To The Ends Of The Earth

Andrew Sullivan once said, ~The essence of romantic love is not the company of a lover, but the pursuit.~ Let me ask you this question to those who are and were in the dating scene, what aspect of it is considered to be such a thrilling albeit considerably interesting experience? You would most definitely be correct in saying the pursuit or chase it's also known as an aspect of the dating scene where there can oftentimes be a love/hate mentality associated with it. However, it's the possibility of establishing a potentially worthwhile relationship that makes the pursuit of romantic love an absolute challenge. For it's a challenge in which the individual in pursuit puts forth 100% effort into capturing the attention, interest, and ultimately the heart of that certain someone who caught his/her eye.

Without a doubt, women love being pursued by a guy knowing it makes them feel noticed, desired, and not to mention attractive. It's a flattering situation indeed for any woman to not only have a man's adoration and admiration directed towards her, but is persistent in his efforts to not give up when previous attempts have failed. When I say persistent it's not in the same context of being annoyingly stalker-ish where the guy seemingly can't take the hint that she's not interested. You see, it relates more to putting in the work whereby showing there is genuine interest on his part and I think many women would agree that any guy who is serious, as well as patient in his romantic pursuit concerning matters of the heart shows her his intentions are to be a permanent instead of a temporary fixture in their life.

As said before, there can oftentimes be a love/hate mentality associated with the aspect of the pursuit/chase regarding the dating scene. Why? If you think about it, girls don't really enjoy being pursued by a guy who only wants to get with her rather than be with her. Trust me, there is a difference. The difference is when the gentlemen in question wants to get with her he's not paying attention to anything being said because he's solely focused on making her his next conquest whereas the guy who wants to be with her is there for her paying attention to the conversation to the point where he can repeat back parts of the conversation they shared together. So to all you ladies currently in the dating scene, who have you found yourself encountering...the get with her guy or be with her guy?

For the question can be asked to the women out there who were pursued by their significant other, what did he do right ultimately letting you know he was possibly marriage material? I think it would be safe to say no playing games, being himself and not being overly aggressive towards her to where she doesn't end up feeling threatened/scared/creeped out are just a few qualities/characteristics on their proverbial guy list that inevitably scores points with them. Thinking about it further, respect and consideration go along way with the female species leading their insecurities to fade away essentially replacing it with a sense of comfortable security from their pursuer who knows what truly makes a woman feel absolutely special not just in the big ways but in the little ways as well.

In retrospect, the word pursuit doesn't necessarily mean the act of chasing or being chased. True, there is the physical aspect of pursuit in the attempt to make a connection that we've all been accustomed to since the dawn of time but there's also the aspect of pursuing where it involves making a connection that is spiritual, mental, and certainly emotional. Hey, it's important for a woman to have those connections because it determines whether or not a guy is worth her time. In any case, when it comes to the pursuit of true happiness it should be fun and casual for both individuals rather than have it be an uncomfortable, awkward situation. In the end, I say to any of you ladies that have an incredibly great, romantic guy in their life who hasn't stopped pursuing you, I hope he continues to do so even to the ends of the earth.