Deep and Wide

Hazrat Irayat Khan once said, ~Love is living and therefore growing; love is growing and therefore expanding,; there is a no limit to the expansion of love; for its source is divine thus its expansion is perfect.~ Without a doubt, to be in a growing, mature relationship with someone truly special is a life most definitely worth living. For it touches your heart to have someone or hope to have someone in your life who essentially left behind their childish, immature ways in order to establish a more grown up relationship. It's that type of relationship in which the guy/girl grows into a responsible adult and actively works hard to put in the work instead of slacking off, whereby making not only the mental, emotional, as well as spiritual bond grow increasingly stronger, but the bond of love as well.

If you think about it, when you're in a growing, mature adult relationship you want to be with someone who mentally builds you up in a supportive way. Women, more often than not, are somehow in relationships with complete douchebags who mentally abuse them in such a way their self confidence is so progressively battered it affects them to the point where its deeply psychological. It's a sad situation indeed when a woman looks to her man to be a mental motivator of the heart by giving encouraging words/compliments and/or always being told I love you with meaning behind it, but unfortunately what she receives are childish comments/actions that inevitably place doubt in her own mind as to why she continues to be with that guy knowing deep down she deserves much better than him.

As said before, love is growing and therefore expanding which is what you want to have happen when you're with someone who is able to grow/expand emotionally. I think many of you would agree handling particular relationship issues without acting like a 5 year old throwing a temper tantrum because he/she didn't get what he/she wanted or didn't like what needed to be said shows a maturity level beyond all measure. Of course, there are guys/girls...maybe you...who are currently in a relationship with someone who hasn't emotionally grown up at all and because he/she has been acting childish by selfishly wanting what is best for him/her than wanting what's best for the both of you it has put you in considerable stress leaving you with no choice but to hopefully do what's best for you.

Psalm 1:3 says, ~And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.~ Let me ask you this question to those in a potential and/or significant relationship, how many of you are growing spiritually together in God's love as both of you are deeply planted in His word to where it bringeth forth fruits that are in abundance of happiness and blessing when it pertains to work, family, friends etc. Essentially, to have a growing, mature relationship with the one you love, you must first maturely grow in God's love through seeds of prayer and the reading of His word because you can't bear fruit, so to speak, when the decisions you selfishly make with your heart aren't coinciding with His will for not only your life, but also the one you love as well.

Larry A. Bugen said, ~Mature love offers us our most profound opportunity for regaining wholeness - not because our partners will fill all of our emptiness, but because we can use the embrace of a loving relationship to nurture ourselves toward greater maturation and ripening.~ In retrospect, every person wants to be in a mature relationship that continues to grow stronger each day and it takes large amounts of courage to do so. It can be scary to grow up in matters of the heart by yourself but when have someone with that same courage of willing/wanting to grow up to face whatever problems that may come in a mature, adult manner along side you into the unknown all-the-while praying to God for His guidance then my friend its a perfect love that is in the end both deep and wide.