One Step At A Time

Anita Brookner once said, ~Real love is a pilgrimage. It happens when there is no strategy, but it is very rare because most people are strategists.~ As said before, real love is a pilgrimage and when it comes to matters of the heart it's not so much about who or even where, but a matter of when you meet that special someone inevitably changing the course of your life forever For its a difficult situation indeed to keep an optimistic attitude all-the-while exuding patience giving you a reason to no longer search for questions lingering within your heart when your path converges with him/her. Yet, you can't help but ask the question as to when true happiness will happen as there is an uncertainty with love that causes you to either believe the long, hard journey will be worth it or it's a lost cause because of foolishly holding on to the one word that gives you hope...someday.

Without a doubt, love happens when there is no strategy being used, which is quite possibly the strategy to take if that makes any sense to you. However, when you have that first initial meeting there is some strategizing involved as you talk with him/her in order to get a feel, so to speak, as to whether or not you're genuinely connecting on a level that is truly real. For its not a connection that doesn't immediately answer the question of when being now abruptly ending your journey because it's just the beginning as there is a long mental, emotional, physical, and even spiritual road ahead to deal with if the relationship progresses further. What it primarily comes down to is being able to assist in a non-controlling way the direction of where the relationship could possibly go, leading the potential of something to happen flow naturally instead of it being forced/manipulated.

Let me ask you this question to the single people out there, how many of you have been seemingly holding on to a fool’s hope that someday it's going to happen for you leading to the mindset of love being a lost cause. I think most cynical people like myself would agree that when you hear the word someday in association with love it doesn't quite have the same meaning it once heard. What do I mean? When you're young the possibility of someday meeting and falling in love with that unknown someone who is walking the same lonely road as you are would most definitely leave you with a feeling of exciting hope, which can be seen in one's eyes. Unfortunately, when you get older the exciting hope tends to fade within one's eyes as it's replaced with a defeated, beaten down look after experiencing disappointments and heartbreak.

Isaiah 40:29-31 says, ~ He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.~ As a guy, you can grow annoyingly tiresome of walking the road to one's when coming to fruition as you possibly get to know a woman only to find you've been walking the path to nowhere to the point where you're drained physically, mentally, and emotionally. Essentially, it's when the previous 3 leave you weak causing you to not want to take another step that you rely on praying to God for giving you the spiritual strength to keep you moving forward even though you feel at times to just want to give up. Let me tell you something, I'm tired and when it comes to my someday happening I'm quite frankly pessimistic about it, but with God strengthening me spiritually I'm still walking the road.

Damian Kulash Jr. said, ~Love happens in a deep, primal place that your conscious self has no power to affect, whatsoever. You cannot fight it, you cannot will it into existence, you cannot explain to it that it is making a mess of things, and it will not listen when you plead for it to stick around a little longer. So, in answer to your question, I don’t know anything about love. No one does. It’s just this incredible thing that happens to people.~ In retrospect, the pilgrimage that is love is one where you have to endure so many frustrating steps backwards in order to experience key worthwhile steps of moving forward to get where you most want to be. In the end, I say to those of you who are frustrated and find yourself losing ground, pray to God for the strength to keep walking, focus on the road in front of you instead of the road ahead of you, and make the journey count one step at a time.