Just Gotta Believe

Let me ask you this question, have you ever felt insecure about yourself when situations in your life tend to embarrass and overwhelm you? Each and every one of us has our own insecurities to deal with that one doesn't want to reveal to friends, family, and/or significant other because it might give a whole new perception of how they see you. If you think about it, we all have perceptions of people who we know or are in the public eye and think he or she doesn't have any insecurities; but that thought is oftentimes dead wrong. Initially, every person struggles with certain insecurities that every person goes through in life and, in a way, its nice to know that its just not you who feels the same way.

Unquestionably, the underlying insecurity most women have is the issue of weight. You see, there has been an overwhelming focus, especially in Hollywood, to be a thin which drives women and even young girls to go to extremes to attain the body they truly want. On such extreme is anorexia, which is an unhealthy and dangerous eating disorder that causes serious damage both mentally and physically. For the seeds of insecurity are planted by reality television, Hollywood, rail thin models, magazines which promote perfect bodies with no imperfections. It's a sad situation indeed when a woman looks in the mirror and sees an overweight person; but when other people look at her she's in perfect shape.

In any case, there comes a point when a person's height can become an insecurity and more often than not, guys feel they can never measure up, in a manner of speaking. It's another deluded mindset that all women are looking for tall, dark, and handsome guys, which is a criteria that the vertically challenged may fall short when interested in a particular female. Personally speaking, I'm 5 '3 and I used to feel that I would never be seen as boyfriend material because of my short stature. It wasn't until a good friend of mine told me this statement: ~A woman, who is truly interested in you, won't see how tall or short you are; but rather how big of a heart you have inside which, in turn, will have her seeing a giant among men.

Without a doubt, a person can have insecurities about love, falling in love, and being in love. There are countless insecurities that both guys and girls have, such as bad breath. Good smelling breath is always key for two people who spend much of their quality time with their faces two inches from each other. Another insecurity which women, more so than guys, feel insecure about is releasing a potentially potent gas from one's rear end. Women, we'll hold it and not release that bad boy until she isn't in the proximity of people she knows. Guys, on the other hand, have no insecurities about it and will do it in front of people, which is a quality that makes us moronic but you love us anyway even though you are embarrassed.

Audrey Beth Stein once said, ~Deep down, beneath all our insecurities, beneath all our hopes for and beliefs in equality, each of us believe we’re better than anyone else. Because its our beliefs that are right, our doubts that are allowable, our fears which are legitimate.~ For the most part I don't necessarily agree that we are better than anyone else. What I do think is that each of us share the same insecurities but have different reasons as to why he or she feels that way about himself or herself. In retrospect, whether it's weight, height, or love there will always be something in life that will cause us to be insecure. In the end, you just gotta believe that you will be strong enough to get past those insecurities that hold you back from someone you want to be with or the person you always wanted to be.