Shock and Awe

Leo F. Buscaglia once said, ~Love withers with predictability, its very essence is surprise and amazement. To make love a prisoner of the mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever.~ Without a doubt, a person can most definitely become jaded when it comes to matters of the heart to the point where it becomes not only predictable, but uneventful as well. Its a sad situation indeed when love or true love for that matter doesn;t have the zing of surprised excitement it once had in the past because of how much the dynamic of relationships has immensely changed in today's society giving way to this sense of lost hope, especially for those who have constantly found or still find themselves in utter frustration and heartbreak.

Let me ask you this question ladies, how many of you have truly experienced genuine surprise and amazement in regards to a guy putting all his heart into doing something absolutely special such as planning a surprise birthday party, It's a sad state affairs for those women who have had birthdays they sorely wanted to forget because of how embarrassingly inconsiderate the guy(s) was/were to her. In any case, it makes any woman feel appreciated to have a man who takes into consideration her favorite food, flower, scent, etc. to call and invite all her gal pals instead of the other way around. For it's an amazing shock to the system to know the amount of effort a guy took to plan it all, whereby showing and essentially feeling the passion within his heart for her.

As said before, a person can surely be jaded from being in bad past relationships to where it can sometimes seem to no surprise at all to them as if the predictable actions of the past follow him/her to another relationship leaving you in all intents and purposes feeling like a prisoner sentenced to life without true happiness. Thinking about it, there are a certain number of people who are currently doing time within their own heart, in a manner of speaking, and would like nothing more than to have their feelings and emotions set free to share with someone special. You see, it's those feelings and emotions that have, in a sense, been down in the hole, so to speak, for quite some time and have never seen the light of day because of being in the cold, perpetual darkness of frustration, heartbreak, anger, bitterness, disappointment, etc.

For the question can be asked, how many of you have been so desensitized to a never ending slew of broken relationships you gradually developed an I'm not surprised/shocked mentality. What do I mean? When you hear about infidelity involving celebrities like Tiger Woods you find yourself going from surprise and shock to all out cynicism leaving you considerably non remorseful to celebrities who do get caught. Let me tell you something, there is a serious lack of the pure innocence going into love and when you lose aspects of it like surprise, amazement, unpredictability you end up not with a vibrant, thrilling relationship always asking with a smile what's next but a relationship that is stale and possibly boring causing you to instead ask with a confused look what now.

Actress/Comedian/Singer Sandra Bernhard said, ~Love is the only shocking act left on the face of the earth.~ In retrospect, there isn't anything predictable about love/true love as its the people who are considered to be predictable. Guys, more often than not, tend to lack originality when it pertains to wanting to surprise/shock/amaze a potential and/or significant other. If you think about it, as a guy you have to show your individuality setting yourself apart from other guys out there who I dare say don't have a clue as to what the real meaning of being romantic is all about...but I digress. In the end, every person wants an amazing relationship that's never predictable and will always have great surprises in store for you into the latter years of your life leaving his/her/your heart in a continual state of shock and awe.