Path Of Love

Mary Miyavi posed this question, ~ Is it better to be in love and feel vulnerable or to be loved and feel safe?~ Essentially, that is considered to be the 100 million dollar question my friend. You see, an individual may not always be able to distinguish between the two because quite frankly the powerful force known as true happiness can certainly be overpowering to the point where the emotional, as well as mental lines are blurred. It's a sad state of affairs when a person doesn't have any idea as they've become impaired mentally and emotionally, so much so they can't answer the question or in some cases refuses to answer it. For it's a tough situation indeed for any person to try to figure out for themselves all the while knowing it's not going to be an easy task whatsoever to undertake while traveling the quintessential path to the promised land.

If you think about it, to be loved and feel safe is a situation where a certain number of people find one's self to be in. True, being in a significant relationship has been established and feeling that sense of safety due to their presences is there but it doesn't necessarily mean its the better path to take, so to speak. Oftentimes, when a person is in this type of relationship he/she quite possibly has this innate feeling as if something is missing. Thinking about it further, it's that particular something, whatever it may be, in which a guy/girl will not do anything about it and continue to ignore it for that matter. Why? Truth be told, one would rather be comfortable instead of dealing with issues of the heart whereby leading to a stronger, deeper connection sorely needed to build up a lasting worthwhile partnership.

Without a doubt, being in what I refer to as "A Roommate Relationship" there is more of an internal distance going within a person's heart/mind even though it may seem a happy couple altogether on the outside. As it has been said many times before, looks can most definitely be deceiving. For the most part, these types of couples who despite showering each other with love and affection there is a considerable disconnect when it comes to connecting to a deeply personal, as well as emotional level. In other words, they feel so comfortable going through the motions of a relationship to where they do their best to avoid any kind of conflict. Hey, I think we all know a couple or may in fact be the other half of a couple who just feels absolutely disconnected and missing something in their relationship even though you/he/she is feeling the love and safety with a certain someone.

Let me ask this question to those who are in potential and/or significant relationships, which type of relationship are you or would you want to be in? To be perfectly honest, I would choose the path of being in a relationship where I'm in love and feel truly vulnerable rather than to be in love and feel safe. Unfortunately, it's a rarity these days to experience because of how much utter heartbreak and trust issues there are leading to so many people choosing the path that doesn't hurt so much. Ultimately, what one does is simply settling for comfort instead of what one is more deserving of. Granted, you may be afraid to completely open yourself up knowing he/she may end up stabbing/stomping your heart into the ground but that's the risk one takes in regards to love/true love. Let me tell you something ladies and gents, it's so worth it once you do.

In retrospect, every person will eventually walk, is walking or has walked a long, winding path within their heart and there's always going to be the proverbial fork reached. The path of putting in the hard work or the one of least resistance. The decision to go for easy or go for hard is all up to you but know this and that is love and relationship aren't easy by any means, which it generally never is. For the question can be asked, would you want a relationship where you constantly feel the butterflies in your stomach with someone special or continually have the annoying, nagging feeling of something missing within your heart. What it comes down to is being absolutely honest with yourself. In the end, I say to those who are traveling the path of love to true happiness it's going to be tough on you emotionally, mentally, personally, and spiritually so choose wisely.