First Time For Everything

Someone once said, ~Falling in love for the first time is easy. It's the second time around, after you had fallen and trusted someone to catch you for the first time and they didn't, when it becomes difficult to let yourself fall in love again.~ Essentially, we really never forget that guy or girl who started one's heart beating harder and faster to the point where it will be changed for better or for worse. If you think about it, it's that guy or girl that is usually the basis for one's timeline of either successful or failed relationships. Did that person ever change your perspective on other potential and/or significant relationships after being with him or her? Let me ask you this question, do you remember your first love?

Its a funny thing about a first love, one tends to never really get over that person because he or she was a very instrumental part of your life. It's that first guy or girl who opened your eyes to a whole new world; a world that one has never been or has been in, but not fully experienced it. Its a dynamic that is somewhat uncomfortable at first but you get used to it because he or she, in a way, helped bring you out of your shell. Due to his or her influence, you tend to give specific guys or girls with that person's hair color a second look. We all have our preferences as some like blondes, others redheads; but for a person like myself I'm a brunette/dark black hair kind of guy because it brings out the mysteriousness in a woman.

Yet, as with first love, things will happen that will have two people grow apart, but it's because of that person you, in a way, can thank him or her for helping you cross over into the next stage of your life with someone else. A sort of stepping stone, in a manner of speaking, from a young, immature kid to a mature, grown adult where you will learn what being in a relationship is truly all about. For its within that relationship you couldn't say anything bad about him or her because that person helped you grow within yourself. Each of us has someone like this in our lives that one can call, email, instant message, or personally talk to who you share a special and valuable friendship with.

Undoubtedly, we all have a story of the one that got away. It's that person, who when one spent time with, you basically imagined yourself growing old and having kids with him or her. Initially, it's that guy or girl who you spent more time with than your friends and family combined to the point where both of you were absolutely inseparable. Thinking about it, it's that person who is oftentimes portrayed as "out of your league" and yet he or she ends up with you, which can be mind blowing for you and anyone else. Consequently, he or she will always be in your thoughts and one will be reminded of how he or she made life that much more liveable. For a special place will and always be made in one's heart for that person who when you reflect back, you think to yourself what could have been.

Rosemary Rogers said, ~First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever." In retrospect, when it comes to first love, one rarely ever focuses on the bad memories but rather the good ones. Though it may hurt to look back, it's a good kind of hurt that makes you smile, laugh and cry all at the same time. Nobody will ever compare with your first love as you experience a plethora of emotions and situations that were absolutely new to you. Ultimately, there is a first time for everything as you experience all the same emotions and situations that come with falling in love; but with someone new and under a different set of circumstances.