The Rose

Rob Cella once said, ~A relationship is like a rose. How long it lasts, no one knows. Love can ease an awful past, love can be yours, you'll see it last. To feel that love, it makes you sigh. To have it leave, you'd rather die. You hope you've found that special rose 'cause you love and care for the one you chose.~ As said before, a relationship is like a rose and how long it is able to last is primarily determined by how much of a delicate touch one has, in a manner of speaking, when it pertains to matters of the heart. Essentially, every person wants a beautiful, sweet smelling relationship that can hold and hopefully forever keep it fresh within the proverbial vase of their own heart, but if held too tightly one will feel the pain of utter heartbreak to the point where it inevitably wilts away leaving a person's heart metaphorically bleeding.

Let me ask you this question ladies, when was the last time a guy gave/sent you a rose or even a dozen roses and how did it personally make you feel within your heart? I would safely guess you were not only deeply touched, but also surprised because you may not have expected it, especially if it came from a guy whose heart is pure, honest, and absolutely genuine, which is very rare these days for a woman to find. In any case, it would most definitely put a smile on any woman's face if she were given a rose or a dozen roses for that matter because it shows that a particular guy is thinking about her and even though its considered the standard cliche gift to give, guys will generally take the risk anyway in hopes that he won't have it become a thorn in his side, so to speak, when he looks back on it with regret.

Without a doubt, we've all heard Bret Michaels’ song Every Rose Has Its Thorn and thinking about it, if you were in a bad past relationship the memories of it can feel like thorns sticking within your own heart. Oftentimes the thorns of past heartache can run very deep to where it takes time to remove whatever pain that is causing that person major discomfort in his or her slowly bleeding heart. Women, more so than men, have experienced too many times of being pricked by a guy whose words, as well as, actions left her with metaphorical thorns to deal with and depending on how deep those particular thorns run its unclear as to whether or not those thorns can ever be removed. What it comes down to is having a guy who has the right tools at his disposal to properly take out/remove the pain of those thorns which are a gentle touch, a caring/loving heart, and open ears to listen.

For the question can be asked to those women who have been married for quite some time, how many of you have kept not only the first rose your husband gave you, but also the petals that were from your wedding as well? If you think about it, being able to keep such a priceless memento in a very special place such as in a box/chest, scrapbook, wedding album shows the importance of how much love was/is still shared between you and that special guy in your life on that most memorable time in life. For its when a woman sits down months/years later to look at it, touch it, and smell the lingering fragrance it seems to instantly transport her to that specific point in time to where it not only a huge sigh of contentment is given, but tears are also shed because how meaningly if continues to be to her.

In retrospect, it's sometimes hard to touch a person's heart when past history has shown him/her all the countless thorns that surround it leaving you scared out of your mind to get close to him/her and vice versa. When it comes to any relationship, you must be willing to endure the pain of having those thorns of past pain metaphorically prick you/get thrown at you. It's a difficult situation indeed to go through, but if you love that person enough to not run away despite experiencing the stinging pain of what love can do that it leaves you, in all intents purposes, bleeding it shows him or her there is going to always be a strong, supporting stem right there by one's side. In the end, when you choose someone who is able to plant the seed of love, lets it have time to grow, and isn't afraid to bleed from the thorns of one's past pain, then he or she becomes the rose that truly never dies from within your heart, which is a song by Westlife that reflects this thought.