Left Unsaid

Doe Zantamata once said, ~You have to speak up to be heard. It's not "keeping the peace" if a little storm starts brewing inside you after holding your true feelings inside. You were given a heart to feel, a mind to think, and a voice to communicate what's going on inside of you with those around you. If you stifle your voice, your mind, and your heart they are bound to get frustrated eventually. Then all those pent up thoughts and feelings will come out at once. Speaking up now may cause a little ripple but it can also prevent a big tidal wave from happening later on.~ Let me ask this question to those in a potential and/or significant relationship, how often do you talk to/with each other when there is a problem needing to be addressed/resolved that's causing a seemingly heightened state of negative friction being exchanged between one another.

As said before, if you stifle your voice, your mind, and your heart they are bound to get frustrated eventually. I think its safe to say most potential/significant relationships go through their fair share of verbal discussions or should I say arguments. Yet, it's the words that aren't being said that can most definitely put a tremendous amount of mental, emotional, physical, and not to mention spiritual stress because of not wanting to/hesitating to speak up in order to express one's own thoughts, feelings, as well as emotions. Why? Thinking about it further, it's an incredibly tough situation indeed knowing part of the reason in the hesitancy of holding back is not wanting to experience the fearful tension and anxiety of getting answers or none at all thus leaving anyone to feel absolutely frustrated.

Without a doubt, to acknowledge there are problems in a relationship is one thing, but moving forward to openly talk with him/her about it voicing concerns is another thus manifesting the frustration even more. In other words, the issues being bottled up inside to the point there's an eruption of sorts where an explosion of frustration inevitably turns to anger. True, talking things out is a step in the right direction can certainly be a deeply frustrating enough ordeal in itself, the act of finding the right words to correctly express/match what's going on in mind and heart is an immensely difficult task to undertake. However, once there is an innate sense of calm the words are eventually found the amount of open honesty and truth being revealed not in anger is a much needed release of relief in every sense of the word.

If you think about it, opening/speaking up about the truth can be considered a catch 22 in regards to working problems out in a relationship. Of course, there could be some harsh words along with hurt feelings that may very well be misinterpreted the wrong way, which is an unfortunate way of going about it. Yet, if you're able to move past and not focus on the harshness of the words along with the feelings of hurt then there is the potential of hope in laying out the important issues needing to be discussed. Oftentimes, simply focusing on the main problems and not the distracting of past relationship issues is hard but it can be done. What it primarily comes down to is taking time and patience to see it all the way through to the end so much so you avoid becoming easily distracted and instead stay unwaveringly focused.

In retrospect, a shared silence where there is a clearly obvious storm brewing within a relationship, in a manner speaking, as it involves two people's heart, mind, and voice waiting to explode/erupt. Essentially, a person or both individuals in a significant/potential relationship have to let go of ego and pride to speak up knowing full well the fear, doubt, anxiety, frustration, anger along with whatever else may very well try to keep you from doing just that. For the most part, you just have to use what was previously mentioned to pour out what's in your mind and soul to truly feel much better or you'll find yourself continually keeping your mouth shut. In the end, even though it may not be considerably pretty in the beginning it all turns out beautifully well worth it when you don't have things left unsaid.