Saturday, December 31, 2011

What Women Want(Last Yodaism of 2012)

Giuseppe Mazzini once said, ~Love and respect women. Look to her not only for comfort, but for strength and inspiration, and the doubling of your intellectual and moral powers. Blot for your mind any idea of superiority; you have none.~ As a guy, being able to ascertain the right ways in treating a woman with respect can most definitely be a neverending live and learn from your mistakes type process. For it can be a tough situation indeed to undertake because there are countless aspects and not to mention qualities that strengthen a relationship to the point where there is an absolute bond between two people. I think it would be safe to say that of the countless aspects and qualities, love and respect are considered the cornerstones of what makes matter of love/true love truly inspirational, especially for women.

As said before, being able to treat a woman with love and respect can most definitely be a neverending live and learn from your mistakes type process. It oftentimes starts with how a guy is able to communicate with a woman knowing he could very well be at a completely different wavelength/frequency with her, so to speak. In other words, he could be saying the same thing she is but in her mind the interpretation is far different causing conflict. Thinking about it further, the tendency for any guy is to immediately deflect back anything verbal and hit his way back to her in a much harder fashion as if they're in a tennis match, which is an unfortunate mistake. What it primarily comes down to is talking to/with her calmly instead of at her emotionally frustrated to no end at the seemingly sheer difficulty of keeping a level head when involved in a heated discussion.

Without a doubt, women love it when a guy is looking in their eyes actively listening to what they are saying and not just sitting/standing there hearing whatever is coming out of their mouth. In their minds, it shows respect revealing to them he is not pretending as he genuinely cares and is interested for that matter concerning the topic of conversation being shared with him. Unfortunately, there are some guys who are disrespectful being too preoccupied playing the game in order to quench his carnal, lustful desire that he doesn't realize or refuses to see he may possibly have a worthwhile relationship. It's a sad state of affairs when a woman suffers disappointment and/or utter heartbreak at the hands of a guy who didn't take the time to listen to anything relevant that may help get a better understanding of the female species standing/sitting before him.

Let me ask you this question to those ladies who are in a potential and/or significant other, does the guy you're with/hope to be with ere problems publicly or privately. You see, a guy who loves and respects the woman he loves will certainly keep problems on the down low to avoid drama from outside factors that aren't helping matters any and are just fueling the fire, in a manner of speaking. Hey, we've all witnessed couples or quite possibly have been that couple where the guy/girl didn't have enough respect to keep problems regarding their relationship private, causing total embarrassment on his/her part. Let me tell you something ladies, to have a guy that values the meaning of privacy concerning problematic issues in the relationship shows not only a strong sense of respect and love, but a strong bond between the two of you as well.

In retrospect, there are countless other ways to show love and respect such as saying the right things in the right way, complimenting her, and treating a woman as if she's your mother or sister. It would be safe to say every guy has heard that particular statement and for the most part there are a certain number of us who continually adhere to it whereas others tend to ignore the concept completely. True, it's those types of guys who don't have a moral compass and have this innate mindset they are vastly superior to women causing them to exude an arrogant, ladies man mentality...but I digress. In the end, when it comes to true happiness a guy can provide trust, faith, honesty, hope, contentment, commitment, constant communication, intimacy, understanding, etc.; but first provide/show some respect and that gentlemen is what women want.

1 comment:

Lora said...

Beautifully said and well thought! :)