Love Conquers All

Someone once said, ~I've never been in love so I guess I don't know the happiness of love. I've never been nor am I now. I'm kind of afraid to step that deep into something because I'm just tired of giving everything I've got. But it's hard when you know that you could be giving more but you're just giving what you want to give, not because you're receiving less but just because, just simply because you're afraid to admit to yourself that you would give that person your whole world. And you're just afraid that your whole world or your everything just might not be enough. You just don't want to end up empty handed and admit to yourself you want to give that person everything.~ Let me ask you this question, whether it’s the first time or lucky enough to get a second chance at it, how many of you are quite honestly afraid to fall in love?

Without a doubt, love and fear will always coincide with each other causing a plethora of mixed emotions/feelings such as confusion, frustration, doubt, worry, sadness, happiness, elation, joy, contentment, etc. It's a tough situation indeed to be falling in and/or being in love with someone who at the same time absolutely scares the living daylights out of you. Why? Essentially, you're allowing the guy/girl a true glimpse of the person you truly are to where the walls you've built up gradually come done leaving at a level of vulnerability that causes you to be extremely uncomfortable. As much as you want to emotionally and mentally shut yourself off because of how uncomfortably scary it is knowing how comfortable you've become in the so-called cocoon of sarcastic cynicism, there is a small part of you that wants to experience what those around you are forever cherishing...true happiness.

As said before from the quote above, one can be afraid to step that deep into something because of being tired of constantly giving yourself emotionally, mentally, personally, spiritually, and physically but receiving nothing back in return. I think it would be safe to say a woman knows all too well of stepping in deep into a relationship with a guy only to find he hasn't committed himself into stepping in deeper causing her to in all intensive purposes sink into the depths of heartbreak as tears of sadness are shed. Thinking about it, for any woman, as well as many guys out there the fear of finding yourself deep in love can be intensely scary to where you either back off because you honestly don't know how to handle it or you move forward knowing that even though you're scared out of your mind you have that certain someone by your side who is possibly as scared as you are.

Personally speaking, I have never been in love or have never really known the feeling of what falling in love is like. Of course, I've been in the puppy love/infatuated/like stages of pre-love/true love but when it comes to falling deeply in love I can honestly say it scares me to no end. However, as a single guy who is mostly surrounded by friends who are married, you get the opportunity to learn/seek advice from them on the fears each couple has faced or is currently facing in the course of 3...8...20 years of marriage. Essentially, one of the many fears that many of them face is allowing himself/herself to be completely open and honest to their bf/husband/gf/wife without fear of being laughed at, judged, or ridiculed. Let me tell you something, there are certain things I'm afraid of that I haven't shared with anyone or even with my best friend for that matter but hope to someday with the one I love.

In retrospect, the fear of love is something that quite a few people have overcome despite experiencing their own personal relationship nightmares. It's a sad state of affairs for a certain number of people who have the inability to get past their fears of a past relationship that quintessentially has left them with emotional and mental scars that haven't been able to heal. For its those cars that have caused him/her to be scared when a guy/girl who is genuinely and honestly real steps into his/her life inevitably turning one's world upside down. In the end, matters of the heart are scary but if you keep in mind that when you meet someone special who even though scares the living daylights out of you, in a good way of course, then you'll be able to face and possibly overcome all your fears together leading you to the realization that the old familiar saying rings true...love conquers all.