Let me ask you this question, how many of you endured past heartbreaks that not only have left you feeling discouraged, but in all intensive purposes also left you emotionally constipated? When I say emotionally constipated I mean not allowing yourself to deal with whatever past emotions you've been surpressing pertaining to a past relationship to where you exude a cold I don't care attitude. It can be so easy to forget being wronged/spurned, but the toughest thing in being able to easily forget are the issues you worked to avoid because there comes a point where those particular issuses slowly comes to the surface leading you to eventually have to face your proverbial demons that have been lurking deep within your heart, Hey, you have to endure the pangs of sorrow before you ever experiences the jos of true happiness, which makes love so frustratingly blissful.
Without a doubt, the emotional baggage you carry around with you can be an absolute heavy burned to bear leading you to become weak because of the drama associated with a past relationship. I think it's safe to say that there comes a point where you just don't/care at all to deal with anything or talk to anyone causing you to hide both physically, as well as, metaphorically within yourself. Women, more so than guys, tend to do this as they give a sense of strength on the outside, but on the inside they're curled up in the fetal position crying in a dark corner of their heart. However, its when she's at her weakest a woman is able to let all her burdens drain out through tears being shed whereby giving her the fortitude to stand/pull herself both in a external/internal way, wipe the last remaining tears away, and get back in the game, which shows a sign of true strength of the heart.
For the question can be asked to those you, if any, who have suffered a recent breakup, how did it personally make you feel? Here''s another question, was the reason for the break up a valid explanation or was it the usual "it's not you its me" excuse leaving you to wonder/question your value as person? Its a sad situation indeed to see someone or are that someone who unfortuantely thinks/feels they aren't worthy in sight of a guy/girl who has taken an interest in him/her because certain things such as confidence, self-esteem, etc. take a real big hit, so to speak. Though I have never been in a relationship to experience that type of hit, I have felt the stinging hit of rejection quite well leading me to become a sarcastic cynic...but I digress. In any case, your true value/worth as a person will be seen and all it ever takes is time for that person...whoever he/she is...to see it.
In retrospect, when it comes to the journey that is love or true love for that matter it can feel like you're in a seemingly tough battle in which you're either defending or fighting for the happiness of your own heart. For some, most, or all people they feel as if they've been defending their heart from being hurt more times than fighting for it to where each day is an internal struggle to see the quintessential silver lining. Its at that point you not only rely on God as you pray to Him to help strengthen you through the tough times in your heart, but also your friends as well who will/are always there for you to either catch you when you fall or take your hand when you need someone to reach out to. You see, its easy to give up on tough times concerning your own heart, but with the love of God and your friends by your side you keep holding on to where instead of defending your heart...you fight for it, which is a song by Avril Lavigne that best reflects this thought.