In Good Hands

Josh McDowell once said, ~How do you spell love?...When you reach the point where the happiness, security, and development of another person is as much of a driving force to you as your own happiness, security, and development, then you have a mature love. True love is spelled G-I-V-E. It is not based on what you can get, but rooted in what you can give to the other person.~ Let me ask you this question, what is the one thing every person wants to be given in a relationship from that someone special other than trust, honesty, openness, commitment, and communication? Essentially, that one thing each one of us want to be given is security. For its that sense of security in which you put your absolute assurance in him or her to protect you in three ways: emotionally, mentally, and physically.

A woman, more than anything, most definitely wants to have that emotional security from a guy who can make her feel safe within herself. Safe in the sense that he is able to gently handle the seemingly fragile emotions kept within her heart. Yet, it's a sad situation indeed when the safety of her emotions is jeopardized because the guy couldn't be there for her emotionally when she really needs him to be there the most leaving her in a state of vulnerability. However, its within emotional security a woman feels comfortable enough to be openly honest about herself to where she reveals/shares her innermost feelings that scare her inevitably putting trust in him to not only keep the info on the down low, but also accepting the fact she is after all a human being with faults like everybody else.

Without a doubt, what every woman wants from a guy is that underlying security when it pertains to her own thoughts. Thoughts that if not safely secured can lead her to believe she isn't smart, beautiful, etc. to the point where she truly thinks of herself as a loser. For some, most, or all women they've unfortunately experienced situations in the past where guys handled their thoughts concerning their own insecurities that metaphorically beat her down with angry negativity, which makes matters even worse. What it basically comes down to is the choice of words being used and for a woman having a guy who is able to mentally build her up in a positive way rather than negatively tearing her down through harsh criticism gives her the opportunity to freely express her thoughts/ideas/opinions without fear of being ridiculed.

For the question can be asked, how many of you women want to be given that sense of security when it involves a physical relationship? It would be safe to say that every woman wants to feel safe with a guy as he intimately gets to know her in such a way that she is able to communicate her likes/dislikes all-the-while showing her that she is appreciated as a beautiful woman and is not seen as just a piece of meat who he wants to be with in order to in all intensive purposes get in, get out, and move on. Let me tell you something ladies, if you have a guy who takes his time, works with you instead of against you, and doesn't overstep your personal boundaries to where you're never left with a lingering false sense of security whenever you're around him then he's most definitely a keeper.

In retrospect, every woman wants stability in her life as they want to be secure in the fact that they'll be protected in the long haul emotionally, mentally, and physically. They also want to be given that same security financially and spiritually as well. In some aspect, its like having an excellent insurance plan that covers all her bases, so to speak, when something bad happens that threatens their well being. Thinking about it, women want a guy that is like an excellent insurance plan as he's able to ensure that she will always be covered whenever she possibly suffers emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual heartache. In the end, to any woman who has a guy that doesn't rob them of their security and takes excellent care of their heart then all I can say to them is you're in good hands.