More Than Enough

Jonathan Lockwood Huie once said, ~Real love is never a selfish emotion. If you want something from someone - especially if that something is sex - what you are feeling is not true love. True love is about wanting happiness for the person you love - and not about seeking happiness for yourself. Fortunately, in most cases our own loving presence is the greatest gift we can give to a person we love. Nonetheless, the litmus test of love is knowing we would choose never to see that person again if we believed that distance would bring them greater happiness.~ Let me ask this question to you ladies out there who were or are currently in a potential and/or significant relationships, is/was there a selfish bone in the guy you are/thought you were in love with to where you have questioned/are questioning the love he has for you?

As a guy, you oftentimes hear about how a girl's relationship with a guy didn't last or is suffering because he treated/is treating her wrong and how absolutely selfish he was. True, it would have been the best time to say I told you so but we didn't...but I digress. For it's an unfortunate situation indeed to those women who in their minds not only don't feel appreciated, but seemingly don't see themselves as attractive enough for their man that she loves with all her heart. Hey ladies, let me share with you four words that I hope will set you mentally and emotionally at ease...it's not your fault. Essentially, you've done nothing wrong as the fault lies with the guy in question who wants more than he already has causing him to be seen as selfish and not to mention greedy in regards to his own needs/wants knowing true happiness is standing right in front of him.

Without a doubt, we've all heard the saying why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, which relates to a guy's selfishness when it involves the lack of love and respect for the women he supposedly loves. You see, there are a certain number of guys who, even though they seem to be in strong, happy relationships, they want more to the point they seek out other women in order to fulfill their lustful desire for the physical relationship. In other words, it is basically a slap in the face to those women who don't deserve to be treated that way. Thinking about it further, it's "gentlemen" like these who treat them with disrespect and yet you can't help but fathom why these same women continues to stay by their side knowing they are far more deserving of a guy who they'll experience/share a love or a true love for that matter that is most definitely genuinely real.

If you think about it, it's considerably rare these days for any woman to meet a guy who doesn't have any ulterior motives or a selfish bone in their body when it pertains to being in a loving, committed relationship. I think it would be safe to say it's an absolute dream come true for many women to meet/be with a guy who loves them so much he's willing to set aside his own happiness to make their happiness not only memorable, but certainly worthwhile as well. A type of guy who will be there for you at 3.am. in order to be a sounding board or a shoulder to cry on knowing full well he didn't have to be there but he is anyway as a friend. What it primarily comes down to is sacrifice and any guy who unselfishly puts himself second in order to make sure there's always a smile on the face of the woman he loves is worthy of her love.

In retrospect, it's a sad state of affairs when there are countless women who even though they are in a potential and/or significant relationship they feel neglected. Let me tell you something to the guys who are doing the neglecting, you had better watch out. Why? If you continue to ignore her there are guys like myself who are giving her attention. There are problems that arise that you cause, a guy like myself is listening to them. When you say you're too busy for her, guys like me make time for her. She's crying because of something you said or did, a guy like me will say or do something to make her smile. If you decide she's not worth your time, a guy like me knows she is. In the end, I say to those women who end up having that unfortunate mindset that you're not enough, don't think that because to some guy like myself you are more than enough.