Heart Of A Warrior

Dan Millman once said, ~You haven't yet opened your heart fully, to life, to each moment. The peaceful warrior's way is not about invulnerability, but absolute vulnerability - to the world, to life, and to the presence you felt. All along I've shown you by example that a warrior's life is not about imagined imperfection or victory; it is about love. Love is a warrior's sword; wherever it cuts, it gives life; not death.~ In some aspect, the dating scene can most definitely be considered the quintessential field of battle for those who are living the single life such as myself. For it's a tough, disappointing, and oftentimes tiring situation indeed to continually step on the so-called field of battle in regards to putting yourself out there because you never know if you're coming back alive, so to speak.

If you think about it, when we step on the proverbial battle field that is the dating world each of us are equipped with the necessary armor to protect ourselves from being hurt in every sense of the word. Of course, I'm not referring to it in the literal sense but a metaphorical one. Yet, it doesn't necessarily mean it will keep us from suffering the painful injuries of being physically, mentally, emotionally, and not to mention spiritually hurt. The helmet of knowledge, an impenetrable shield, the breastplate of protection, footwear of dependability, etc. are what each one of us unknowingly possess. Unfortunately, they're not always used to the point where you mentally kick yourself for knowing better as you endured the pain you're unable to deflect, felt the impact of sadness/heartbreak trying to protect your fragile heart, and retreated rather than stood your ground in times of utter defeat.

Without a doubt, every person has past battle scars when it comes to matters of the heart in regards to love/true love. It's those battle scars that as previously mentioned physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually hurt, so much so they're constant reminders of the wars you've been through, in a manner of speaking. You see, each individual relationship scar tells a story and depending on the level of pain one feels when touching or should I say talking about it to where a mixture of emotions are expressed. Thinking about it further, it's a sad state of affairs when a guy or girl holds onto those scares inevitably using the anger, frustration, disappointment, etc. as a strength and not letting go of it all to truly move forward in his/her love life or lack thereof. So, are you still holding on to your past scars?

Let me ask you this question to those warriors who are still on the battle fiend known as the dating world, how strong and durable is your armor? As I said before, it's the armor we may be unknowingly wearing that doesn't necessarily keep us from harm's way when it comes to a potential relationship. True, you have to play it smart and know when not to go too fast when meeting someone new but mistakes can be made with one's heart and not with their head. Hey, when you're in the middle of the battle the one thing you have to protect other than your heart is your head. Why? What it primarily comes down to is we all tend to in all intents and purposes lose our heads when the possibility of true happiness enters our lives. Granted, we can't help it and at the same time we must keep focused because at any moment someone or something could very well come up in any direction causing our heads to roll both figuratively, as well as literally.

In retrospect, there comes a point where you second guess yourself as to whether or not it's all worth it to step day in and day out on the battlefield of love/true love. As a warrior, you've been fighting so long that you don't have any idea what you're fighting for anymore that you end up wanting to give up allowing yourself to be killed. Let me tell you something, we've all felt that way including myself and it's just a matter of keeping the fire of determination and strength to keep pressing on despite the odds stacked against you. In other words, you go down fighting not only with honor, but with the dignity you have for yourself knowing you fought and you fought by being yourself. In the end, I say to those who are still out there fighting and suffering or are suffering battle scars don't for one second raise your sword/heart to surrender because it's too hard; however like me, I know you have the heart of a warrior as well.