for life. In the end, I say this to those who are in a significantly worthwhile relationship don't get too comfortable, challenge yourselves, and every once in while make sure to step out of the comfort zone.