The Way Love Goes

Without a doubt, not knowing how another person feels about you can be, at times, emotionally draining. It's that constant wondering, worrying, and wishing to have those feelings reciprocated back from the one person you appreciate and like. We've all felt, at one point or another, the need to figure out where one stands in that person's life. A life can hopefully be a part of if given the chance; but ultimately what one wants to know is whether that particular person simply sees you as a brother/sister or does he or she feel the same way you do? Though complicated it may seem, it would be a whole lot simpler if potential relationships were solved by doing certain things that one used to do as a kid.

Wouldn't it be great to go back to a time where giving that boy or girl half your dessert or any food for that matter meant that you really liked him or her and was willing to share. For its that particular child who you would sit next to either on the bus, lunch table, or on the school playground and would give him or her an extra dessert that he or she brought especially for that child. Let me ask you this question, did you ever share food with someone who you considered to be your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" when you were a little kid? If you think about it, it takes a special girl for us to give up what we most live in life which in this case is food; but most importantly our dessert.

Boys and girls chasing each other is really nothing new and doesn't say a whole lot. Now chasing each other and beating the crap out of each other is something that speaks volumes. Working in the asylum, I see so many little boys chasing after the girls and all too often I hear them complain that they are hitting them. My usual response is that they like you which is a sign of affection for a boy and if they really like you they will knock you down. Personally speaking, I was never the chaser or the type to hit a girl, but rather the one being chased and hit by the girls. According to my mom, I had something that attracted girls in my direction when I was little and that something were my dimples which they wanted to pinch all the time.

Undeniably, it would be more uncomplicated if men and women went back to the old standby of wanting to know if you wanted to be in a relationship and that was by writing and sending a note to that person who you were interested in. We've all done that when we were kids and it was a system that worked for practically every kid and all you had to do was simply check two boxes or circles, yes or no. It was that easy and you went on with your day knowing you now have a "friend" that you can play with until he or she dislikes you for whatever reason and then finds someone else to be "friends'' which was cruel but that was what being a kid was all about.

Glen, age 7, said, ~If falling in love is anything like learning how to spell, I don't want to do it. It takes too long.~ In retrospect, love is a lot like learning how to spell because it takes time and patience. Inevitably there will be errors made that will cause a person to have to keep writing or saying the word over and over until he or she gets it absolutely right. Sometimes it can be so hard to learn and correct the mistakes that are made that we just want to give up. BUT when you have someone to help you learn and correct those mistakes then it won't be long before you can spell perfectly all because of that person sticking by you when it got tough. Ultimately, as a kid, that's the way love goes as we gave, chased, and wrote back in the day; but now as an adult, we are giving, chasing and writing for that one specific special person.