That's Real

Someone once said, ~Real love hurts, real love makes you totally open and vulnerable. Real love will take you far behind yourself, and therefore real love will devastate you. If love doesn't shatter you, you will not know love.~ Without a doubt, real love is something every person like myself is anxiously waiting for. For a certain number of people they are currently experiencing the euphoric bliss of real love that has taken them to places within that is remarkably amazing and too few people have traveled, so to speak. However, for some people they've experienced the utter misfortune of fake love that hasn't taken their heart anywhere except to an all too familiar place where broken hearts and shattered dreams of true happiness reside.

If you think about it, when it comes to the aspect of real love it gives the opportunity to willingly put their heart on the line for each other by opening themselves up not just in the physical sense, but in the emotional sense as well. It's a tough situation indeed to open up emotionally as you're allowing yourself to be seen as the person you truly are rather than the person you're not. Thinking about it, you can most definitely close yourself off to certain aspects of your life that you're afraid to share because it's just either too embarrassing or too painful to talk about. Let me tell you something, real love sits right by your side crying/laughing along with you and not at/because of you, whereby making the relationship between the two of you a much stronger dynamic.

As said before, experiencing the misfortune of fake love leaves you for all intents and purposes stranded alone in the middle of nowhere within your heart. It's a sad state of affairs for those who have been in a past relationship where what they thought was real love was in fact just a mere illusion on his/her part. Essentially, love is capable of being real if two people work hard in order to make it that way. However, when you have a guy/girl who acts as if its real, doesn't put in the work, and only in the relationship for superficial reasons then it makes the reality of being used than loved all the more devastating, which is seemingly prevalent these days with the rise of the break up rate in couples not only in the dating world, but also in the marriage world in regards to divorce.

Let me ask you this questions to those who are in significant relationships, has there ever been a situation that both of you experienced where it tested how real your love for each is? Oftentimes, one of the biggest challenges in a relationship to face is having arguments that test you're willingness to actually listen to each other in order to work through/solve the particular problem or just sit there acting like you're listening but all you're doing is thinking up what're going to say to make your point known, which quite frankly makes matters even worse. Hey, when you really love someone you take the time to sit down, opening both your heart and your ears to listen, taking everything that he/she has to say because if both aren't open then you're not communicating properly.

In retrospect, the difference between real love and fake love boils down to many things but for me personally it's about one thing...not being selfish. You know you have a love that is truly real when the sincerity of one's thoughts and actions are shown from his/her own heart in an unselfish way for one's significant other. In the end, love isn't some make believe fairy tale fantasy that always has relationships ending happy ever after because that's not real; but if you accept the harsh reality of how seriously hard relationship can be and how it takes constant hard work in being able to open up, being fully present, and communicate with each other when arguments occur whereby making the story love or true love for that matter so special then my friend I say to you now that's real.