Just As I Am

Elizabeth Cameron once said, ~When you like someone, you like them in spite of their faults. When you love someone, you love them with your faults.~ Let me ask you this question, does a potential and/or significant other accept your imperfections to where they don't generally focus on them because in their own mind it's those same imperfections that make you a very unique individual? For some, most, or all people they are lucky enough to have someone who can make them feel comfortable in their own skin and yet there are certain guys, as well as girls, who when establishing a potential and/or significant relationship they tend to take a step back, so to speak, and begin breaking down his or her supposed flaws in three ways: physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Without a doubt, men and women can pick each other physically, in a manner of speaking, when it pertains to zeroing in on specific things that bother them to the point it gets under their skin. For it’s those particular features that to most people are considered very attractive, but to others it just bugs them to no end to where he or she can absolutely have that restless, uncomfortable feeling in the presence of that person whereby one completely focuses on those supposed flaws rather than on him or her as a whole. Whether it's something valid such as crooked teeth and too much application of a type of make-up or something weird/strange like the corners of one's mouth are too curly when he/she smiles and way too perfect teeth, it's just the tip of the iceberg for those who are truly looking for perfection.

Oftentimes, people find that not being able to be in touch with your emotions is considered a big imperfection, especially to many women who want to have a guy that can be emotionally sensitive to her needs. A guy who can show that he cares and not be seen in her eyes as an insensitive jerk when there are sad situations that she would most definitely would want to have the man she loves crying right there along with her by her side. However, you have to remember ladies, you're dealing with the male species who were taught at a very young age to bottle up their emotions and only the way you'll see them cry is if they're dog died or their favorite sports team won a championship, but if you're lucky enough to have this sweet, compassionate, tender-hearted guy in your life then kudos to you.

For the question can be asked, are there any of you who aren't able to mentally move forward in a possibly great relationship? Why do I ask? Well, there are people out there who get to a certain point mentally and then just hit a wall turning that metaphorical roadblock into something deeply psychological. Explanations could be the fear of commitment, intimacy, issues of abandonment, anger, bitterness, resentment, or whatever the case may be are just a few things one can view as a mental flaw, which can not only be difficult, but also time consuming as well to try to work through. Essentially, you just have to face it as a challenge of the heart and if you clear your mind by yourself or with professional help of what is subconsciously holding you back you'll make a tremendous breakthrough towards experiencing true happiness.

In retrospect, when it comes to love or true love for that matter a person can be so busy looking at or trying to find the flaws of others that they don't realize the flaws they themselves have. In the whole scheme of things, nobody is perfect and if everybody were to be with someone who was physically, emotionally, as well as, mentally faultless it would get extremely annoying after a while. Why? In all intents and purposes, love is about accepting imperfections that you will most certainly miss if he or she was out of your life and in a funny way, the imperfect person you're going to spend your life with will indeed be perfect for you. In the end, every person hopes to one day stand or is standing in front of someone who they can say with an open heart to him/her will you love me despite all my imperfections and will you take me just as I am, which is a song that somewhat reflects this thought by the 70's/80's Soft Rock Band known as Air Supply.