Mystery Of Love

Tom Robbins once said, ~When the mystery of the connection goes, love goes. It's that simple. This suggests that it isn't love that is so important to us but the mystery itself. The love connection may be merely a device to put us in contact with the mystery and we long for love to last so that the ecstasy of being near the mystery will last. It is contrary to the nature of mystery to stand still. Yet, its always there, somewhere; a world on the other side of the mirror, a promise in the next pair of eyes that smiles at us. We glimpse it when we stand still.~ Without a doubt, love or true love for that matter can most definitely be considered an absolute mystery when it pertains to making a truly genuine heart to heart connection. For its a mysterious connection that continues to peak one's interest in regards to that certain special someone in his/her life whereas for others there is unfortunately no mystery to speak of whereby the connection is totally lacking.

Let me ask you this question to those who are in a significant relationship, is there still a sense of mystery shared between the two of you? I think it would be safe to say that when it comes to matters of the heart every person wants to spend their life with a guy/girl who continually keeps you guessing in a good way of course instead of a bad way that leaves or has left you tearing your own hair out due to confusion, frustration, and/or anger not only with your mind, but heart as well. When I say keeps you guessing it's of course referring to considerably special and possibly unexpected moments that have left you thinking how unbelievably lucky you are to share your life with someone that you just end up continually asking the following three words...who are you? It's considered an absolute mysterious situation indeed when questions continue to pop up, so to speak, concerning your best friend for life leading you to attain answers that essentially give you a better spiritual, mental, and emotional understanding to the point where it always leaves you with a smile on your face.

If you think about it, for those who share a love that is a strong and deeply significant relationship there will always be a sense of that mysterious thrilling excitement one gets either from a soft word spoken, a simple gaze given, or a gentle touch. You have to give it to couples who have been married for over 40...50...60 years as they are still able to keep the mystery alive in their loving relationship. A loving relationship in which you witness firsthand that love is ageless and the thrill of being in love keeps not only both their hearts continually skipping a beat but makes them feel young at heart for each other. Unfortunately, its a rarity these days to even come across a marriage relationship where it doesn't just involve the physical aspect of love. Thinking about it, there have been couples out there who lacked any mystery whatsoever in their relationship and experienced the temporary adrenaline rush based on the mystery of superficial lust to where they learned very quickly the harsh reality that the physical aspect of love alone was not enough to sustain something truly meaningful and long lasting.

For the question can be asked to you ladies out there who are living the single life, how many of you are still hoping to meet a guy who mirrors your own heart? In other words, he reflects your thoughts and emotions within his own heart to yours and is not merely using them for his own twisted pleasure in order to share a false connection. Yet, the question remains how do women know the thoughts and emotions within that particular guy's heart are absolutely genuine? That ma'lady is where the mystery lies and it primarily comes down to two words...no games. For a certain number of women they've been able to establish a strong connection free of games but for others they continue to be dumbfounded by the games being played leading them to shake their heads at the all out absurdity and stupidity of the entire male species. However, be rest assured ladies that although there is the mindset by many of you women that the entire male species are complete idiots there a number of us men that don't think or act like the guys of relationships past you tended to cross paths with.

In retrospect, it's fair to say that what's missing in relationships today is the aspect of longevity. We've all heard the saying life is considered a marathon, not as a race and the same can be said for love as well. It's a sad state of affairs when couples don't pace themselves causing them to give up on the relationship before it ever even started. Why? The mystery and the connection were quite possibly there but it totally lacked substance, as well as quality leaving the guy, the girl, or both to become down right bored because he/she stopped asking or didn't ask any questions at all. .Think about this, how many people are in deeply connected relationships because they weren't afraid to ask the deep rooted questions that would inevitably lead them to step through the proverbial looking glass of their heart and into the seemingly mysterious heart of their significant other. Ultimately, it's not that hard to figure out that when you're able to establish a strong connection of mutual commitment, trust, loyalty, support, respect, intimacy, etc. love/true become so much simpler don't you think and in the end my friend that's the mystery of love.