Friday, December 19, 2014

Bah Humbug

Former Oasis front man Noel Gallagher once said, ~You’ve got to be strong enough for love. It’s very easy to be cool and cynical. It’s very difficult to just let yourself go and be in love. You’ve got to be strong enough for that.~ Without a doubt, a person can most definitely experience a tremendous amount of cynicism regarding love or true love for that matter. The emotions or lack thereof doesn’t happen right away as it’s a gradual process. For it’s a sad state of affairs indeed to be the type of guy/girl to have a cynical outlook when it pertains to their own heart. A heart that has possibly been weakened by so much pain, disappointment, and utter heartbreak a metaphorical strong wall is/has been built up around it that it’s tough for anyone who is even remotely real, as well as genuine to penetrate past the thick outer exterior.

As said before, it’s very easy to be cool and cynical these days especially for individuals like myself who are living the single life. Thinking about it further, any kind of loving affection exchanged between a couple can oftentimes cause a seemingly automatic reaction full of sarcastic cynicism. A reaction in which a person can’t help but either cringe, roll their eyes, sound off in disgust, or whatever the case may be. In other words, exuding an I don’t care mentality. True, there is an absolute disinterest in witnessing couples expressing and sharing their mutual fondness for each other to the point where the proverbial Grinch within us emerges forth. Essentially, it’s the outward display of true happiness with someone’s potentional and/or significant other can certainly leave any cynical guy/girl’s heart to shrink rather than grow in size.

If you think about it, there are many factors that can make it difficult for any cynical person to let or should I say allow themselves to feel after experiencing pain, disappointment, and/or utter heartbreak. Of course, special event and holidays like Christmas may have a positive effect for couples spending quality time together whereby bringing out the romantic side in both people. However, for us so called Grinches out there the lack of having an other half bring forth at times a negative effect so much so it can not only be extremely rough, but quite frankly sadly depressing as well. Hey, despite not having the warmth of a bf/gf/husband/wife to cuddle with there is the warmth of one’s gal pals and best buds to hang with to keep you company.

Let me ask you this question to those who when it comes to true happiness subsequently wrap themselves up in a cocoon of cynicism? What do I mean? You see, these days a worthwhile marriage relationship reaching 3 years is unfortunately considered a success. I think it’s safe to say in today’s society that when anyone hears about a relationship breaking apart the immediate reaction isn’t concern. Instead, the go to reaction is not being surprised at all towards the outcome to where people actually expected it to fail and predicted the probable break up beforehand. Hey, it’s an unfortunate mentality we’ve grown accustomed to and for a certain number of people they’ve fully embraced it while others haven’t, which for them there is a glimmer of hope.

In retrospect, being cynical about love and embracing a grinchy attitude about it is a personal choice. Granted, a person can continually express their pessimistic displeasure vocally about it and venting a long list of reason on why they’ll never experience their happily ever after. On the other hand, you can choose to be totally optimistic while keeping busy focusing on something other than finding/meeting your best friend for life. What it primarily comes down to not fully embracing the “love is for suckers” mentality knowing full well that even though you’ve heard stories or witnessed failed after failed relationships it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to be just another unlucky in love statistic. In the end, for a sarcastically cynical guy like myself I honestly don’t rule myself out in falling in love someday; but to those who have ruled it out completely two words best sum up their feeling about it…bah humbug.

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