Imagine That

James Hillman once said, ~For a relationship to stay alive, love alone is not enough. Without imagination, love stales into sentiment, duty, boredom. Relationships fail not because we have stopped loving but because we failed to imagine.~ Without a doubt, when it comes to matters of the heart in regards to the pursuit of love/true love a key aspect is keeping that sense of mystery alive, whereby allowing yourself to utilize your imagination, in a good way of course. Thinking about it further, it's an unfortunate situation indeed when guys, as well as girls tend to only be visually stimulated and therefore lack the internal imagination to properly gauge a potential relationship that may possibly not only be truly informative, but absolutely worthwhile as well.

If you think about it, imagination and love are synonymous with each other as both bring to reality what's hidden not only in your heart but that certain special someone's heart as well. In other words, having the capacity to see in the non-visual sense and to mention recognizing the best qualities of a person on the inside. You see, being able to keenly be aware of and notice important elements about someone you're interested in or quite possibly in love with concerning what he/she has to offer show's your most definitely paying attention to where your imagination runs wild. However, when I say run wild I don't mean in a negative, lustful, disrespectful context but rather in a positive, genuinely interested/in love, respectful way where one imagines a long lasting relationship instead of just a hookup.

As I said before, a key aspect of matters of the heart in regards to the pursuit of love/true love is keeping that sense of mystery alive to the point where it allows you to utilize your imagination. Essentially, what you've totally imagined him/her to be on the outside is also who she/she is on the inside. A double whammy of true happiness. Hey, if you're lucky enough and have the courage to share what you see within them that they themselves are capable of seeing then don't miss the opportunity to take it. Unfortunately, it's a sad state of affairs when a person musses their shot causing the proverbial window of opportunity to close, so much so that all the things they've imagined within their heart/mind slips through their fingers, in a manner of speaking.

Let me ask you this question to those living the single lie such as yours truly, how many of you continue to imagine what it will be like to finally fall in love and have your dreams of spending the rest of your life with your best friend be fulfilled? Truth be told, I think it would be safe to say every single person hopes what they've imagined for quite some time in their heart and mind comes to fruition soon or in the near future. True, patience is a virtue but it's certainly hard to wait knowing how those around you are living the reality of what they've imagined for himself/herself with a permanent smile on one's face. Ultimately, it all boils down to putting your faith and trust in God as He will direct you to the one you're supposed to be with because it's all in His time of course.

Actor/Comedian/Best Selling Author/Talk Show Host Steve Harvey said, ~Let a man see what he can get, but let him imagine what he can have.~ In retrospect, every woman should take heed to this particular quote because the fact of the matter is every guy is still a guy. As a guy, I can personally say my eyes have spotted a lot of women but only a few have truly captured my imagination, attention, and heart. Granted, it may have not turned out the way I wanted to go in my head but at least I gave it a shot. In any case, for a lady to truly capture a guy's imagination, attention, and heart is by showing you are women but at the same time not reveal too much. In the end, for a guy like myself when I finally do meet the woman God is directing me towards I can say out loud to myself with a smile on my face the following two words... imagine that.