Reality Bites

Someone once said, ~Sometimes its hard to face reality. You feel the greatest feeling every time you're with them. You can't sleep just because you'll see them tomorrow. Every time you're with them its like a moment in heaven. Soon enough the magic disappears. Your heart is breaking and tears constantly come. Every beat of your heart hurts from all the pain. You wish you were hidden from all the world, and maybe all the pain would go away. Sometimes, its hard to face reality. Love - its not always what it seems.~ When it comes to love, as well as, matters of the heart, there comes a point where a person needs to or must be given a reality check that is considered harsh, ugly, brutal and yet its truthful.

If you think about it, there is a twisted narcissistic element hidden within love to where a person will play on certain emotions to basically stroke their own ego and pride. Its that all about me mentality that can have the person who supposedly loves/loved you actually manipulate you with words that are either knowingly or unknowingly harsh. For its these knowingly harsh words "you don't love me anymore" that can truly hit below the belt, so to speak, as he or she plays on the guilt one may be feeling. Yet, he or she knows how truly devoted you are/were as you spent countless nights crying over him or her. Let me ask you this question, was that ever said to you and can you remember the person who said it?

Without a doubt, love is a beautiful thing and yet it can turn ugly to where it's dark, dreary, and most of all depressing, which people choose to ignore. Unfortunately, you can't ignore what is always going to be there no matter how hard you try to suppress or hide it. The anger, hate, bitterness, resentment, etc. that you may have locked away within your heart from an extremely bad past relationship can crossover into a seemingly great one. Its those unresolved issues that haven't been dealt with can be like a dark cloud hovering over you to where it's starts to build up each time a certain problem is ignored until something big or little happens that unleashes the storm of the century, in a manner of speaking, that is not only ugly but nasty as well.

As I've said in the past, love is a battle worth fighting for that can leave you both metaphorically and emotionally scarred, which is worth it. However, a person has to face a brutal reality concerning love and that is sometimes it really isn't worth fighting for. Essentially, a person can have all the courage, faith, determination to keep fighting, but it’s considered a losing battle to where you simply have to stop, turn around, walk/run away. Even though your heart is in it, in your mind you know you have to give up. A female friend said, ~Some guys...relationships...some love is really not worth fighting for. That's when faith and determination need to be kicked to the curb...and all you need is the courage to get the hell away.~ Do you agree with her?

In retrospect, looking back at past Yodaisms about love I've come to realize that maybe I've been living in a dream world. Initially, there is always a sense of hope that true love will not only bring closure, but true happiness within one's heart. However, no matter how close you are to finding/meeting true love, it seems that he or she will always be just out of reach and for the most part, it doesn't always have a happy ending either. Love can quite honestly be brutally harsh to a point that you can't stand to look at it because of how ugly it can make you or the person who loves/loved you. In the end, when it comes to the realities of love, I've got only two words that best sum up this thought and they are reality bites.