A Beautiful Mess

Timothy Keller once said, ~People are messy; therefore, relationships will be messy. Expect messiness.~ Without a doubt, when it comes to relationships in regards to matters of the heart it can most definitely be considered an oftentimes frustratingly complicated situation indeed in not only trying to handle/figure out the utter mess of your own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions, but the guys/girl in question you're interested in who is handling/figuring out their own mess as well. True, it's unclear and quite difficult to know how big of a mental, emotional, and not to mention physical mess is as it pertains to that certain someone of interest unless you have the determination, as well as not be afraid in wanting to actually get dirty yourself, in a manner of speaking, as you're immersed in his/her chaotically crazy messed up world within their heart.

As I said before, it's unclear and quite difficult to know how big of a mental, emotional, and not to mention physical mess is as it pertains to that certain someone of interest unless you have the determination to want to get dirty, in a manner of speaking, in the his/her chaotically crazy messed up world within their heart. Women, more often than not, find themselves dealing with/sorting out the best they can a seemingly massive amount of mess mentally to the point where it's tremendously hard for them to even think straight or even focus on a single thought. Thinking about it further, the mental mess becomes considerably more chaotically crazy and insane when the potential for true happiness comes in the form of a guy who genuinely wants to know what you're thinking and doesn't end up distancing himself/running away from a head full of insanity.

If you think about it, the insanity of the mental mess that is the mind can truly have a detrimental effect on the perception of one's own physical appearance. I think it's safe to say every person including myself has at least something on their body/face that when focused on causes an immediate cringeworthy expression. Birth defect, mole, skin abnormality, gap in teeth, ears too big, too tall, too short, etc. are just a handful of physical aspects about ourselves that have the propensity to lead each one of us to maybe view it as a negative quality, especially in the dating scene whereby messing up/skewing our sense of strong self confidence, but self esteem too. What it primarily comes down to is owning and viewing it as uniquely positive rather than inherently negative, which the guy/girl may very well consider an endearingly favorite physical attribute.

For the question that can be asked to you out there, how big of an emotional mess do you consider yourself to be right now? Granted, it's a deeply personal question, but a question nonetheless. In any case, when dealing with the messes of the mental and physical the emotional mess isn't far behind thus combining into one big mess of self doubt, anger, hatred, worry, sadness, confusion, frustration, bitterness, disappointment, utter contempt, etc. Essentially, when experiencing those heightened states of emotions involving the potential of a forever best friend the inability to control one's own unbalanced emotions can throw your feelings all out of whack. However, if he/she is able to help control and balance out those aforementioned emotions then consider him/her an absolute keeper.

In retrospect, the complex mess of our own thoughts, feelings, and emotions pertaining to a strong, worthwhile relationship is usually described simply by two words...hot mess. Yet, in a weird way every person hopes to meet their true love/true love who is also a big ole' hot mess so much so that both of you are imperfectly perfect for each other. Hey, even though it's a rarity these days it does happen. In other words, meeting someone who has the uncanny ability to somehow be able to organize the disorganization and calm the messy chaos going on within not only your heart, but his/her also. In the end, a friend of mine Trixy Quinto summed up my entire thought by saying the following: ~No one is perfect, therefore none of us should expect perfection. Each and every single one of us is a beautiful mess.~