Chances Are

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, ~He is who in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly every time he looks at the object beloved drawing from it with his eyes and his mind those virtues which it possesses.~ In some aspect, love is considered one of THE toughest teachers to learn from because you have to suffer some seemingly all-too-familiar mistakes that can leave you feeling embarrassed, stupid, and simply dumbfounded as to what the correct answers are when it comes to matters of the heart. If you think about it, there is an innate wisdom within love that men and women most certainly want to attain to avoid possibly making any kind of mistakes in a potential and/or significant relationship and yet its those same mistakes that you to endure in order to help you in the learning process as you hopefully become personally, as well as, emotionally wise within your heart.

Let me ask you this question to those who consider themselves so called repeat offenders at making the same mistakes of the heart, have you learned anything? Women, more so than guys, tend to place themselves in situations where no matter how many times they thought they've gotten the answer to love or true love for that matter right it turned out to be the wrong one. For each mistake of the heart a woman makes and apologizes ahead of time for saying this lowers the common sense level to the point where if she doesn't wise up she'll be seen as failure in the eyes of love, so to speak. What it comes down to is the sometimes shallow choices made with her eyes in which she supposedly sees all the answers she ever wanted based on the outside, but the end result is usually tears of sadness as they feel disappointed for not being a better student, in a manner of speaking.

Without a doubt, there comes a point where a person encounters so many bad relationship experiences in the past that there are expectations to fail in a future relationship even before it has a chance to even start. It's a sad situation indeed and whether you want to admit it or not you've done it to someone who probably didn't deserve it. In any case, men and women prejudge a particular guy/girl even before he/she opens their mouth, which shows that there is a lack of understanding all the information presented to him/her in the meeting process causing them to miss out on discovering tremendous amounts of knowledge to not just learn from, but also have it initially taught to those who are willing to have their eyes, ears, and mind opened whereby leaving you with a rich, deep, satisfaction within your own heart.

For the question can be asked, how many people believe that love is perfect and that there is someone out there who exudes that same perfection as well? In my opinion, it's a mistake to believe that love is perfect and there is a person who is seen as absolutely perfect because it's these same people who are always looking for the next best thing to come along. In their own minds, they want to continually experience excitement, spontaneity, passion, etc. from him or her and when it starts to disappear the relationship gets boring to where one eventually looks for someone who can fulfill those qualities. Essentially, you just have to appreciate the person you're with, not take him/her for granted, and work hard to make the love you share as close to perfect as you can or you'll end up left behind while those close to/around you exceed ahead of the curve.

In retrospect, we're all students of love and the wisdom it gives is something you don't easily become a master of in an instant. It's just a matter of continually learning and not being frustrated at what love can teach us even though one may think that there is nothing left to learn that they already know, which is a mistake in itself. Hey, that's part of life as mistakes will/are going to be made and it's up to each one of us to be there as a friend, mentor, and teacher for someone who feels like dropping out or about to drop out of the school of love. In the end, for many people they have this mindset that love doesn't give them any chances at all for finding love/true love because of past mistakes that have brutally hurt their heart and yet chances are those past mistakes will truly lead to someone special who will unknowingly help them become wise beyond their years.