Sunday, July 07, 2013
Speak To Me
Sara Paddison once said, ~Have the courage to be sincere, clear, and honest. This opens the door to deeper communication all around. It creates self empowerment and the kind of connection with other we want in life. Speaking from the heart frees us from the secrets that burdens us. These secrets are what make us sick or fearful. Speaking truth helps you get clarity on your real heart directives.~ Without a doubt, one of the key aspects in being in a worthwhile, long lasting relationship is the exchange of open and deep communication. For it's most definitely a heartwarming situation indeed for any person to have someone they can truly confide in, especially when its their best friend for life. Hey, to have a confidant such as that in which you can speak freely with without any of fear whatsoever can leave you smiling from ear to ear. Let me ask you this question to those in a significant relationship, does there continue to be open communication between the two of you to the point where there is an absolute deeper understanding of each other? You see, being able to have an open dialogue with your partner gives one the opportunity to continually learn/know more about him/her and vice versa. As I said before, there is much deeper understanding when you're opening yourself mentally, personally, spiritually, and not to mention emotionally in regards to their/your past, present, as well as future. True, there is an innate fear of revealing too much but of it's done with gradual ease and not all at once to where it's overwhelms him/her then you're doing it the right way. If you think about it, having a lack of open communication has the propensity to not only put a strain in a significant relationship, but can tear it apart also without even uttering a single word. Of course, the exchange of verbal arguments leads to things being unfortunately said in the heat of the moment due to anger and that in turn initiates the silent treatment. Granted, women are more than likely to initiate it and truth be told they are Jedi masters at it. In any case, nothing is solved because you're both stubborn nobody takes the initiative to safe face and apologize in order to have a possible clear path of open dialogue. Thinking about it further, even though one may not have started the verbal war of words causing mental and emotional pain, an attempt is made to make amends because he/she is worth it. For the question can be asked to you women concerning the man you married, was it difficult or easy for you to have an open discussion from the time you met until now? I think it's safe to say it's difficult for guys to express themselves emotionally because from the time we're young we've been taught to internalize our thoughts, feelings, and emotions. In other words, expressing ourselves regarding matters of the heart shows weakness...but I digress. However, to freely talk with and share openly with him/her how you're thinking and feeling about the guy/girl you love frees one of the burdens weighing down on their shoulders. The fears, worries, doubts, and whatever else being lifted away causing you to be a much more happier person, which is what every person living the single life wants to experience for themselves. Dinah Craik said, ~Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are-chaff and grain together-certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.~ In retrospect, the relief, contentment and security you feel when you know full well the person you're speaking to'with involving everything shared between the two of you is kept in the vault brings joy to your heart. Ultimately, you don't have to worry about him/her breaking your confidence because in the end, when you're having a bad day or just simply want to talk you know you'll never be uneasy when you hear the following three words: speak to me.