I Know

Mollen Matsumura once said, ~Love is more than just a feeling; it's a process requiring continual attention. Loving well takes laughter, loyalty, and wanting more to be able to say "I understand" than to hear, "You're right"~ Without a doubt, one of the key aspects in a relationship is being able to pay close attention to your potential and/or significant other, especially if you're guy. When I say pay attention I don't mean focusing on a woman's physical feature but rather paying attention to the underlying features that don't necessarily stand out at first, but with time are noticed as clear as day. I think many women would agree that if any man paid close enough attention like he does with a particular sporting event such as football there would most definitely be a lot less confusion, as well as stupidity on our part as to who doesn't get "it" about them.

Let me ask you this question ladies, does the man in your life know what makes you laugh? For it's not the out loud kind of laughter I'm speaking of as it's the emotional kind that touches your heart as he does something so caring/thoughtful for you your reaction is to shed tears of joy as you laugh in unbelievable amazement. For example it's your birthday and you drop hints to your bf/husband about it all week or the day before but he's totally oblivious to it causing you to think that if he doesn't care to remember your birthday then doesn't care about your or something to that effect. However, that isn't the case as he planned a surprise birthday taking care of all the arrangements from knowing who to invite when it comes to close friends, what your favorite meal/dessert to have prepared at the party, and what particular flowers to give you that always puts a smile on your face.

Thinking about it, one of the things that is most sacred to a woman is having the loyalty of those closests to her such as her friends. A woman's friends with her gal pals is quite different from a guy with his buds as there is more of an emotional loyalty going on. It's hard for guys to know/understand the dynamic complexities of a seemingly confusing female friendship because we as guys aren't as emotionally connected as women are. You see, the thing guys have to know about women is not about having similar interests, cracking stupid jokes, or hanging out on a Saturday to watch college football as it’s more about trust. If that trust is broken it painfully hurts because she trusted her/them enough to be considered a real friend/friends, which many women unfortunately have experienced in the past.

For the question can be asked ladies, have you ever been in a discussion/argument with your guy and during it all you kept hearing "you're right"? A woman wants a guy who is able to say "I understand" and is able to truly listen to the concerns that plague her mind when it pertains to paying attention to the relationship in parts or as a whole. Essentially, it's the going in one ear and out the other mentality that has had guys ruin a perfectly great relationship because they didn't just close their ears off, but they in a sense closed their heart off as well to what they will regret later as the big mistake on their part. It's a sad and frustrating situation indeed for a woman to have a guy just agreeing to everything being voiced by her leading to the inevitable conclusion that he isn't committed to work at trying to change/improve on what he knows will strengthen the relationship further rather than weaken it.

In retrospect, when it comes to matters of the heart it's important for a guy to pay attention because there are so many things concerning a woman that are truly special. If you think about, it's the seemingly little, insignificant things a guy sees and/or hears from a woman that he didn't really pay attention to before are considered big gifts that make love/relationships absolutely worthwhile. It's just a matter of opening a guy's eyes, ears, as well as heart wide open to the point that he finally gets "it" to where the complaints she's been having are finally sinking in and hopefully they don't sink in when it’s too late. In the end, it's when someone asks a guy how well he's paid attention to knowing the woman he loves instead of saying with doubt the words I think I know he'll say with utmost confidence I know.