Case Closed

Rainer Maria Wilke once said, ~Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.~ In some aspect, every person is considered to be a detective trying to individually solve the one case that seemingly tends to be left unsolved as it pertains to matters of our own heart. For some people its an open and shut case when it comes to love as they followed the right leads in meeting someone who fits the description of true happiness whereas for others it continues to be an ongoing investigation that can be overwhelmingly tedious, tiresome, and most definitely frustrating.

If you think about it, each of us have an internal cabinet located within our heart that essentially holds files marked love and heartbreak. For when one looks over those internal files you can in all intents and purposes either read one file that leaves you with a glowing smile on your face or read an unfortunate and sometimes frightening detailed report of past relationships that cause you to cringe. Why cringe? What it primarily comes down to are the personal horror stories you never want to remember and yet you do. I think we can all agree being able to keep those particular files marked heartbreak under lock and key never to be read again, so to speak, keeps you from experiencing all over again a plethora of unwanted, painful, mixed emotions.

Without a doubt, there are times where you feel as if you're interrogating your own heart to the point of forcibly trying to seek out answers to certain questions. Questions such as: What am I doing wrong that I constantly end up facing frustration, heartbreak, hopelessness, disappointment, etc.? How many times do I continually put myself out there in hopes of having someone I like like me back before I just give up entirely? Its questions like these and many others similar to it that you can, in a sense, have a good cop/bad cop situation within your own heart leading you to metaphorically beat up/slap it around, in a manner of speaking, in order to get the questions you want answered even if it means hearing the harsh truth about yourself.

For the question can be asked, when you're a detective what is one of the most essential aspects of the job in solving important cases because if you're wrong the case is ruined? If you said making a solid connection you're correct because in any relationship having a solid connection with that special someone is key. However, it's oftentimes difficult to figure out the type of connection you have with that particular guy/girl of interest because the connection you may be feeling is quite possibly different from what he/she is feeling. Essentially, you have to keep investigating, not be afraid to ask the tough questions, and hope the connection you have with each other grows increasingly solid to the point where you establish a truly strong partnership.

In retrospect, love is something that can be solved as all the clues are there for each and every one of us to piece together. Of course, some pieces may not fit and that's to be expected because love is about being patient enough to figure out whether or not the clues/evidence/information you have in front of you are 100% correct. Thinking about it, nobody ever wants to end up getting stabbed in the heart and become just another sad victim of love to where there will always be a permanent chalk outline around your heart leaving it an open case that may never get solved. In the end, if you're lucky enough to have a partner who is helping you solve or has solved what's been missing in your heart and vice versa then I say to you case closed.