Nice Guys Do Finish Last

Addison Walker once said, ~It's not true that nice guys finish last. Nice guys are winners before the game even starts.~ Without a doubt, the saying "nice guys finish last" as it pertains to always getting the short end of the stick in regards to the love/relationship dynamic is right...to a certain extent. Thinking about it, the topic of the proverbial nice guy has gradually lost its distinction to the point where there can be a misunderstanding as to the type of nice guy initially being described. When it comes to the nice guy he can be broken down into two different distinct categories which are the readily available at a moments notice 24/7 doormat who can be easily manipulated into doing whatever the woman wants/says and the actual nice guy who can not only think for himself but is also the absolute real deal.

Let me ask you this question ladies, have you ever told a guy that you couldn't be in a relationship with him because he was too nice, which coincidentally happened to my best friend. In any case, as I've said in a past Yodaism women are fed up as they want a guy who is nice and actually cares about her instead of caring about fulfilling his innate desire for personal self gratification in the physical aspect of the relationship. For it would most definitely be a far cry from the usual jerks, losers, aholes, liars, cheaters, womanizing players, and self absorbed douche bags they have unfortunately found themselves being in relationships with. You see, it's these types of guys mentioned above who have made women doubt their own self worth, inevitably destroying their confidence, shed countless tears, not realize how beautiful they truly are, and so much more.

As said before, there are two types of nice guys as one is solely focused on one woman putting her high on a pedestal all-the-while letting her step all over him whereas the nice guys sees the faults, refuses to be the doormat, has a possible interest but knows he has options giving him the opportunity to see who else is out there. Essentially its the nice guys like myself as well as my best friend who have the ability to show they're confident, are focused on their life/goals to achieve, knows what he wants, is funny in his own weird/strange/silly way, etc., which are considered qualities that are tremendously attractive to women. Let me tell you something, its when you're being yourself exuding a quiet self confidence in such a way its seemingly attractive to the female species to where you unknowingly cause them to either freak out/become nervous in a good way its a surprising albeit flattering experience...trust me on this.

For the question can be asked to those ladies living the single life, how many of you are actually fed up with dating the quintessential "bad boy" and would love nothing more than to meet, as well as possibly fall in love with a nice guy? It's easier said than done but they are out there and all you have to do is open your eyes because they have been standing right in front of you the whole time. In today's society, women have been wined and dined by guys with the intention of the immediate hook up afterwards leading them to become absolutely desensitized to the whole dating process. However, it can be refreshing change of pace indeed for any woman to not feel as if there is always a catch for the wining and dining when out with a nice guy so much so she can be stunningly surprised as she waits or should I say expects days/weeks/months for it to happen only to find there is no catch to speak of.

In retrospect, the time of the "bad boy" is gradually running out as they should step aside handing over the torch, so to speak, in order for the "nice guy" to step forward. Ultimately, they can either hand the torch over to us or we can just take it by force because our time is at hand. In all seriousness though, women do deserve better and guys as well, it's just a matter of making better choices when it comes to matters of the heart. In the end, nice guys do finish last because when a woman is able to make it to the other side pushing through/getting past the bad ones that represent disappointment, hurt, sadness, anger, frustration, etc. she'll be able to finally see/meet the nicest and most caring guy walk into her life at the right moment because he patiently took his time getting to a place she always wanted be within her heart...a state of true happiness.