Flag on the Play

Joseph Brodsky once said, ~Life is a game with many rules but no referee. One learns how to play it more by watching it than by consulting a book.~ If you think about it, life is most definitely a game with many rules but no referee. However, what if it actually comes with a referee, especially when it pertains to issues of matters of the heart in regard to either a potential and/or significant relationship. In other words, a relationship referee who is able to have an unbiased opinion/observation without being easily swayed/influenced/paid off by the guy, girl or both individuals. For it’s a thought provoking situation indeed if there truly was a referee who suddenly popped up/appeared out of nowhere, blew a whistle and tossed up a flag in the air for relationship issues resulting in penalties being called like in the NFL.

As I said before, it’s a thought provoking situation indeed if there truly was a referee who suddenly popped up/appeared out of nowhere in life, blew a whistle and tossed up a flag in the air for relationship issues resulting in penalties being called like in the NFL. I think it’s safe to say it would certainly be an interesting and not to mention oddly unique concept of fair play when there were possibly times where it felt unfair in getting called out for seemingly ridiculous penalties in a dating and/or marriage relationship. Although the possibility of that particular “what if” scenario sounds totally out there, the mere thought of having an actual NFL referee suddenly appearing out in public to not only blow their whistle and throw out penalty flags, but turn on their mic to announce who was being penalized is absolutely hilarious.

Without a doubt, the concept of fair play and having a normal relationship in life without having any issues whatsoever is something of a dream come more so for men than women. Why? Of course, the male species practically gets penalized and rightfully so for the usual 99% of moronic stupidity said/done on a semi-daily basis. Yet, it’s that 1% in which men are penalized for a situation we have no control over such as being asleep and told the following day you’ve cheated on your better half in a dream. Hey, it’s what makes love/true love so insane and abnormally normal. As much as any guy attempted/tried to make a case in our favor by obviously claiming it was just a dream, we’ve always found ourselves fighting a losing battle even if we called for/demanded an instant replay to show proof in hopes of being vindicated.

Let me ask this question to the men and women out there, what are considered the most commonly flagged penalties if an actual relationship referee appeared out of nowhere in a dating or significantly worthwhile relationship? Thinking about it further, the following commonly flagged penalties that come to mind are: holding, personal foul, intentional grounding and delay of game. Oftentimes, men getting flagged for a holding penalty when they emotionally hold back their feelings instead of opening up knowing full well it may very well be used against them, which is truly a personal foul in itself. Ultimately, it becomes one of the reasons why guys and women as well have intentionally grounded their heart to the point where there has constantly been a delay of game, so to speak, when it comes to ever finding/experiencing true happiness.

In retrospect, if life ever included a NFL like relationship referee it would make being out in public not only unexpectedly interesting for dating/married couples, but awkwardly entertaining as well for everyone else. For the most part, penalties like a false start represents the initial potential of a connection that unfortunately never moved forward thus leaving an individual considerably disappointed. Unsportsmanlike conduct or targeting in relation to a marriage where the spouse or both spouses treated one another in a disrespectful way. In any case, don’t let the issues of a loving relationship deter or distraction you. In the end, if there’s always a flag on the play, keep driving forward for those all important positive first downs until you’re able to scratch and claw your way in successfully passing your relationship goal lines for a touchdown whatever they may be.