Speaking My Language

Someone once said, ~May you attract someone who speaks your language so you don't have to spend a lifetime translating your soul.~ If you think about it, being attracted to someone is considered to be one of the major aspects in establishing an initial connection/relationship, especially if it involves the physical outside appearance. True, being able to attract a certain someone of interest with one's outer physical attributes is key, but it doesn't necessarily guarantee you'll be able to continually hold his/her undivided attention forever. Essentially, what it also takes is a deeply mental, emotional, and at times a spiritual sense of understanding to accurately know/translate/decipher the overall meaning of what truly is deemed attractive about any guy/girl you meet who may potentially be one's best friend for life.

As I said before, the physical outer appearance is key in establishing an initial connection/relationship, but when you're able to connect on a much deeper, mature level mentally, emotionally, and at times spiritually the language barrier regarding love/true love gradually begins to become incredibly clearer. Why? What it primarily comes down to is openly listening and communicating with one another to where there is a gradual building up of the following: trust, faith, honesty, honor, respect, intimacy, understanding, a strong verbal commitment, etc. For its most definitely qualities that if shown/shared with genuine intentions in mind without any ulterior motives behind it then the attraction grows so much so it will certainly shine forth in a tremendously positive way.

Without a doubt, women from time to time find or have found their language/words getting lost in translation by guys as it pertains to the dating scene. Oftentimes, it can be an annoyingly frustrating situation indeed for any woman when a guy isn't able to understand anything coming out of their mouth. Thinking about it further, they don't or should I say refuse to notice/hear you possibly pouring out their soul thus opening up leaving the quintessential door open to show a sense of vulnerability because they're solely focusing on their own selfish needs/wants. I think it's safe to say for a majority of single females being able to say something and to actually have the message within the message be exactly understood/heard by a guy is an absolute rarity these days to encounter. In other words, they get it.

Let me ask this question to those who are in a strong, worthwhile relationship, how long after the initial attraction did it take for the both of you to all intents and purposes be on the same relationship wavelength language being spoken? For the most part, it doesn't happen instantly as it takes keenly noticing, becoming self-aware, and at times discovering certain things by accident/surprise that are usually unnoticeable that make your significant other 10X more adorably attractive even if he/she doesn't considered himself/herself to be. You see, even though the language/words being spoken isn't quite the same for every couple the message itself is wholeheartedly universal when it comes to matters of the heart who aren't lost whatsoever translating it in their own weirdly, unique way.

In retrospect, to meet and continually be in a constant state of attraction is a type of true happiness that doesn't happen or seem to not exist at all for that matter. Of course, you know it exists in the form of couples who somehow share a youthful, energetic longevity of a 50/60/70 year marriage. Yet, despite the wrinkles along with the some gray hairs mixed in they're able to still remember back as if it was yesterday as to what was most attractive about him to her or vice versa. Ultimately, for those living the single life like myself we want to experience a mutual attraction that lasts to infinity and beyond. In the end, it's that type of infinite mutual attraction in which you're able to somehow constantly translate/understand/describe their beautifully attractive soul back then to now and say with a smile of your face you're always speaking my language.