The Answer

The one basic truth about love is that the answers never come easy. Oftentimes, each of us have this preconceived notion that we have it all figured out as to who we want to spend our life with. However, what one preconceived never turns out the way you want to go as the questions one continually asks on a day to day basis primarily stay the same; but the answers keep changing. It's a frustrating situation indeed for every person to experience disappointments that cause a person to become absolutely jaded to the point where love is simply a four letter word that has no meaning behind or emotion behind it. Let me share something with you that you may not know, it's not just you that feels that way; everybody feels that way.

There comes a point for every person, including myself, that maybe life would be better off single because you have absolute freedom to do what you want and go wherever you want without answering to someone else. For one can say that life is a lot less stressful without having to deal with someone else's wants and needs. To be perfectly honest, it's hard enough trying to fulfill your own wants and needs but it's doubly tough when you are trying to fulfill someone else's wants and needs that you are trying to get to know. Yet, when one witness couples walking hand in hand and giving each other that look of peaceful contentment it makes any person yearn to have someone in his or her life.

Essentially, for any woman, the commonality that each share is finding all the answers in that one guy who is everything she ever wanted and more. It's that guy who will actually sit and listen to everything that you say. It's that guy who treats you how you should be treated, which is a lady. It's that guy who will talk to you and treat you like one of his friends. It's that guy who will give you personal space knowing that you had a whole other life before you met him. For it is a quality that shows a deep and utmost respect for you as he lets you live your own life, plus it's essential for your own sanity that being together all the time can make you want to kill each other.

Undeniably, I want nothing more than to be seen as the guy who hopefully has all the questions answered for some women out there. I want to be that guy who sends flowers to her at work just to show how I am thinking of her. I want to be that guy who tells her she is absolutely beautiful when she doesn't think so. I want to be that guy that will look into her eyes and say, meaning behind it, I love you. I want to be that guy who will stay with her when she is sick knowing that I may get sick myself. I want to be that guy who knows the feeling of having someone love me back. But most of all, I want to be the guy who can truly say that just to my friends that I have found "the one" that completes me and I am going to marry her.

Someone once said, ~Love is the answer to the final question you ask.~ In retrospect, when someone asks you life's most simplest questions, the best response is to give simple answers. Yet, when it comes to love the most simple question of whether you are falling for someone can get pretty complicated to answer. Each and every one of us has been in a situation where you have this inner struggle between what your heart says and what your head says. A friend recently told me when it comes to love, don't let your head decide for you, let your heart decide for you and it will make all the difference. In the end, after looking into my own heart the answer to the final question that I have continually asked myself is....that I have no clue what the answer is and I may never know.