The Better Man

Someone once said, ~When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness and look down upon the ground. Instead, keep your head up high and gaze into the heavens for this is where you broken heart is sent to heal.~ When it comes to guys competing against each other over a woman, the proverbial gauntlet can be thrown down. In some aspect, it would be like the medieval days as two knights would put their heart/honor on the line by competing in duels such as jousting to win the greatest prize one will ever receive, which in this case is a woman's heart. Although there are no actual weapons being used, the hopefully genuine actions/words they use are the "weapons" of choice and win or lose, they fought a good fight.

Let me ask you this question ladies, would you consider it romantic or immature if two men "fought" to win your heart? Here's another question, have you ever been in this type of situation? Anyways, in my own thinking, a woman would be absolutely flattered if two guys "fought" for her in the name of love, but doing it in a more classier chivalrous way such as in the supposed story of King Arthur and Sir Lancelot with Lady Guinevere. On the other hand, in this day and age there aren't many guys who not only don't know how to treat a woman with class but also aren't mature enough to know what respect, chivalry, and/or the days of what courting a woman means as they merely want to win a woman's heart for selfish gain.

Speaking of courting a woman, it has been without a doubt left in the medieval days as it is now all about dating a woman. What is the difference, you may be asking? Well, when it comes to courting a woman its all about the act or period of wooing a woman without any intimacy involved. Dating a woman, on the other hand, is making or having a social engagement with a person of the opposite sex with the intimacy involved. Think about this ladies, when was the last time you honestly were courted/wooed by a guy who before even asking you out on a date took the time to actually build a friendship of honesty and trust so that he could get to know not just you, but also your family and friends as well?

Oftentimes, the dating scene can be considered one big jousting competition between guys as they try to make a name for themselves to possibly impress and persuade the decision she makes to go in his favor. Whether or not they abide by the code or throw away the code completely is up to them. It's a code in which 2 things are considered important: honor and respect or the status/recognition to build up their armor so that particular fair lady can be proud to be seen at his side. Let me tell you something, it doesn't take new armor to win a woman's heart, but rather what's located behind the armor and that is a man's heart, which is considered his excalibur that if used properly wields the greatest power he can ever share with a woman.

In retrospect, every woman at some point in time will be put in a difficult position to choose between two guys that she loves/cares about to where he will inevitably be her so-called knight in shining armor. For it always comes down to the guy who's been part of her past in which she experienced the bad, as well as, good times or the new guy who walks into her life and possibly wipes the slate clean of past hurts that may still be felt within her heart. Ultimately, a woman's choice can sometimes be made easier for her as one guy will make the hard decision to just step aside because he loves her that much to not put her through that emotional pain. In the end, I ask you this question: who really wins and comes out the better man?