Someone once said, ~True love is a choice to commit yourself to someone - to hold on even when the battle is a fight against yourself, to not give up even when the world says otherwise and to love endlessly even only from afar.~ If you think about it, when it comes to relationships in regards to matters of the heart a person can most definitely find himself/herself struggling/fighting to hold together their own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions if the possibility of establishing a genuinely, strong connection with a guy/girl happens. Oftentimes, that struggle/fight turns into an all out battle of possibly self sabotaging within yourself. For it's a type of a fighting battle of self struggle/sabotage that's in a sense dealing with aspects/qualities of wanting to be truly happy leading one to either metaphorically paper clip, duct tape, and/or staple them together in order to figure it all out or not at all.
As I said before, when it comes to relationships in regards to matters of the heart a person can most definitely find himself/herself struggling/fighting to hold together their own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions if the possibility of establishing a genuinely, strong connection with a guy/girl happens. Of course, to be more specific I'm referring to the dating scene and an ever changing mindset nowadays. Thinking about it further, we all in a sense paper clip our mental, emotional, physical, as well as spiritual wants/needs in trying to internally figure out if you're continuing to hold on or just let go due to lack of interest. True, although a paper clip is considered to be reliable its purpose is only a temporary fix and doesn't completely fasten down what can easily be lost because of how personal preferences change in an instant, which basically describes dating in general.
Without a doubt, being able to work through any issues pertaining to a past relationship or past relationships to achieve some much needed closure is tremendously helpful for countless people. Unfortunately, for others they've in a sense duct taped over past heartbreak issues he or she hasn't properly dealt with for months or quite possibly even years. Essentially, I think it's safe to say it has the propensity to become a tortuous and not to mention seemingly uncomfortable situation indeed to experience having to constantly wrap, so to speak, the pieces of a badly broken heart to keep together to cover up the anger, fear, sadness, worry, frustration, utter contempt, disappointment, etc. an individual tends to avoid facing. Yet, it's still there underneath layers and layers of duct tape making it absolutely uncomfortable so much so being able to finally rip away/tear apart for good past issues will give such sweet, comforting relief.
Let me ask you this question to those who are in a significant relationship, how long was it before you ended up stapling what you hopefully took the time to think and feel about as it pertains to your now forever best friend. What I mean is taking everything you were able to take into account mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually to where you made the choice to hold on tightly, in a manner of speaking, instead of making the mistake of letting go of a strong, worthwhile relationship. Sadly, for those making the choice to let go was a mistake and what's left behind as a reminder are the holes from all the staples being removed from previous relationships. In any case, it's when you hear in a positive way the metaphorical sound of a stapler stapling all the papers of true happiness together you've been putting together internally it brings an absolute smile to your face that will never go away.
In retrospect, the toll it takes in the self struggle of battling within yourself in being able to hold on to and at the same time wanting to let go because of being scared can certainly be considerably exhausting. However, it's well worth it when you're sharing a life with someone who appreciates and accepts every part of you that's insanely crazy, weird, idiotic, and everything in between. What it primarily comes down to is coming to the realization that once you stop the struggle of fighting/battling with yourself you're no longer holding control of the situation in allowing yourself to gradually open up then breaking down little by little each defense mechanism of walls built up whatever they may be. In the end, to face that type of overwhelming fear is a monstrous obstacle to overcome and when conquered it's a major weight lifted off his/her/your heart thus establishing a lasting hold with someone that you know won't ever be temporary.
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